Recovery & Advice Blog. :)

Welcome to our  recovery blog. Here you will find tons of positive and uplifting things :) 

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I needed to see this :) time to spread it to others who may need it too!

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I promise.

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An example on:

Emotional manipulation

Minimalization

Invalidation

Guilt tripping

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Some examples or common emotional abuse scenarios. Please watch with care.

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How to Tell Your Friend That You Need a Break From Supporting Them

When I worked at a mental health crisis centre, I couldn’t believe how many people came to us, not because of their own problems, but because they were so lost in a friend’s pain that they couldn’t take it anymore. I saw a lot of people who were so worn down from helping someone else that they couldn’t sleep, eat, socialize or focus at work or school. They were consumed with guilt every time they put down their phones, went to sleep, or dared to enjoy themselves and have a good time. All because they had no idea how to set boundaries.  Helping your friends through a tough situation is a wonderful and noble thing to do, but it only works if you’re mentally in a place to do so. If you’re dealing with issues or mental illness of your own, you’re not always capable of being someone else’s shoulder to cry on 24/7. And that’s okay. Sometimes, you have to put yourself first. You can’t help someone else if you’re a mess yourself. You can’t save a drowning person with a sinking ship.  Telling a friend that you’re overwhelmed and you need a break is one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. Honesty is the best policy - don’t go radio silent on them, or avoid answering their messages. Be honest about how you’re feeling, and what you need from them. If you’re stuck on what to say and how to start the conversation, here are a few suggestions. Feel free to copy them exactly: It’s really hard for me to admit this, but I’ve been feeling like I’m on the verge of a breakdown lately. I love you and I care about you, but I need to take some time to take care of myself for a while.  I’m really concerned about you, but I honestly don’t know how to deal with this and I’m worried I’ll say the wrong thing. I really think that you should talk to a professional about this.  This is hard for me to admit, but I have a lot going on in my life right now, and it’s getting to be too much for me. Would it be okay if we talked about lighter stuff for the next little while?

You deserve more support than I can give you. I think you need to tell a close family member or professional about what’s going on. 

It seems like every time we talk about this, things are worse for you. I’m worried that my advice isn’t helping you at all, and I think you should talk to someone more qualified than me. 

I’m really worried for your safety, and it breaks my heart, but I can’t keep you safe all by myself. Would it be okay if we told someone else what was going on? 

I’m sorry, but I can’t answer my text messages 24 hours per day. I really want to make sure that you always have someone to turn to if I’m not available. Are there some other people you would trust with this? I can help you tell them, if you’re not comfortable doing it by yourself.  I hope these suggestions are helpful - best of luck to all of you, and make sure to put your own mental health first when you have to. 

[actualaster]

Seriously guys, take care of yourselves. I’m the kind of person who can’t help but shine as bright as I can for others regardless of how it burns me down–and the burnout is terrible.

[espadaclover]

You know what? It’s really like that sometimes.

[bro-winkle]

This is automatic stress relief

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a comic about someone who gets a visit from the reaper a bit sooner than expected, but has someone whos been waiting for them 

Hey, do you like my art? Help support me and buy me a coffee! ko-fi.com/zipper ❤️

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“What happens when someone dies, but they have no one there waiting for them yet?”

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you are never truly alone

[deviantshunter]

i really love this so

suicide is never the answer. please push on. things do get better - i promise. 

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I READ THIS BEFORE IT GOT THE HAPPY COLOURED ENDING, AND IT’S GREAT. THANK GOODNESS FOR THE GOOD ENDING. 

[ilovethetalkingclock]

because i saw people rebloggin this without this perfect addition and it kinda made me mad

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IN GONNA CRY

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Re blogging this again because it’s beautiful

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I’M SOBBING

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why y'all gotta make a bitch cry like this?

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I’m not crying. You are

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the secret here is that everyday is one a good day for a good day! 

[scaredykyleisgonnagosoon]

So I was taught a lesson in how to get rid of a migraine in 30 seconds and omfg listen my migraines don’t go away ever but I was shown what part of my body to touch and like???????????????

It’s witchcraft????????? Like I would be burned at the stake if I lived in ye olde days knowing that information?????

What the fuck??????

