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I'm going to go out in public and growl at strangers just to feel something. Grrrr. There's Normies out there. They'll never understand me. I'm FUCKED in the MIND!!! I'M FUCKED IN THE MIND!!!! Also happy pride month everybody :)
Saturday afternoon pole updates.
So I think I’m reaching a real turning point! I feel like the reason i suck so bad is because my FORM is really bad all the time. And I’m slowly figuring out how to correct that? I feel like I could not do that before because every thing felt unfamiliar, I can’t think about all the different parts of my body and how they should move and flex all at once. Nothing was intuitive and still isn’t. Also I just straight up didn’t have the strength to maintain good form before. Like someone can correct my form, and as soon as I go to do the exercise, I drop the form and lurch. I literally couldn’t hold it and still struggle. But it’s all coming together. And I speculate that this is what happens every time I have ever tried anything physical. I lack the strength to maintain posture and form and it negates my ability to perform well. But I can feel that changing. I’m getting stronger all the time.
Today someone in class was totally a doppleganger of someone I’ve met in classes before, so I smiled at her when our eyes met, even though she had said this was her first time. I assumed she meant for her friend that she brought. Turns out, nope! It was not her lol which was totally fine she did not find out. She asked me “this wasn’t your first time, was it?” Implying that she was watching me and thought in some way that I was particularly prepared or familiar with the activity. If she didn’t think that way, I think she would have phrased it differently. It feels strange, but I am trying to take it as evidence that I don’t suck as much as I think I do. I’m choosing to believe she saw me and thought “that person knows what they’re doing” to some extent.
I bitch a lot about being terrible at pole, and how it isn’t fun. But I know that it will be. And it’s really the only thing that has inspired me (so far) to like long term be stronger. I can easily see myself feeling comfortable in the studio, giving new people pointers, chatting with teachers and long time dancers, even doing solos in showcases. I’m not trying to be presumptuous, this is just the normal pathway for me. I have a big personality, I like to feel comfortable and take up space, and I like to feel involved and step into things when other people don’t.
Maybe I’ll invite my little pole group chat out to the anime rave I’m going to tonight. I’m sure it’s not their scene, but maybe someone will want to go anyways.
Ok I’m starting to zone out. I need to go shower.
Of courrrseee as soon as I start bitching online about being bad at pole dancing and always being the worst in the room, I start going to classes where there’s actually several people at the same skill level as me! Finally!! It’s so reassuring to do stuff like half right and watch other people also do things half right and we’re all figuring it out together. And I’m not praying on their downfalls. I want us all to improve. But it decreases my blood pressure or see someone fumble with the same things I fumble with. It pays to go to different classes and meet different people. Although I will say…. I do not the fuck appreciate an over booked room… it was so overwhelming to be in a room of like 30 people and to not have enough poles. Like it just increases my stress naturally, and I don’t mind being in crowds. It’s just like. Oh shit we’re all doing this very fast paced unfamiliar warm up routine and there’s not a ton of room to move around 😬 AND MAYBE IM BEING ANNOYING ABOUT THIS BUT I just think that… we’re all here… paying a lot of money to use the studio…. We should be guaranteed a pole during class. I get that sharing poles does work functionally and encourages me to take breaks and not exhaust myself, which is good. And I want the class to be accessible to more people! But like… nobody likes to feel like they are not getting what they paid for. I’m torn between “overbooking a class is def greedy of the studio to do…” and “I mean I don’t want studio time to feel exclusionary, I like that more people have access to the class”. And I think both are valid things to feel.
But yes! I have left class not angry! I started angry haha and my instructor uhm was a little whack. The woman was wearing RINGS while gripping the pole, it was stressing me out 😬 but she’s one of the studio owners I think. So I guess she can do whatever she wants… idk but she had weird vibes and I did not like her, but I appreciated and respected her advice and guidance on certain things. Certainly helpful, and she did not have crazy expectations of those of us in level 1. Which was nice.
I even got to chat for a bit with another thicc thighed individual which was very nice, but we got cut off quickly, which is also okay. I… am going to see if I can maybe find a class at a different day of the week that is a little less crowded. I mean i won’t die or stop coming if all the night classes are like this. But I don’t love it. But I guess it is nice to not be sore and exhausted after class. Oh wait I forgot I did not get any meaningful sleep last night. I should go inside and eat dinner (pt 2) and shower.
TLDR class was good today and I am getting SO MUCH STRONGER YOURE ALL GOING TO SUCK MY DICK SOOON IM GUNNA BENCH PRESS BEAUTIFUL WOMEN TO ENTICE THEM TO DATE MEEEE JUST YOU WAIT AND SEE!!!
Since I’m here and blogging I might as well ramble some more I guess.
