Book Review: Normal People by Sally Rooney
âIn school she had believed herself to be above such exchanges of social capital, but her college life indicated that if anyone in school had actually been willing to speak to her, she would have behaved just as badly as anyone else. There is nothing superior about her at all.â
âNormal Peopleâ by Sally Rooney gained mythic status by the time I nipped into Waterstones to read it. Touted as the âthe great millennial novelâ it has been discussed and dissected in every newspaper and literary journal from top to end. I was wary, when I finally opened the book, that the hype would ruin my enjoyment.Â
I read Normal People a week and a half ago. It still sits with me. I keep thinking about certain sentences and scenes, playing them over and over again in my head. I havenât felt this way about a book for a long time.Â
There is nothing millennial about âNormal Peopleâ other than the fact that its protagonists are millennials. They use social media, their conversations are laced with social justice discourse and light touch socialism. Both protagonists grapple with mental health as part of their normal lives. Apart from that, this is a love story.Â
Connell and Marianne meet in school. Heâs popular and well liked, she isnât. Connell is from a working class family and his mother cleans Marianneâs home. Marianneâs brother and mother are abusive while Connellâs mother is warm and friendly. They are both whip smart. One night, after a conversation in Marianneâs kitchen, they kiss. Soon they are having a secret ârelationshipâ (if one can call it that) in secret. It is sexual but deeper than that. Neither character is sure how they feel about it.Â
Marianne and Connellâs relationship is the centre of the book. They get together, they fall apart, the get together, they stay together then they fall apart again. Both characters grapple with the edges of their being, unsure of who they are and what they want.Â
Marianne thinks she is unlikable. Her entire personality is driven by her desire to have the people around her confirm what she wants to think about herself. âShe felt confined inside one single personality, which was always the same regardless of what she said.â Later she tells Connell, âI canât make people love me.â
Connell is torn between two versions of himself. He is guided by what people think of him and hates it. He remarks at one point that he doesnât define himself but lets himself be defined by the people around him. He loves Marianne. He also loves her because she validates him.Â
âAt times he has the sensation that he and Marianne are like figure-skaters, improvising their discussions so adeptly and in such perfect synchronisation that it surprises them both. She tosses herself gracefully into the air, and each time, without knowing how he's going to do it, he catches her."
It isnât clear whether the relationship between Connell and Marianne is healthy or not. They clearly love each other, they see each other the way they want to be seen but there is something twisted at the heart of it. They have power over each other but it isnât clear where it lies. Marianne wants to please Connell but she knows that she can make Connell do what she wants. He likes the way she makes him feel. He likes the power he has over her.Â
I feel like Marianne and Connell seek each other out so they can emotionally grow to be the people they want to be. Their relationship is about growing up and learning to be happy, unstrapping the past and the image we have ourselves. There are rules in life and nobody every tells you what they are. You spend most of your life trying to figure them out. When you get there, you become a normal person.Â
This is a fantastic read. Your children will have to write essays about it in University. It isnât just a chin stroking Man Brooker Prize piece but a great page turner.Â