[countrygirlil2015]

Spill it! Lol….Hooooowwwww?? Had migraines since age 9….😓😓😓

[scaredykyleisgonnagosoon]

Its called the T4 push, but I literally can’t find the info online????? I guess I’m not searching good enough? These medical fuckers are holdin out on us lol.

It’s best to have someone do this for you while you stand up and relax your muscles as best you can, but if you’re alone, a tennis ball and a flat surface will probably work. Alternatively you can lie on the edge of a bed at the pressure point. (But no really do try to find someone to do it for you)

Find the area in your spine between either the first, second, third, or fourth vertebrae. It should be sore and uncomfortable to press down on, so look for the one that’s most painful, and press down with as much pressure as you can on that area for 30 seconds.

Realize that 80% of your pain has magically disappeared and keep the info secret if you live in a small puritan town, lest you be tried for witchcraft.

If you don’t have to worry about being burned or hanged, then share the info with your migraine suffering friends.

[systlin]

As someone who wrote a 10k word paper on pressure points for a high belt ranking test in her martial arts class, I can tell you that you just found a pressure point used in acupressure and acupuncture to relieve pain, particularly that in the head. :)

[arirashkae]

Hand to god we discovered this by accident when my husband was rubbing my neck and I nearly collapsed it felt so good

[blame-my-muses]

This post was sent by literal angels??? I’ve had a persistent low-level headache for nearly 24hrs and now it’s gone??? In 30 seconds? What gods did you sacrifice to for this information!?!?

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As a medical massage therapist, I thought I would give my two cents.

This is good for tension migranes and normal migraines, but actually pretty useless for sinus migraines. It’ll help for a hot second, but quickly come back. (These are usually the migraines behind your eyes, in your ears, and behind your forehead. Sometimes it can feel like jaw pain or TMJ) for sinus migraines, behind the ear in a divot. Press down firmly and pull towards your collarbone. That’ll drain your sinuses. Also, pressing around the eye socket on the cheekbones help. There is also a little triangle up away from the eye in the eyebrow bone. Press and hold pretty hard and that’ll relieve that behind the forehead pain. Also, ear pulling is great to help move sinuses around.

Don’t forget the temples too! Press firmly and hold. Open and close your jaw while holding your temples. It’ll feel weird, but it’ll help with jaw pain. It’ll work a similar way if you hold the jaw joint under your cheekbone.

And never underestimate the power of a foot massage!! Give minutes can be all the difference!! Our feet are our base. If they hurt even a little, somewhere else in your body will hurt. Treat your feet and sinuses kindly!

[thenudewitchofthenorth]

As a lifelong sufferer from frequent migraines I will reblog this everytime I see it, for myself and my fellow sufferers!!

[transcatboybussy]

one time I was complaining about headaches and body pain (before I knew I had eds) and went to see a chiropractor and she said my big toe was off and reset it and then my headache went away

the human body is all connected and even if the smallest thing is off it will hurt everywhere else and it’s annoying

she also reset the little plate bone things at the roof of my mouth that having braces moved out of place? which will give u headaches? it was weird she just stuck her fingers in my mouth and pressed on the roof moving things around (with gloves on)

anyways dont bash chiropractors/acupuncturists/any old pain treatment things theres a reason why they’ve been around for so long

[anditcametopost]

I got 1 task done today. I emptied the big trash can in my bedroom. That's one less fork to deal with.

I have severe executive dysfunction. I've been dealing with it by having myself do one small task a day. So far it's helped a lot. By doing it this way my brain doesn't freak out trying to tackle everything at once.

I got my inspiration for it from this Donald Duck comic:

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Oh my God this is so fucking wholesome

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I needed this.

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Thank you to all the people who posted this so I ended up seeing it. I really needed this right now. Thank you!

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Yeah… Not gonna lie… I cried…

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We need more people like this

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Goddamn it stop making me feel human

[dreamsrainandwitchythings]

The therapist I wanna be.

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Text in the image:

“I’m a therapist and keep this poster in my waiting room, apparently it’s saved a few lives.”

I don’t like the phrase “a cry for help.” I just don’t like how it sounds. When somebody says to me, “I’m thinking about suicide. I have a plan: I just need a reason not to do it,” the last thing I see is helplessness.