Maybe if I blog about my pole dancing experience then people who want to talk about it will find me T_T maybe
Ok cool I’ve learned 2 things in the past 15 minutes
1) there is functionally only 1 pole dancing blog to follow on tumblr so that’s fun
2) I see why… people are complaining about the tumblr ads. Wow. There just flat out isn’t a place on the internet that doesn’t trade user experience and app functionality for ad revenue. And I’m not against ads on tumblr, I know the site struggles to find ways to actually make money and self sustain, which is NEEDS to do. But Jesus Christ. Every app sucks so bad. Every app is soooo bad. It’s really awesome.
endlessly frustrating that whenever anyone is like 'i wish i could find a type of exercise i enjoy' swarms of people are always like 'clearly you have not tried the type of exercise *I* enjoy!' I'm there like no I have. it sucked.
my high school offered a pretty diverse range of Sports in PE so i have tried out a bunch of them. i did not enjoy them and was bad at literally all of them.
i also took some martial arts in school and hated it. i took it up only bcos my best friend was doing it and at all times was like 'i wish i was spending my lunchbreak doing Anything Else'. i was also bad at it.
before anyone is like 'well you don't have to be good at an activity to enjoy it-' yes you do. sorry. when it comes to Sports if you are bad enough at it, you simply do not get to access the fun part. for example: me and my best friend used to 'play tennis' together in PE lessons but we were both extremely bad at tennis so we would just take it in turns to serve the ball at each other over and over bcos neither of us could hit it back. this was not fun.
i did a lot of musical theatre extra curriculars including dance as a teen and this was probably the one i enjoyed the most but once you hit a certain age there is an Expectation that you will want to get good at it. i was not a good dancer and struggled a lot with memorising the routines. this was not fun. it is not fun doing an activity you are bad at while surrounded by people who are better at it than you.
i have had very mixed experiences with swimming bcos obviously as a child it was fun to like. play in a pool but school swimming lessons were deeply unpleasant. it is the one i would most like to take it up again but 1) there is just a tremendous amount of faff involved 2) it requires you to be in a state of Undress around a bunch of strangers and i don't want to do that.
essentially i think a major disconnect happening here is that not everyone experiences the Exercise Dopamine to the same extent? i don't feel good after exerting myself. i am just like well that sucked the whole time and i felt bad afterwards.
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A small personal ramble bc I want to say these words but I don’t want anyone to respond to them.
baseball interviewers will ask "how do you throw the ball so good" and Mariners players will casually drop that they have a headmate who plays the game for them
author of the croaker are u a they/he lesbian. also what are ur pronouns deadass i feel bad using the croaker’s pronouns for u when i might possibly be misgendering !!!
I am an Any Pronouns lesbian!!! Impossible to misgender me and yet writhe in my skin, unsatisfied!! This trait bleeds into all of my characters whether I want it to or not.. Dysphoria Georg. Sad!
Hi, person behind the muppet behind the joker. I hope you know that as much as we have brightened your life, you have brightened ours. We're all holding hands. Cliché to say, but you kinda inspired me to be more weird and I'm way happier. Frolic with us on Cares About You island.
YAYYYYYYY YAYYYY I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU HOLD HANDS WITH ME SPIN AROUND AND BE STRANGE AND ODD AND FULL OF FEELING BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT IT MEANS TO BE ALIVE!!!!! AHHHH GET WEIRDER!!!!! DO NOT REPRESS YOURSELF IT SUCKS!!!! FIND AN OUTLET ANY OUTLET IT CAN EVEN BE A SILLY BLOG!!!! FIND A CORNER OF THE WORLD WHERE YOU CAN BE ALIVE AND MAKE YOUR MARK AND WRITE "I WAS HERE, I WAS REAL"!!!!!!
Sometimes I think about how and why some people had such a *bad* reaction to the end of Steven Universe, specifically in regards to the Diamonds living.
Even though they no longer are causing harm to others and are able to actually undo some of their previous harm by living, some folks reacted as though this ending was somehow morally suspect. Morally bankrupt, even.
And I think it might be because so many of us were raised on a very specific kind of kids media trope:
They all fall to their deaths.
Disney loves chucking their bad guys off cliffs. And it makes sense- in a moral framework where villains *must* be punished (regardless of whether their death will actually prevent further harm or not), but killing of any kind is morally bad for the hero, the narrative must find a way to kill the villain without the protagonists doing a murder.
It's a moral assumption that a person can *deserve* to die, that it is cosmically just for them to die, that them dying is evidence that the story itself is morally good and correct. Scar *deserves* to die, but it would be bad for Simba to kill him. So....cliff.
