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Your First Love (based on your South Node)
The South Node is a very interesting placement, one from which we can learn a lot about our instincts and habits. For this reason, I think a lot of us experience our first love, whether that end up in a relationship or not, with someone who exhibits a lot of the traits of the sign on our South Node. It’s what’s most familiar to us, and it’s what calls to us naturally. It’s normal that we gravitate toward people that show these qualities, but it’s probably not very likely we will stay with them forever. This is because we are here to grow and expand, and our South Node is what we’ve already experienced. However, the South Node, even though we must learn to reach beyond its walls, can give us some of the greatest gifts we will ever receive. And, if you know how to use it right, the South Node can be an incredible asset to you.
Aries South Node: Your first love was fiercely independent, probably to a fault sometimes. They made you feel alive when you were around them and their presence was electrifying. However, they also made you feel like you had to follow them or be left behind. They were very headstrong about what they were going to do and you may have felt that meant you didn’t have a big role in their life. You followed them for a while, going along on a wild ride that was mostly exciting but very exhausting. Eventually, they became too much to handle for you, too individualistic to cooperate on a team like you wanted them to. But, you’ll never forget how they made you feel like the sky was the limit, and that you could take on the world if you wanted to.
Taurus South Node: Your first love was stable and reliable, drawing you to them with their utter transparency. You felt warm when in their presence, but something was missing. It may have taken you a while to put your finger on it, but you needed more depth and emotion which weren’t things they could offer you in abundance. You had to part ways with them because you two were searching for different qualities in a partner, but you’ll never forget their unflinching loyalty to you and their ability to make everything feel just a little bit better when it seemed like the world was falling apart.
Gemini South Node: Your first love was bubbly and charming, armed with an incredible wit and a passion for learning. They knew how to make you feel like a million bucks with their words, but you could tell that they did this with everyone. You didn’t feel like they were being completely truthful when expressing their feelings for you. Rather, you felt like they were a player and you were another conquest. However, you always had a fun time with them and you knew they genuinely did have a heart of gold beneath all the facades.
Cancer South Node: Your first love was warm and comforting, perhaps to the point of seeming like a parent at times. They were incredibly sweet to you, but they could’ve had a tendency to weaponize their emotions against you. Speaking of emotions, they were a highly emotional person and this took its toll on you. Eventually, you got worn out and couldn’t deal with the emotional gymnastics anymore. However, you’ll always remember how much they genuinely cared for you and how they did the sweetest little things when you needed it most.
Leo South Node: Your first love was vibrant and show-stopping, always able to draw a crowd wherever they were. They were a natural born performer, but with this came a certain level of self-importance and jealousy. You never liked seeing the side of them that would come out when their confident facade failed. Deep down you know they were insecure and more than a little prideful, and you didn’t like feeling like they always stole the spotlight. You wanted to shine together, but they wanted to shine alone. But, you’ll always appreciate how generous and romantic they were towards you; they always did their best to make it feel like you were in a fairytale when you were with them.
Virgo South Node: Your first love was reserved and practical; they gave you good advice and always seemed to know what your next step in life should be. Although they were very helpful to you, sometimes that led to criticism and judgment. When you did something they believed to be unwise, they didn’t hold back about telling you and it eventually became too much. It’s not that you didn’t value their advice, you just needed to experience things for yourself and be with someone who was more supportive when you failed. However, you’ll continue to enlist their advice for the rest of your life and you’ll always be grateful you first fell for someone who genuinely wanted the best for you.
Libra South Node: Your first love was charming and sociable, always knowing exactly what to say and when to say it. They made you feel special for a while, but eventually, their wistfulness lost its effect. You may have thought they tried too hard to be part of the popular crowd or that they didn’t have a sense of originality. Ultimately, you got tired of being with someone who seemed totally caught up in other people’s business and seemed to say sweet things to you only because they thought that’s what you wanted to hear. You longed to be with someone who felt more ‘real’, but you’ll never forget how they helped you build your confidence and gave you butterflies with just one glance.
Scorpio South Node: Your first love was intense and possessive, constantly analyzing every situation. Their mysteriousness excited you, but once you glimpsed into their dark inner world you felt overwhelmed. Their inherent suspiciousness of everyone, including you, made you feel somewhat offended. You may have grown to resent them a little bit because of their constant questioning of you, your whereabouts, etc. while offering very little information in return if you asked them the same questions. The uneven power dynamics in the relationship just weren’t your style and you wanted to be with someone calmer. However, you’ll always appreciate how they defended you to other people no matter what and how they always seemed to understand what you were going through.
Sagittarius South Node: Your first love was optimistic and opinionated, never afraid to dream big or share their thoughts. This person always seemed up for the next adventure, and this may have been very attractive to you at first. Eventually, you burned out with the adventures; you wanted to explore the intricacies of the mind more intently, but they didn’t share your sentiment. They were probably hesitant to commit (if they ever even did), and this put a bad taste in your mouth as well. They loved their independence to a fault, and you couldn’t deal with their flakiness and false promises anymore. However, the great, fun times you two shared together will always be in your heart; they truly did know how to make a good memory.