I think your depression has been beating you up for years. It’s called you ugly, and stupid, and pathetic, and a failure, for so long that you’ve forgotten that it’s wrong. You don’t see any good in yourself, and you don’t have any hope.

But still here you are: you’ve come over to me, banged on my door and said, “HEY! Staying alive is REALLY HARD right now! Just give me something to fight with! I don’t care if it’s a stick! Give me a stick and I can stay alive!”

How is that helpless? I think that’s incredible. You’re like a marine: trapped for years behind enemy lines. Your gun has been taken away, you’re out of ammo, you’re malnourished, and you’ve probably caught some kind of jungle virus that’s making you hallucinate giant spiders.

And you’re still just going, “GIVE ME A STICK. I’M NOT DYING OUT HERE.” “A cry for help” makes it sound like I’m supposed to take pity on you, but you don’t need my pity. This isn’t pathetic. This is the will to survive. This is how humans lived long enough to become the dominant species.

With NO hope, running on NOTHING, you’re ready to cut through a hundred miles of hostile jungle with nothing but a stick, if that’s what it takes to get to safety.

All I’m doing is handing out sticks.

You’re the one saying alive.

[ultimate-science-nerd]

I legit cried at this. I’ve needed to hear it put this way. Bless this post.

[tea-rabbits]

Every time I see this post I stop to read the whole image. It always helps — even on the good days.

Because it wasn’t weakness. It wasn’t shameful to seek help. It wasn’t pathetic to “cry for help”. I was looking for a stick, be that from myself or from someone else. I was trying to find a way out. I was trying to heal myself.

[aurora-nerin]

this is fuckin incredible. 

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I’m sorry if I repost to many of these, but if it could be someone’s “stick” then it’s worth it

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whenever I’ve had a particularly bad day my friend will ask me what my favourite colour is because he knows that looking for the exact photo of the colour will distract me from whatever shitty thing happened that day

I hope you all have someone like this in your life

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ooooh

[daddyslittleprincess118-blog]

honestly perfect distraction if you’re having a crisis

[recovery-saved-me]

Could you kindly reblog me? I'm trying to start a conversation RE women and absent mothers as I never see this being discussed, only absent fathers. I want to be able to start passing on some advice and tips to other women, to let them know they aren't alone in this. Hopefully younger women than myself will have some of their questions answered in a way I didn't. Regards - R2YM

This is actually something incredibly relevant to me, I’ll have to look through your blog. If anyone else is interested, here you are.-Mod Brooklyn. 

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I feel like i will never find anyone who loves me, i want a boyfriend but i know it will never happen. Especially now, and i also rly want a good group of friends but thats not gonna happen either :/

Hey, I just want you to know that life is constantly moving. You aren’t going to be in the same place you are now in a year, and thats totally ok. You might meet someone you click with like no one before in six months and won’t be able to imagine life without them, just like how you can’t imagine life with them now. You keep living life and things will fall into place eventually. I can’t give much advice on how to put yourself out there but get to know what you’re comfortable with, what works for you, and do what works for you. I hope everything goes the way you want them to.-Brooklyn

[recovery-saved-me]

I'm 29 yo female, dating a 32 yo guy. And All of it is so new to me..I never been with anyone. I kinda forced myself to deal with my extrem intimacy/anxiety issues with the help of my therapist. We went out 7 times, for about 2 months..he wants me to go to his place for a sleepover. He knows I need the pace to be slow (I didn't tell him i'm a virgin) but i'm still worried that I wouldn't be ready for anything sexual and he would get discouraged by me. I'm afraid ny pace will dissapoint him

HI! I just want you to know that you have your pace and your boundries for a reason. If he gets discouraged by the fact you aren’t ready, he should either talk to you about it like an adult or deal with it himself. You don’t owe anybody anything and no one should expect you to do something that could potentially harm you for their own comfort. You’re doing your best to take care of yourself and in the end, you know whats best. You know whats ok for you and if he cares about you he’ll understand. I hope this was reassuring, my main point is to take care of yourself before worrying about other peoples needs. I don’t know how long ago this was sent, but I hope everything turns out the way you want it too.

-Brooklyn

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