renuka i.

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not one person will ever achieve "picture perfect". and yet, we try to. I don't know why. because the important thing is that we're doing the best we can, and our loved ones are enjoying it. and they usually are, regardless of what it looks like. what people care about most is your company, not the setting. so try and view special moments from a "big picture" perspective. did you capture the main goal of it? the goal being: to celebrate, to create a memory. then you've achieved what you set out to achieve. focus on that. - renuka i. the rest doesn't matter. we tend to hyper-focus on the details. that if we get these things right, everything else will fall into place. whether it be holidays, celebrations or just your plan for the day. what's most important are the feelings. the joy, the love, the togetherness, the laughter. THAT'S the point. follow for more relatable and inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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if you haven't reached your goal yet - THAT'S OKAY. maybe you've spent the last little while giving yourself the breaks you felt too guilty to take in the past. maybe you've spent it surviving, without attempting to do more than that. the important thing to remember is that it's okay to go easy on yourself. - renuka i. why do we always feel like someone needs to give us permission to rest? we're disappointed when we don't accomplish what we had hoped to accomplish, especially when others are watching. but no one is responsible for tracking your progress. not your frenemies, not your in-laws, not the people on social media. you don't have to prove yourself in this way. whatever you didn't get to, you'll get to when the time is right. follow for more inspiring relatable quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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you didn't lose her, you gave her up. losing implies that it was out of your control. this was a conscious decision. own up to the part you played in this. you had your chance. look what you did with it. - renuka i. we can't go back and change what's already happened. but you can acknowledge how you handled it. you can express remorse for it. you can apologize. and then you can do something about the present, and potentially the future. the damage may be done, but there is always space for healing. *does not apply to abusive relationships* follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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a relationship is an investment. but people treat it like an instant acquisition. in such a hurry to check off the "relationship" box on their life's to-do list. as if attaining it is the end goal. it doesn't end there, it STARTS there. what about maintaining it? we don't think that far ahead. we don't think about WHY we chose this person. because they make us happy? or because they fit the part? because this connection is fulfilling? or fulfilling enough? because staying is worthwhile? or staying is easier? it shouldn't be an off-the-cuff decision. - renuka i. don't get me wrong, the relationship itself shouldn't feel challenging. but I think we often forget that our lives are precious. and we forget that we don't have to sacrifice ourselves because we're on some timeline. you're allowed to make a thoughtful decision about this. follow for more inspirational quoes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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even if they wronged you, and it's justified, punishment isn't the goal. it takes a strong person to let that intention go. people who are cruel may deserve it. but YOU are not cruel. it's not your job to behave in ways that are outside of your character. so stop putting in the extra work to act like them. you have better things to do. - renuka i. it would require a lot of effort on your part to hand down punishments to people who have hurt you. wouldn't you rather be spending your time with people who love you than plotting against people who don't? they don't get to have a reaction out of you. you are not a puppet. go enjoy your life. you deserve it. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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go ahead, romanticize your life. reality is hard enough. take regular everyday moments and turn them into something magical. sipping tea, cooking, getting dressed, your commute, running errands - whatever it is. notice it, savour it. make a big deal out of it. - renuka i. some days, all we're doing is surviving. even the tiniest things feel hard. so whatever you were able to accomplish today, celebrate it. and if no one has told you yet - you're doing a great job. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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a reminder that the offers you get will not always match your worth. whether it be in love, life or career. be mindful of what you accept. - renuka i. just because it's offered doesn't mean you have to accept it. ask yourself if this is what you deserve. ask yourself if they deserve you. this is what it means to understand your value. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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we need to continue prying open the space we've created for mental health conversations to exist. the space isn't wide enough, its edges - not stretchy enough. we must, so that people can see that they're not alone. so that they can feel comfortable sharing their pain. so that they can feel safe asking for help. mental health resources need to be accessible. so that when someone is reaching out, there's someone reaching back. - renuka i. we live in a world where we're hyper-focused on the self. I, too am guilty of this - I speak about self care here all the time. but we don't always have to be responsible for taking care of ourselves. that is a huge undertaking, especially when you feel as if you've lost control. we should all be taking care of one another. and that includes our healthcare system, education system, and government. we all need to be involved. we all need to protect people when they're unable to protect themselves. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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your old friends didn't fit where you were headed. that's why you got new friends. but before you get all high and mighty about this decision, it isn't necessarily a positive one - if you're headed in the wrong direction. maybe there's a reason why your old friends stayed back as you continued on. while your new friends may seem supportive, they're ampliflying a path that doesn't serve you. so, is that friendship? - renuka i. as we get older, it's natural for some relationships to fall away as we evolve. but the question we need to ask first is - are you evolving? or are you feeding into the parts of you that are driven by arrogance? did you find friends that allowed it to expand, while your old friends questioned you about it? is this growth? is this friendship? follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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people are going to be annoying. and it's okay to be frustrated by it. you're human, after all. but I pray that you do not lose your gentleness. it's one of the most beautiful things about you, about humanity. this world needs it. - renuka i. these days, it feels as if there's enough to be infuriated with. it's overwhelming, and naturally, we're going to react to it. but I hope you can return to a place of kindness as many times as you need to. don't shut the door on it. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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you do not have to be constantly working on yourself. yes, it's a lifelong journey, but give yourself permission to pause every once in a while. resting is a cycle, too. - renuka i. sometimes, it's okay to stop and appreciate how far you've come. you did the work, and you can finally see the results. enjoy it. there's always time to grow.

