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Eye Spy With My LITTLE I...
Are you looking at me? As I walk down the street, as I sit on the bus, as I work at my desk? Why do I feel like someone is always staring at me? Do other women feel like this too? What about men? Do they feel like this?
I find that I always find myself wondering who am I getting ready for… cause it doesn’t seem to be myself. I look good, or try to make myself look good simply to ‘please’ everyone that will just be so unfortunate to possibly see me. But then there are those days that I do go out and I say to myself, yes, you can stare at me today, because today I know that I look good and I have no problem with you staring.
Why should I feel the need to justify myself in my appearance. If I looked bad, would I WORRY about what others think of me? ‘Oh my! How is that girl dressed, she looks like ( insert what I look like here).’ I know the answer is yes, and it bothers me to know that. But it also sadly comforts me in a way to know that I am probably not the only one that is like this, for I live in a society that is focusing on image, and sex appeal, and if people look for it in ever creature that walks by them or passes their gaze it’s not really their fault now is it. But the reality of it is that although it starts with not being misjudge by males it also plays into the not being misjudged by fellow females. But the females for some reason think along the same lines as the males. Of course what they do with this information is completely different.
The male gaze defines the female gaze, and although the interpretation comes out totally different, most ‘decent’ women tend to want to try and not fall under a certain male gaze for fear of what that my ‘turn them into’ in the rest of peoples gazes. Why everyone is so influenced by the male gaze though should be the real question.
There are moments when you miss someone so much, that you imagine wrapping your arms around them and hugging them with all your heart.
Brigitte Nicole
Born With What?
Vogue magazine, Cover Girl, Seventeen, Revlon, People magazine, Oprah, Womens World, W network, Sex in the City, Candice Tells All, The Shopping Channel.
What do all of these things have in common? They mostly target a female audience. What else? They are mostly created and advertised to please a man. Okay maybe not DIRECTLY but if you read between the lines or… um between the messages you’ll usually find that each of these things is telling a women how she should be, and what she should do. But they never directly tell you WHY these things should be done, or why one should look like that. In order to raise your confidence. No… I beg to differ. In order to look good. Um… and who are you to define what ‘look good’ means? Its essentially to make you into that the male society wants you to be. And the females of that society don’t realize that them WANTING and PROMOTING this image isn’t for themselves it is really because the men that have surrounded them in their lives, and the past generation (which was strongly influenced by none other than men) feel that is the Proper way for one to come across.
Therefore these ads are very sneaky. ‘Maybe she’s born with it, maybe its Maybelline.’ Now why exactly is what Maybelline providing what we want the young and older women in our society to feel as though they SHOULD have been born with it, and since they are not they now must compensate for it by using Maybelline.
How can we honestly say than any of these products, such as make-up or clothes are what we need in order to be accepted? Shouldn’t what’s inside, what we are REALLY born with, what we have learned, and how we interact with people be the real reason that we are accepted. What someone tells me is proper, only in appearance should not be the main focus of me, or her, or you, or any random person, as a person
There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work and learning from failure
Colin Powell
unreal extreme imaginary
Imagine a world where everything you see is real! The reason I say imagine is because many people FORGET that that is not possible. Our world has become so extreme in both good and bad ways that we are starting to expect more of ourselves and each other and forget what is really realistic, and a part of our capabilities.
When we watch movie, or television show, or even pornography, we are exposed to extremes. The perfect family, the not so perfect family, perfect sex, perfect hair, and perfect make-up flawless features. And this is all regardless of what has been taking place around them. In the movie “Transformers” 1 or 2 never once did we see her with her make up smudged or scars on her face even after we clearly witnessed her in the midst of a battle! Now how unfair is that. I know that after I go to a party and its been sweaty and intense, my make-up does not look or even feel as good as when I first entered that party… and that’s just the reality of it.
In other instances we see extremes that make us feel good, like the relationships we see on television. How can someone treat their children like that, I don’t treat my child that way therefore I must be a good parent. Or im not doing what that person is doing therefore I must be better than them. The point of these show portraying negative circumstances is not so that we can boost about how much better we do things, its to show that not everyone has it as easy as others and that they are learning to cope with these things as best as they can.
It is important for us to realize that the media has been trying to hyper-realize everything that we see, therefore making us think that what we want is normal, and that our standards (which they have created for us) is proper.
If people don’t like what they see then they shouldn’t be looking in the first place it’s that easy
Anonymous
Once a women always a women? I think not...
When you hear the word women, what pops into your head? Curves, sexy, reproduction, long hair, clean, healthy, mother, classy, and desirable to name a few. But today is that all that defines a women? The obvious answer is no, a women is not only defined by her reproductive organs, her curves or her sex appeal, she is also defined by her drive, determination and power. Now a days women also hold positions of power as well as positions of labour thought to be soley ‘reserved’ for the stonger gender aka. Males. Now its move aside males because a new women has just strolled into town.
This new women is fooling everyone with her attractive good look, charm, wit and a vast majority of skills she possesses. Superwomen all in all, she still is able to perform the traditional duties but does not fear testing out the waters and giving her male colleagues a run for their money.
More confident and knowledgeable, this women has the potential to be an executives of a big corporation as well as a loving and caring mother. Now how could she get any better than that?
Oh wait; she can be a perfect match for the men in the society as well. This women is every man’s desire, well the ones that desire women anyways and the ones that don’t she can be their best friend with the best advice and fashion sense possible. Any women that’s not a new women will envy her, and strive to be like her… or maybe not even try due to the high standard that she is now presenting. Now I shall ask again… HOW could she get any better than that?
Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no trouble, noise, or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.