Capricorn South Node: Your first love was structured and ambitious, constantly on the road to self-improvement. There was never any question about where they were going in life, which was good for them but sometimes hard for you to deal with. Their inability to be flexible put a damper on your relationship, and you felt like it was always their way or the highway. They may not have been very in tune emotionally, and this also caused things to go south between the two of you. However, you’ll always appreciate how much they inspired you with their ambition and how they pushed you to the best version of yourself.
Aquarius South Node: Your first love was off-beat and truly original, seeming like a mad genius most of the time. They thought outside the box and colored outside the lines because they saw the potential of what the world could be. With this incredible mental energy came distance and indifference on their part which never sat right with you. You saw all the wonderful workings of their mind, but you also felt the sting of them frequently rejecting you in little ways. There was always some problem in the world that was more important than their investment in what you two had and other people may have taken precedence over you in their eyes. However, you’ll always look back fondly on how you could be your honest, true self around them without fear because they wholeheartedly accepted you.
Pisces South Node: Your first love was other-worldly and enigmatic; they seemed like they came straight from a page in a storybook. They were very sweet and empathetic, always miraculously understanding why people were the way they were and having compassion for them. Their tendency to escape and, therefore, not deal with reality, however, created a rift between the two of you. You didn’t like how they saw people through rose-colored glasses and sacrificed their own happiness for that of others. It hurt you to see them be so frequently and significantly influenced and manipulated by others, but you also acknowledged their part in it. Eventually, the constant self-sacrifice and sadness because of it became too much for you to continue handling. But, you’ll always have a special place in your heart for them because they never did and never will give up on you; they were on your team since the moment they fell for you and you know there’s nothing they wouldn’t do for you.
gemini / south node. player player... yeah, i counter-played the player. (:
if you’re reading this
a lump sum of money is on the way to you
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if someone does the “fine, you’re right, i’m clearly a terrible person, i’m satan, i’m the worst person alive, i should just die” thing in response to criticism of their harmful behavior, they are trying to manipulate ppl and flip the situation around so that they look like a victim
stop tolerating this in 2k17 tbh. like really and truly, if you or your friend thinks this is okay pls call the hotline on the bottom of the screen and learn how to take responsibility for your bad behavior
The bad thing is I do this on a regular basis. Not because I want to manipulate people, but because that’s actually how I feel. I’m bad at receiving concrit. I can’t say that everyone who reacts this way feels the same as I do, but…not every case is like that.
have you considered that, regardless of your intentions, reacting in such an exaggerated way would make it very difficult for anyone to criticize you or tell you that you’re harming people with your behavior? i’m not interested in searching out people’s motives, i don’t really care why someone does or says manipulative things. being unable or unwilling to simply apologize and not make it about themselves is a solid indicator that a person is not interested in being held accountable for their bad behavior, and people, especially the injured parties in question, shouldn’t have to tolerate it.
take responsibility for your bad behavior 2k17 tbh
Okay, life lesson time.
When I was in my late teens and early 20s, I kept getting involved with people who would say, “Oh, I’m a bad person” any time I brought up ANYTHING that was the least bit of a disagreement.
Like, “Please don’t leave my X on the floor” would get, “Oh, I’m a horrible person!”
HERE’S WHY THIS IS A HUGELY PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIOR, and if you think I”m calling you out and you think you’re about to shut down, take a breath, remember that this is about learning, and keep reading.
What is important is what happened after. My boyfriend might say, “Oh, I’m just an awful boyfriend” and instead of him acknowledging the BEHAVIOR and working on fixing it, he’d get me trying to buck him up for the next half hour, telling him he was a good person. The behavior that started it all would not change.
Well, things led to things and I went back home to live for a while, and found that the same exact thing was happening… with my mother.
And then I learned about pattern arguments. Pattern arguments are the ones where you keep having the same nonproductive argument over and over again. They don’t all follow this pattern, but this is a really common one.
The trick?
BREAK THE PATTERN
First you have to know what the pattern is. In this case: 1. Grievance 2. Self deprecation 3. Ego stroking So, with my mother, we started in on one of these, and she said, “I guess I’m just a terrible mother.” And instead of reassuring her, instead of derailing the issue and letting it go… I said, “When you say that, it makes me wonder how terrible a daughter I could be that you would think you were a bad mother. We have this conversation this way over and over, and the problem that I have always gets pushed aside in favor of trying to make you feel better. When you’re willing to have a real conversation about this, I’m happy to talk to you, but I’m bored with this argument, so I’ll see you later if you want to really talk.” And I left the room. Now, my mom is a reasonably self-aware person, and does a lot of hard emotional work, and so she got it, very quickly. 10 minutes later she came out and found me, and we had a real conversation about whatever the hell the issue really was, and we have literally NEVER had that particular pattern argument again in 23 years. Boyfriend came to visit. I was upset about something, he started in on the “I’m just a shitty boyfriend” thing… and my response? “Yep. You are.” His jaw dropped. He blinked. And I said, “Look, that’s what you do. You say shit like that and it means you don’t have to change your behavior, and I’m tired of the pattern we have where I tell you something isn’t working for me, you tell me you’re terrible, and I spend half an hour making you feel better. I’m tired of it and I”m not doing it anymore. If you’re willing to have an actual conversation about this, and not just the same old argument, I’m game. But this thing we do where you talk yourself down and I butter you up? Is boring. And I’m over it.” We also did not have that argument again. (The relationship finally ended for real a while after, but it ended in a grown-up way, and not with a ridiculous meaningless fight.) When you knock yourself down, the gut instinct for the people around you is to pick you up. But that means you’re not pulling your weight in the relationship. You’re making them do the work and you’re not actually hearing them. So that brings us to another point:
How to deal with criticism
Okay, so if you’re not going to knock yourself down when someone says something negative about you, what DO you do? We don’t actually train people to take criticism well. But it is an art and a skill and NECESSARY to finding emotional stability in the face of a critical world.
