The big, meaty "holy fuck everyone is crazy" post
PART THREE OF THREE; ANALYSIS.
Whoa. So that was a total mess. Let's break it down.
Number of times i got called a cunt: 4, 5 if you count being called a Trump supporter which i think was the worst insult of all.
Number of times i was insulted in general: upwards of 8, i stopped counting
Number of times i held my tongue and posted memes instead: at least 3
Number of times i insulted someone else: 2? (Maybe 2.5 if you count "clean the sand out of your vagina")
So a lot of things to talk about here. First let's talk about me and my involvement. I would like to make a really big disclaimer that needs addressing in general: I AM NOT A GOOD PERSON. I AM NOT A NICE PERSON. I have never said i was. Shit, i spend a damn good chunk of my spare time telling people that I'm frigging AWFUL. I'm a douche, I can be really mean, I'm pretty selfish, i don't do nice shit. That's just not me as a person. Am i trying to better myself? A little, I'm not very good at it. But shit, that's what this blog is for yo. For me to call my bitch ass out and square up with my flaws. Which is why I am going to try my hardest to speak as respectfully as possible about our dear friend Bumblebee, but some stuff does need to be addressed head on.
What could I, JAY, have done differently. Welp, I'm an opinionated person. Sure, i could have been much more tactful and gentle about my feelings on the gofundme. But that's not me. I lack tact. It's who I am as a person. I found my initial comment on the status to be mostly harmless. I guess to avoid hurt feelings i coild have refrained from saying anything at all. But that's not me either. No winning there. My big mistake was being a PMSy, not morning person bitchwad, and feeding the troll. I could have just said "I'm not mocking anyone. I made a joke and said i was surprised about something." and moved on. That is what should have happened. Instead, by getting snappy, i elicited an even more aggressive reply. At that point, i was pretty over it and on my way out the door for work. My next response could have been curbed into a simple "you're extra and I'm not talking to you anymore." I left for work and ignored the next few comments, deciding to try to be the bigger person. After a few of my friends commented, i told them i hadn't read anything since, and that's what set off Bumblebee.
You see, as i mentioned in an ask earlier today actually, trolls and bullies and shitposters are all the same: they thrive off of the reaction they can get out of you. When you stop giving them attention it takes away their power. So when i said i was no longer reading, it lit a fuse and thus began the unoriginal overuse of the word "cunt." That's when I slipped and got douchey. I made fun of someone's weight and the fact that they're sloppy. Two things i myself have been insecure about before. I shouldn't have done it but I'd like to draw attention to my previous statement: I'm an asshole. Yep, i make fun of people. I can be downright awful. I'm pretty good at it.
I did, however, realize my error. But by then I was just being a pill instead of not commenting. It was getting amusing for me that Bumblebee was so ridiculously triggered. I mostly replied in memes. I said i had a boyfriend and told her she probably didn't get laid enough (also unnecessary, dammit Jay!), i posted a bunch of gifs. I really should have let it go.
But then. Butterfly made a purely innocent comment about being proud of me for not popping off about getting called a cunt a bunch of times. Then Bumblebee started lashing out at her too.
The fact of the matter is that there are people who give SJWs a bad name. There are people that go above and beyond to lash out at anything they feel to be a tiny infraction of someone's "safe space" to the point where they become far more of an aggressor than the original person. There are also people that are going to shit on you, call you names, be a dick and try their best to get under your skin. It's damn near IMPOSSIBLE to not react. I'm obviously still not very good at it but i certainly try my hardest. The fact is: dammit ignore them. Or, as i find my best weapon to be, laugh it off. Yeah posting memes probably wasn't the best response but it wasn't aggressive and it worked for me. Also, the biggest lesson of the day is: There's ALWAYS someone crazier than you out there!
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