myself and mydog

28, any pronouns, nonbinary, ace. if you are uncomfortable with something I post or need it to be tagged just let me know. I post about things I like and not much else. this blog is as nsfw occasionally. you can donate to my Ko-fi if you like what I do: https://ko-fi.com/rocketdog96

[scorpionlafemme]

[myjusticecake]

You can begin this process at any time, regardless of how old you have become.

[vomitpartyart]

Ali, Ollie, Oxen in: Hare Cut

[babushkaat]

[vfeioa]

[icecream-noodle]

Made a gif for this :3

[letsdontdie]

Put them in less stressful situations!!

[spuds-n-soup]

Launch my child

[justsomejal]

[bardjulus]

like i know gnomes are an invasive species but this feels a bit overkill to me

[deltacliff]

[meanbuddhist]

just identified a behavioral pattern within myself

[barbucomedie]

Parade Shield from Florence, Italy dated between 1380 - 1450 from Florence on display at the Victoria and Albert Museum in London, England

This rare shield would have been used for ceremonial purposes only. It boldly declares the identity of the Villani Family, who were wool merchants in Florence. Their arms dominate the surface, and when not in use the shield would have been put on display in their home.

Photographs taken by myself 2017

[kuttithevangu]

Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs

[kuttithevangu]

People in my notes who think I’m repressed or dissociating: you will feel better when you learn emotions are not a binary of Not Feeling It vs Being Overwhelmed By It

[blorbospinninhouseplant]

Ok but How Do I Do That

[kuttithevangu]

Self-regulation for adults: Strategies for getting a handle on emotions and behavior - Harvard Health

Learn strategies for enhancing self-regulation skills, and discover the benefits of mastering this essential life skill to help emotional dy

There are many techniques (also, there are drugs)

[blorbospinninhouseplant]

Thank you, but do you have any advice for teens?

[kuttithevangu]

So my FIRST piece of information if you’re still a teen is that genuinely as you get older it will get easier to regulate your emotions. During adolescence our brains are undergoing a lot of growth and change that genuinely does make it harder to do this, on a scientific level. However, practicing emotional regulation skills can still help a lot and if you can find something that works it will make life easier going forward

This page has more information and recommendations for some basic exercises:

Emotional Regulation for Teens: Strategies to Manage Intense Feelings

Discover effective strategies for teens to manage intense emotions, develop emotional awareness, and improve overall well-being. Expert tips

[odddogs]

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a very special little gumball machine spirited animal

[worstgirleva]

Male socialization is such an evil rhetoric. Yeah I guess not transitioning at the age of 5 is my fault and I'm evil for it. Yeah I guess not having the childhood I wish I did means I'm a danger and I should perpetually apologize for it

[worstgirleva]

you need to be aware of how people will find ways to misgender trans woman while having plausible deniability about it. wolf-disco on the comments repeatedly conflates womanhood with feminism by talking about how living as a woman makes you a feminist and the longer you have lived as a woman for the more feminist you are

so i guess every woman in history is a feminist? i guess feminism isn't a movement started in the 18th century, but simply something that all women have always been? are christian cis women who protest against abortion rights feminists?

thus according to them. feminism is a thing you build up while living as a woman and it just so happen that trans women have lived as women less, so i guess we have all less levels in feminism than all cis women!

and you notice how they repeatedly conflate womanhood with feminism. they are not saying trans women are less feminist, they are saying trans women are less women.

so what is feminism? well according to wolf-disco on the comments it's about being a woman. it has nothing to do with activism, it has nothing to do with fighting for women's rights, it has nothing to do with publishing feminist theory. it's literally all lived experiences and nothing more

[filmnoirsbian]

I love getting unaccompanied minors (kids flying alone) who so clearly just. Don't want to be here lol. Sometimes I get to know a little of their story, like their parents are divorced, or a family member died and they're heading to the funeral, but usually they just don't want to talk about it and that's fine. But I always treat the flight like it's a challenge to make them smile. I offer them snacks and soda but that's never enough, that's whatever, they could get those from an airport vending machine. Chump change. So then I tell the worst jokes. Just the most embarrassing, kindergarten teacher, annoying dad jokes you can think of. And those always get a groan, or a "Seriously??" And that's my in! Now I can say "Why, what's your idea of a good joke? No, come on hotshot, make your best joke, let's see it." And they hem and they haw but of course they eventually tell me their very best joke because kids are little competitive comedy goldmines. And it's always super funny, so I laugh, and that's where they slip up. Because you know what you almost always do when your joke successfully makes someone laugh? You smile. And I'm like. Gotcha. Rookie move. Now you're going to end up having a good time in spite of yourself. I win.

[filmnoirsbian]

Did this with an 11yo u.m. today and he said "What did the ghost say to the other ghost?" And I said "What?" "Nothing. Ghosts aren't real."

[filmnoirsbian]

I'm literally a flight attendant, offering snacks and drinks is my job

[this-is-a-name-dont-worry]

gshsjb

[beemovieerotica]

it's weird how there's this perception of OCD as the "cleanliness" disorder where people still consider OCD behaviors to be like, rooted in some rational and correct (but overshot) trajectory toward objectively sanitary conditions, if that makes any sense? like there was a reddit post about somebody's roommate who had an extremely biohazardous room and a few commenters mentioned that OCD might be a factor based on her other behaviors, and a bunch of non-OCD-havers were like "what??? but it's objectively not clean??? there's so much bacteria in there???"

like idk how to tell you that the disorder gives you disordered thinking. disordered thinking is not rational. and there are absolutely things that trigger 1 person with OCD but do not matter to another, because your OCD can latch on to literally anything.

[orcboxer]

OCD is easier understood as the anxiety loop disorder. You have the "obsessions," which are the concepts your anxiety fixates on, and then the "compulsions," which are the actions you take to alleviate that anxiety, and the problem is that once you do the compulsion, your brain doesn't actually let go, it just waits a minute and then repeats the thoughts of anxiety, forcing you to do the compulsion all over again.

One example is, if you've experienced a break-in, and you have OCD, you might keep checking the door locks over and over, because what if you missed something and you were wrong and the door isn't actually locked. This could go all night long if it's a severe enough case. Hence, OCD is often called the "doubting disorder."

If you don't fixate on the concept of contamination, you probably won't be particularly neat or clean. Hell, even if you are fixated on that particular anxiety, you can still end up with a disgusting living space, because, for instance, you might get stuck cleaning the same drain over and over because what if it has mold and you weren't thorough enough, and you get so fixated on the drain that you end up neglecting the expired food in your fridge. It doesn't make sense, you're afraid of mold but you got a fridge full of it, because your brain won't stop blaring alarms about the mold in the sink specifically. And you're fully aware it's irrational, which is probably the most maddening part.

It's like a crazy loud fire alarm that goes off and won't stop until you leave the house; you know damn well there's no fire, but it's much easier to just leave the house every thirty minutes for no reason than it is to try to go about your business with that earsplitting alarm. Unfortunately that's an exhausting way to live and you'll end up neglecting yourself in a lot of ways.

[escuerzoresucitado]

Pedestrian traffic lights

[dogpuppy]