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All we do is Want, Want, Want no matter WHAT!
Do you ever feel like all nothing can make you happy? All that you do is want, want, want, want, want and more want? Once one want has been completed you think you are satisfied, until something new arises and you realize that having this new want would make you even happier?
This is not only the case with products; it is like that with aspects of life as well. First wanting a good education, then wanting a steady relationship, then wanting a good permanent well-paying job, followed of course by marriage, then living with your wonderful partner in both of your house and then eventually having children and raising your family. Those are just the basic LIFE wants that many people have in common.
Then of course there are the health wants. Wanting to be healthy and live a long life, have a healthy family, not have to worry about any severe illnesses. Is it really innate for us to never be satisfied with what we have? Of course we see that there are those that are less fortunate than us and yes we are grateful for the lives that we have but still… that doesn’t stop us from wanting, and needing to attain a certain want in order to be ‘happy’.
Now there are also those individuals and I’m pretty sure that everyone has had these desires multiple times in their lives, that we want something materialistic. I want that new phone, I want that brand new house, I want a new laptop, or I want a new car... and why? Just because we think that it will make things easier, more functional in short a five letter word. H-a-p-p-y. And yes, these things can help make things easier, they can help be more functional and they can make one happy, but it is silly to rely on them to make us ‘eternally happy’. I mean nothing can do that right… except maybe (insert endless possibilities here)!
The world is a dangerous place. Not because of the people who are evil; but because of the people who are good and don't do anything about it.
Albert Einstein
What Women Want!
Today, its year 2012 and we, as in women, have reached heights we could only have dreamed off 100 years ago. Thanks to 4 different women, our society’s ideals on women have drastically changed.
From being the in home, care taking, uneducated, mother, ‘servant’, chef to being the both in and out of home women, who had rights, and had a say in her daily activities. These were great times for us women, and it is important to remember that without persistence womenhood would not be as we know it to be today.
Of course after women had pushed through and reached a desirable spot they wanted more. The need to be treated as an equal grew for them and finally it was achieved, but then something happened. We, as women, somehow changed the way that we are viewed, or should I say, the way we are viewed as women has changed and we strive to follow this standard blindly.
Sexualization of our gender has become so prominent in our society, and although we do not agree with it, we give off the impression that we do agree with it. We didn’t fight this hard to get away from being portrayed negatively to being portrayed positively just to be put back and portrayed negatively again? Now some people may not think that being considered a sexual object is a ‘negative’ perspective, but it certainly is not a positivist one.
Women, are not a small population, yet we are letting the ‘big guys’ dictate what we should be. If we stand together once again, we can become the confident, mature yet still sexy PEOPLE that we want to be. Because let’s face it, femininity has, and always will have attribute relating to appearance and appeal, but that’s not the only thing that should be focused on when we have proven that we are capable of so much more!
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Maria Robinson
If I were a rich Woman!
If we look back 50 years from today we will see that the expectations for each gender were not the same as they are today. Today’s generation does not restrict either gender to do certain things. However, having a baby, wearing make-up, and dressing in a certain manner are still considered to be attributes majorly associated with one over the other.
The change in the times shows us that our society has become more knowledgeable and acceptable of people in general. Of course there are still expectations, and there are still ‘standard’ jobs but not following in the footsteps of our forefathers isn’t as outrageous as it would have been in previous times.
But certain things of the past, such as status and class have also changed… high class, low class, middle class do not hold the same meaning anymore and for one to ‘dress’ to impress may not necessarily mean that they are dressing highly… depending on who they are trying to impress.
The magazines may show executive women or men, to advertise that their clothing is meant for the high class, but the way these people are portrayed in these magazines doesn’t make them look like high class individuals, and they are not only yearned for by high class individuals. It gives a wrong impression to people of lower education that classes only mean that sexuality is more excepted and more emphasized.
The new woman should have a different image than that, and until women start to create these images publicly the impression people have of them is not going to change.
If you're not actively involved in getting what you want, you don't really want it.
Peter McWilliams
Privacy PLEASE!
It seems that everywhere we look there is always someone talking about someone else, or gossiping, always wanting to know something new something juicy. “OMG did you see her picture?” “Are you going to that party tonight?” “He did what?!” “There is no way those are real!” But what is the point of knowing all this information and why do so many people feel the need to share it? Do I really need to know that your bus took a wrong turn and that you are now going to be late for a class, or that something smells really strange and you can’t figure out what it is, or that you are super stressed about all the things that are going on in your life so you are going to vent about it using social media. The truth is no, no one really NEEDS to know these thing and personally I think some things should remain more private.
Its also very strange how many people complain that there are so many nosy people out there, always invading and trying to get in everyones business, but seriously, if you don’t want people in your business then don’t publically post it! It’s as simple as that.
Of course there are certain things that you do want to expose and put out in the public… you’re pregnant! That’s great, congratulations! Everyone that knows you is really happy for you… or at least that’s what you think when you read all of the “omg that’s great news,” “congrats,” “when are you due?,” “do you think you are gonna find out the sex?”, “make sure to post progress pic of that baby belly!” The people that really need to know the answers to these questions will, because they are probably people that you are close with or someone that is going to stay in touch with you. And if they want to see your baby bump then maybe they should pay you a visit rather than just looking at the pictures you post.
It’s funny though. We have doors to keep our houses and rooms closed, because we ‘want privacy’ but we are willing put our whole life story on the internet, in my opinion that’s a complete contradiction. Get rid of publicizing your life to strangers and those that you want privacy from might just surprise you and give it to you.
I don't know the secret to success, but I know for sure the secret to failure: Trying to please everyone...
Bill Crosby