I see it as a flow chart, but since the flow chart I made for it ended up in a book that I don’t own the copyright to (not a big deal) I’ll write out the decision tree here instead: 1. Someone offers criticism (constructive or not!)
2. Listen and think about it without immediately trying to defend yourself. You can say, “Okay, I need a moment to take that in and think about it because I want to understand it.” Or something else appropriate to the situation. It is okay to ask for time to think in most circumstances. Most people will appreciate that you are thinking about their words instead of immediately getting defensive or counterattacking. Think about whether what they are saying is valid, might be valid or is not valid.
3A. If it is valid, then you have a choice. You can try to fix the behavior or you can acknowledge that it is a valid criticism but decide you aren’t likely to fix it. Start by acknowledging the validity of the criticism, and then say what you’re going to do to fix it, or say that it’s valid but it isn’t something you’re willing (or possibly able) to change, or say that it’s a valid criticism and you’ll need to think about possible solutions. They may have a suggestion. Taking it or not is also a choice.
3B. If you’re not sure it’s valid, but it might be, tell them, “I really need to give this some more thought.” or “Can you tell me more about this? I’m not sure I understand the issue well.” Or “If you can point me at some reading material or search terms, I’d like to study this before I decide what I’m going to do.”
3C. If you know it is not a valid criticism, STOP a moment, and look at WHY they are making it. This is where Active Listening can be very helpful. “I hear you saying that X is a problem. I don’t see it that way right now but I’d like to understand better why you do.” Or if you think they don’t have enough information, “I hear you saying X, but my understanding of the issue is Y. Here’s what I know about it if you’re ready to listen.” If they’re just looking for a fight, tell them you’re not interested in fighting, and disentangle yourself.
4. If the criticism is something you are going to listen to and take action on, tell them what kind of action you’re going to take. If it’s something you’re hearing and thinking about, tell them that. If it’s not something you’re going to do anything about or it’s just wrong, thank them for their input and move on.
Literally never is it going to be helpful to say, “Oh, I’m just a terrible person.” That’s very much like a nonapology-apology in terms of how unhelpful it is to any conversation. It’s kind of worse because it actually expects emotional labor from someone who is already having to bring up something unpleasant with you. Think about what they say Decide whether you’re going to do something about it Do the thing, or tell them you’re not going to do the thing. Don’t demand emotional labor from other people when you were the one who messed up.
Apologize if appropriate. This is all predicated on the notion that you’re talking to someone who actually wants to communicate and isn’t just an asshole on the attack. Because seriously, the whole “I’m a terrible person” thing? Boring as fuck. Knock that shit off. Maybe you are. Maybe you aren’t. But take responsibility and have a little self-respect and don’t make others pick your emotional dirty towels off the metaphorical bathroom floor.
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Financial freedom🙏🏽😣🙌🏽
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I’m so mad because this worked
help me roger
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Reblogging myself because… what was that? Five minutes?
O_O
………my friend has made me curious
help me roger
Update: after I reblogged this someone messaged me offering me tickets to the sold out Hausu screening with a Q&A and autograph session with the director
These never work for me, but here’s to trying.
I don’t believe in these things
But last time I reblogged one ten/fifteen minutes later I got a call offering me a job
But I reblogged it because I was waiting on hearing back from the job. So there you go.
Roger is cute.
Eh Roger is cute I might as well
That fish is so happy it makes me happy.
I have no luck right now. Halp.
Why does this have so many notes
because its not one of your posts.
Roger is precious to me.
I need something amazing, come one Roger!
Come tru roger
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OK, I’m still annoyed about this, so here’s my partial refutation of a reblog: just because an abuser chooses you as their victim doesn’t mean you’re weak, period.
People who have been ridiculously strong have gotten into abusive relationships. Abuse can happen to anybody, and saying that abusers only choose weak people implies the opposite, and that so long as you’re “strong” you’re “safe” from them. This is not true. Please don’t spread that.
Sometimes abusers target the strong on purpose, because if you think of yourself as a strong person, you’re less likely to see it coming. This very nearly killed a dear friend of mine. We never saw it coming.
Abusers choose people who are susceptible to their particular brand of abuse. Period.