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be done trying to stop people from making mistakes, from moving on. be done trying to make them apologize, make them return. the only thing we can do is control how we play a part in it all. remove yourself, and let the rest work itself out. - renuka i. I know it's hard, when you've invested so much of your life into something, into someone. but it is not your job to keep yourself tethered to people who don't want to be there. it is not your responsibility to monitor their growth or decline. it doesn't concern you anymore. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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teach people how to treat you. you don't want to be an option? stop being available as an option. more people joining the race for their affection? then you're not training to be first - you're dropping out. show people how to meet you at YOUR level. you won't be overextending to make up for THEM falling short. - renuka i. if they prefer to entertain everyone under the sun, let em. you just won't be one of them. because you're not one of many - you're one of one. and if they're passing up on that, then they wouldn't even know what to do with you if they got you in the first place. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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you've made a mistake, and you've owned up to it. that's a noble thing. but understand that you're not granted ease just because of an apology. you don't get to screw up, and face no consequences. people have been hurt, take the hit, work through it, redeem yourself. that is more noble than an apology alone. - renuka i. apologies without changed behaviour isn't accountability. we're allowed to make mistakes, but if you've hurt someone in the process, what are you going to do to rectify it? and what are you going to do to ensure that it doesn't happen again? follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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not everyone that hurts you feels bad about it. sit with that for a second. if they're not bothered by it, is it even worth holding on to that hurt? if they're not bothered by it, is that apology even worth anything? let it go. - renuka i. people who don't feel remorse after hurting others don't deserve any more of your energy. they're never going to feel any different. it's a waste making space for that pain in your body. remove it. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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there's a difference between being private, and being secretive. and that difference is based on the "why". WHY don't you want people to know about your life? because it's personal? or because you're embarrassed? - renuka i. I'm a private person" vs. "I'm not proud of what I'm doing, so I don't want people to know about it." "What does everyone think?" vs. "I don't want anyone getting involved." inviting people into your new life vs. keeping people on the outside. merging all aspects of your life vs. keeping it separate. hiding. declining events so you don't have to explain. asking people not to tell anyone or post anything. and finally, if you have to convince yourself that you're private, not secretive - ask yourself why you need convincing. follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here

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you've been searching for the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, but that person is you, first and foremost. if you don't know how to love, respect, honour, understand yourself, how will you show someone else how to treat you? - renuka i. do YOU want to be with yourself? someone else can't love you into loving yourself. that's your job. and it should be a priority on your list before you even venture out to find a partner. how else will you know who to invite into your life? follow for more inspirational quotes @renukawrites check out my motivational books & products here