Steven Universe, whatever else it's faults, took at step back and said "but if killing people is bad, then people dying is bad", and instead of dropping White Diamond off a cliff, asked "what would actual *restorative*, not punitive, justice look like? What would actual reparations mean here? If the goal is to heal, not just to punish, how do we handle those who have done harm?" And then did that.
Which I think is interesting, and that there was pushback against it is interesting.
It also reminds me of the folks who get very weird about Aang not killing Ozai at the end of Avatar. And like, Ozai still gets chucked in prison, so it doesn't even push back on our cultural ideas of punitive justice *that much.* and still, I've seen people get real mad that the child monk who is the last survivor of a genocide that wiped out his entire pacifist culture didn't do a murder.
Quick question: how do you do "restorative justice" for a man like Frollo who actively tries to commit a genocide?
Hitlers exist. They need killing.
There are other ways to remove a person's ability to wield political and social power to commit genocide than dropping them off the side of a burning building that are all just as effective.
I'd also like to point out that the idea that you can prevent a wholesale genocide by like, killing the RIGHT individual, is a rather...simplistic understanding of what causes genocide.
Frollo, to use him as the example, is a priest (in the book), and a judge (in the Disney movie.) He's not just a bad guy. He's an extention of the Catholic Church/The State (depending on which version you want to lean on here.) His power to do harm comes from his position within those institutions and the power of those institutions themselves. The persecution of the Roma people within France isn't because there was a bad guy, but because of those systems of power being used to kill the people that the church and the government wanted dead. Frollo getting dropped off a building wouldn't stop the persecution of the Roma in any world that isn't, maybe, a Disney film.
In the real world, it's very easy to hold up Hitler as the boogeyman. But if Hitler had died, but the war machine of Third Reich Germany hadn't lost the Battle of Berlin/the War as a whole, the Holocaust wouldn't have magically stopped just because 1 guy died.
Look. I'm not saying that there's never been a situation in the world where killing 1 guy wasn't the objectively best option in a high stakes, immediately dangerous situation. The world is full of Trolley problems and self defense situations and nuance and context.
But this post is about Restorative vs Punitive Justice *systems*, and about how many people, in general, start and end their analysis of Justice with "did the bad guy get killed?"
I would even argue that this mentality, where as long as you are sure in your heart that it will SAVE LIVES, killing people is just and good and shouldn't be questioned because some people are just bad- that mentality? Forms the core of Police killings in our culture. Justifies shooting first and asking questions never. Because once you decide that someone has done harm, they need to die for there to be Justice?
I dunno. I just think maybe as a society, we should be open to...other ideas on the matter.
i havent seen the lion king in years but im pretty sure scar doesnt fall off a cliff, he gets set upon by the pack of hyenas
1. The specificity of it being a death by falling isn't meant to be super literal. My point is more broadly about Disney villains getting deaths that leave the main hero essentially blameless for their deaths, while still feeling like justice was done because the bad guy dies.
Many Disney villain deaths ARE specifically by falling ( Gaston and Frollo are the most obvious examples, but theres more- Snow Whites Queen, Ratigan from the Great Mouse Detective, etc), or falling with a twist (Gothel from Tangled and Clayton from Tarzan come to mind). But sometimes it's a little more abstract- still a death that leaves the hero blameless, but not specifically a fall (Hades, Dr. Falcifer) Technically, it's not falling that kills them, but it fulfills the same trope.
2.
Scar absolutely fits category 2. He very dramatically falls off a cliff, in a parallel to Mufasa, and THEN gets eaten by hyenas. The fall is absolutely part of it.
The fact that *so many people* felt like this comment was the most interesting or relevant comment they could add to this discussion is....a little tiring.
Woke up at 2pm, slammed down a Morning After™️ pill with a delicious Redbull™️ and got my ass over to a Neopets meetup #swag
firm believer you can't be a ''good person''. too much niuance to life.
you can be good (adjective) but you cannot be good (identity)
if you think you are good (identity) you are more likely to cause harm as you don't consider yourself to be capable of it
That's a good distinction.
I think it also works with other "positive" traits.
You can be nice (adjective), but "nice" people tend to be too afraid of offending anyone to step up when needed.
You can be honest (adjective), but people who make being "honest" a part of their personality use it as excuse to be blunt (at best) or downright rude
You can be smart (adjective), but those who view themselves as "smart" (identity) tend to look down on others who don't know the same things as them
You can be brave (adjective), but "brave" (identity) people are often reckless
Basically, if you pin your self-worth and identity on a single/few specific traits, you're more likely to embody the negative aspects
Man. The "unalive" type of self-censorship may mostly be just perpetuating folklore? People are talking inanely just based on vibes on the great mighty algorithm?? Mannnn