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[ratherembarrassing]

@ratherembarrassing lives!!!

I'm so shook I'm kind of crying a little bit at work. a bunch of people messaged me about it but i've had zero contact from tumblr so I guess I'll never know why this happened. for anyone else who got their account suspended, here's what I did:

spent 9 months sending support requesting to tumblr

no response

in that time, tumbles got bought my automattic

contact automattic

get a response immediately... telling me to contact tumblr

post to twitter about this at 3am australian time, @ing both companies

account reinstated in less than 8 hours

I'm gonna go do some more crying from happiness now

[ratherashleigh]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I don't know what I'm going to do about this blog but I'm obviously going back my home. Come on over, I'll transfer follows and sort the rest out tomorrow. I'M GOING HOME!!!!!!

[occidentaltourist]

That person sounds like a troll or maybe a misinformed teenager? Of course my life doesn't reflect other peoples lives, but as a 30+ woman whose had her fair share of friendship tribulations and as someone who's had some psychological issues similar to Lena's, it's pretty much like that. You feel like you are the only person on your side, on your best days, that is. It does feel like losing your ground. This season has been really hard to watch. I know a lot of people don't relate, though.

I always want people to feel comfortable visiting this blog and with the conversations we have here. I hope folks are finding the exchange to be worthwhile, though the initial wording of the ask was quite jarring. 

Between wanting Lena to just get over herself on one end and condoning Lena’s actions on the other, there’s a middle ground of empathy. :) I may be wrong, but I think it’s possible to side eye Lena’s actions without discounting the validity of what she’s feeling.

[ratherashleigh]

funnily enough, i think that's exactly what the show wants, and fandom as usual cannot find that middle ground.

[drunklenaluthor]

[hellenhighwater]

I see a lot of people who tell young people–especially young people who are heading into college–that they should “do what they love.” And they’re right. You should do what you love.

But there’s a world of difference between doing what you love for you, and doing what you love for a paycheck. 

I went to undergrad for graphic design and 3-D design–art and more art, I usually say–and I loved it. You know what I didn’t love? Trying to collect my fees from clients. Trying to meet unrealistic, over-simplified or over-specific briefs from people who didn’t know what they were talking about. Coming home, having worked creatively all day, with no creative juice left for the things I wanted to do.

You know what I would tell you instead? Do something that you can be interested in, with people you like.

You don’t have to love it. Loving your work can be a lot, and it often means you have to live in your job 24/7. Some people can do that. Not everyone can, or should.  But if you can find work that’s interesting enough that it doesn’t feel tedious, and people you can enjoy spending your 9-5 with, and you can make money, that’s great! It means you can do the things you love for you.

I’m in law school now. It’s interesting work, and difficult, and I like doing it. I like how complicated it gets, and I like the stories it tells. But I don’t come home and read law journals for fun. I come home, and I sculpt, and I draw, and I paint, and I read. I do these things for me.

And I love it. 

[shimmeringecho]

Gods I wish I’d had this ten years ago when everyone was pushing for me to do art for a living. Probably wouldn’t have burned out as hard as I did

[sabertoothwalrus]

Once when I was high school a teacher from another school came into our class and talked about stuff like this. He said instead of trying to get a job you love, find a lifestyle you love.

He said he had no aspirations to be a teacher. His passion is surfing. But the reason he loves teaching is because he can go surfing every weekend, because there’s no school. And he’s free during the summer and holidays to spend time with his family.

[art-res]

Good food for thought. This is why I don’t study art in college even though I LOVE it. I also don’t want someone grading me for my direct expression, but it’s more bc I want to have a job that gives me the option to do art as a hobby with financial security. Obviously this isn’t to say being a pro artist is bad or anything, but think long and hard about ALL of your options.

[katiebishop]

[ratherashleigh]

‪i have an 81 page document with 241 paragraphs, all of which have at least two reference documents and i have to review like 75% of them and and comment and i’m only halfway done with the task but i’m the whole way done with giving a shit‬

[ratherashleigh]

today has been an exciting day in the world of desk doodles

[ratherashleigh]

#ive never met a situation that called for that first attitude - ok but one of my fave posts by you ever was the one where you prefaced like this fucking academic paper of a post with "thank you for the opportunity to expand upon my point at length because i'm not wrong. like. life changing.

HAHA I KNOW EXACTLY WHICH POST THAT WAS, I LOVE THAT POST.

[ixnayxg33]

The saddest part of this Supercorp Rift Saga is that Lena can't even listen to the angsty breakup playlist she made in high school because it has Bye Bye Bye by NSYNC on it and it reminds her of Kara

Lena“I can’t even have angsty break up bops, Kara!!!” Luthor 😤😤

BUT then againnnn… once her and Kara make up, she knows the perfect way to get Kara from lying to her ever again

[osointricate]

Sometimes you gotta be like “it’s a tv show” and just step away

And other times you’ve gotta be like “no” and write half a million words to prove you know better

[swingsetindecember]

tv shows with time travel organizations/bureaus/police/agencies/whatever should have a department with instead of a tech genius eating candy, it’s a harried seamstress or fashion designer who is like

“1450 italy? does it look like I have the time to dye you wool? nO. YOU’RE GOING TO THE 1980s”

and throws shoulder pads at the hapless time agent

[nonlinear-nonsubjective]

“I literally made three- THREE- 18th century corsets last week. You can wait until one of them gets back, or you can go sometime post-1920s, because if I have to sew one more god damn channel I will literally lose my mind.”

“Upper middle class?!?!? You told me upper class! FUCK YEAH THERE’S A DIFFERENCE!!!”

“How about kimoNO.”

“Look me in the eyes. I do not care what you want. This is the 1500s. You absolutely cannot wear trousers.”

“Another court gown?? Here’s a novel idea: go as a peasant for once in your life. Why do you do this to me? You’re fucking sadists that’s why.”

“Don’t mind me, I’ll just be up all night hand painting silk.”

“THE POLICY IS ONE MONTH’S ADVANCE NOTICE ON PRE-1900s WOMEN’S FASHION FOR A REASON, DEBRA.”

[ratherashleigh]

me, every damn day: I just want to get home from work with enough energy and will to live to make something that I want to make

[therewasholyground]

Taylor Swift for British Vogue 2019

[localsapphicperson]

x

lmao i never noticed that kara and lena did this at the fortress of solitude i- fjdkdjn these dramatic gays just need to kiss already

[saudi-lolo-deactivated20190325]

first rule: make her laugh.

[diver5ion]

Lena & Her Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

[heraldofevolution]