So last night, myself and another girl were asked to leave a D&D game, before it even started, because the DM (another woman) didnāt like how we looked. Both of us were made up, hair done, cute outfits, with a lot of pink D&D accessories. She assumed we were veryĀ āfeminineā so that we could flirt with all the guy players, and try to get advantages, or distract them. We were told we had to change intoĀ ānormalā clothes (t-shirts or sweatshirts), andĀ āuncake our facesā. We both left but became really good friends really quickly afterward.
I talked about this in a few select social media places after it happened, and something unexpected started when I woke up this morning. A lot of women had contacted me with stories of similar things, from both male and female DMs. Itās now 1:30PM here, and Iāve talked to 29 women, all with their own experiences that all fell under this particular umbrella.
Their experiences included:
- Being talked to like theyāre a bimbo by everyone at the table.
- Having one or more guys at a table want toĀ āhelp themā play, despite having even more game experience than they did.
- Being blatantly ignored by other female players.
- Having their character hit on endlessly by most of a table.
- Being hit on themselves, despite sayingĀ āno thank youā or showing obvious disinterest.
- Being touched a lot, either on the arm, shoulder, back, or in more inappropriate places by male gamers.
- Being told theyāreĀ ātrying too hard to be a womanā, included trans women being told this by other women.
- Having the DM solely target their character in battles and with traps, after turning the DM down for a date or affection, and not stopping until the character is dead.
- Having it insisted upon them that they have to change theirĀ āgirlyā dice, bags, binders, clothing, etc toĀ āfit inā.
- Being told they arenāt aĀ āreal nerdā,Ā āreal gamerā,Ā āreal geekā,Ā āreal fanā because they donāt fit theĀ ālookā ā this is the most common one I heard.
- Being told by a table full of guys that their below-10 roll was in factĀ ārolling like a girlā.
- And of course, theĀ āgold diggerā argument. That a woman who glams herself up before a game is clearly only hunting for the nerdy guy who also makes a lot of money, and who is pretending to like these things to get at his bank account. 12 separate women told me this one, each of them were kicked out of their games with this being the explanation. None of them dated or flirted with anyone at the table at any point.
The common theme here was that all of these were public play games, either at gaming stores, or at conventions. You have to sit at a table with people you donāt know, and one would expect at least common human decency here, but instead this sort of thing happens. Itās not okay for people to be treated this way by anyone, for any reason, and I was mortified by the sheer amount of women coming forward to share in such a short period of time.
So I worked away at this picture, as I express myself in really dumb fashion sketches.Ā
Itās the club jacket for our Glam Girl Gamer Gang.Ā
Girls of all types, from all backgrounds, all sizes, all places in life deserve to be respected as a fellow player. THIS INCLUDES ALL GIRLS WHO LIKEĀ āSTEREOTYPICALLY FEMININEā THINGS.
IT IS FUCKING 2017 WHY IS THIS STILL AN ISSUE YOU DINGBATS
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