I don't even know what I'm doing

I post whatever I see on my dash that I find interesting. Huge video game nerd and aspiring writer. White/Hispanic, Cis, Heterosexual,Male, Aspie (not self-diagnosed).

[maxxie-or-smth]

what's a little sadomasochism between friends

[dailybayonetta]

Bayonetta 2 + Jeannie in uniform

[what-even-is-thiss]

On the local news today they said that they caught a guy who was attacking people with a sword.

Bad for the people who were injured obviously but how often do you see sword crime these days?

[i-suggest-larp]

Do you want to see more sword crime? 👀

[ciqqy]

i'm no david lynch but I know peak when I see it, twin

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[miraclemaya]

stealing a pushie from you and a week later i send you a video of your plushie doing a cross eyed double peace sign and reading off a peace of paper about how it doesn't care about you anymore and loves me

[miraclemaya]

people are saying this is the cruelest post i have ever made

[probuccalfat]

avoidance is lowkey funny because it’s like i don’t want love on the off chance that it gets taken away from me and then i have to become john wick or something

[probuccalfat]

we’re all on the only social media that matters and this is why.

[charl0ttan]

is it good if this is the best praise you could have used for your movie commercial

[shrimpbackshin]

[dogpuppy]

[haido]

KINGDOM HEARTS IV

[haido]

There you go, Ben explains why it’s broken

[taydaughter]

it actually makes me so sad and angry when people deny their fave blorbo could possibly be a sadist like whats wrong with sadism did sadism do something problematic

[toskarinfr]

I think the twitter format of "what opinion has you like THIS?" has potential that's stifled by everyone using the same image all the time of a guy surrounded by various swords and blades. when we break free of disney's gravity we'll have an entirely new vector of discussion open to us

[toskarinfr]

Gamers: what The Silmarillion opinion has you like THIS?

[jennaflare]

oh wonderful i will get some mileage out of this as a new reaction image

[lethalwizard]

[balimaria]

WE MISSED YOU SORA!!!

[punksalmons]

the thing about writing is that it's very hard unless you have to leave the house in 15 minutes or perhaps go to bed

[boccher]

gyaru isekai backrooms pussy

[nacht---hexe]

I Was Reborn in Another World as a Mega-Hot JK Gyaru but It Turns Out I'm Stuck in the Endless B×ckrooms and I Need to Have ××× to Survive!? Bitchrooms Adventure Begin!!

[kcdeliverance]

KINGDOM HEARTS IV