For the men pursuing someone you like
Tell her you are not interested in just friendship and that you have a romantic interest in her. If she says no, walk away and never look back. If she has even a slight sexual and romantic interest in you and you stopped pursuing or talking to her, she will miss you and come back after it doesn’t work out with any other guy (which is highly probable because 99% of the guys she will meet don’t know how it works with women)
A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to pursue a woman to change her mind. We men have a logical mind. We think if we showcase that we are always there for her, profess our love even if she said she is not interested, she will change her mind or become her friend and try to be around and show her how great we are she will choose us. That’s what we see in the movies. I also used to think the same. It's all bullshit.
Contrary to the movie's logic, the reality is women's attraction doesn’t work that way. They get bored by stuff very easily. That’s why they go shopping all the time. If you always be in their face, never walk away, never give them space to miss you, they will lose interest very quickly.
Let a woman pursue you. She actually wants to. She likes it when a man doesn’t pursue yet has said that he wants her. It's weird but that’s how it works. They don’t want you to place them on a pedestal. If you do and do what she wants, she will see it as weakness and you are out of the running. That’s how God created women. They want to be with the most dominant male. Same as in nature. Do what you want (I mean don’t be a pushover).
If I feel a girl is being distant or cancels my date or says she is busy or says she wants to focus on her self or says she is not feeling any chemistry, I tell her okay. Take your time. If you change your mind you have my number. Then I delete her number and never contact her again. After sometimes (have been a week, or a few months in some cases) she comes back. This time she says we have so much chemistry (lol). I arrange for a date and at the end its bom chicka wow wow ;)
This “love” for the one rises from the scarcity of options. I used to have it too till my early 20s. Once you have dated enough girls who are absolutely beautiful in your book you start realizing there are millions of beautiful girls out there. There is no shortage of exactly what you are looking for. So who cares if one is not interested?
You have to just accept that most women won’t be interested in you. Say only 10% would be. But that 10% is more than you could ever approach in your life and they are better than the girl you are talking about. Also, for a lot in that group, you are their ideal man.
BUT THEY WON’T APPROACH YOU. YOU HAVE TO DO IT AS A MAN. YOU HAVE TO ASK THEM OUT AND BE OKAY WITH GETTING REJECTED, THERE IS NO OTHER WAY AROUND IT.
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