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i'm rhia and i love chace crawford. that's it that's the whole story. (she/her/hers.)

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i know what a microaggression is. i was just curious if there was something i'm missing, is all.

i wasn’t doubting that you know what a microaggression is; i was giving a direct example of a situation where i’ve seen the term microaggression misused !

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what are you posting about? i don't see anything in the tags

it’s a ~ general psa ~ to not abuse the term “microaggression” based on the experience of some folks i know in various rps … for example if you are having a conflict with someone and use pet names to refer to them and they say “hey that feels condescending,” that is not a microaggression towards you

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ppl on tumblr really love to appropriate the language of social justice or like radicalism without knowing what it means like… baby a small personal insult is not a microaggression ♥️♥️♥️

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the dumbest person ive ever seen on this awful site tagged a haruka/michiru gifset with ‘brotp’ and that says everything i need to know about them <3

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thinking fondly of my friends who turned their rp into a book deal

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my inbox has been wild w anons telling me to k*ll myself for daring to say that a word is considered a slur by a community huh ??? baby i’m almost 30 and i’m hot cyberbullying doesn’t affect me

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not someone with a blog based on that book with the eleven-year-olds having an orgy subtweeting you though omg

STOPPPPPPP IM HOWLING

[rhiatalks]

PLEASEEEEEE i feel you about the hp thing. I really really miss writing Dorcas Meadowes but I hate associating with a terf's creations 🤢🤢🤢 Part of me just wants to make like,,,,, a magic university where I can play someone like my character but not deal with any of the grossness of HP, y'know???

ugh i knowwwwwwww like ok i don't inherently associate magical schools with hp because there are so many universes with schools of magic! but it's so hard to fully separate and idk it has just been so tainted in my heart and mind... this is why adult me knows better than to make a fandom my whole personality but eight-year-old rhia didn't know. she was so young. so naive. but i’ll still cry for those lestranges, and my other fave frank longbottom

that said anon if u wanted to make a magic university rp that is not hp i think people would really love that . we are looking for ways to reclaim the parts that spoke to us and heal without having to support someone literally endorsing violence

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truly wild to me that ppl out here think you can’t care about discrete subjects

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hey ya’ll i’m actually beyond sick of seeing the word whore in every corner of the internet. whore is a slur and derogatory term referring to sex workers. 

if you’re reclaiming it, this is not about you.

please be mindful how you describe characters (putting them in shirts that say whore still counts) because sex workers can and will see that. 

the word does not exist in a vacuum and please start being mindful about how triggering that word is for people who have dealt in sex work such as myself. it is a violent, ugly word that sat on the backs of people like a weight. 

people who just want to have fun in fandom spaces are often without reason confronted by that word because people think its funny. it’s not funny.

there’s other words out there, but i would highly advise to think twice about using that word.

[rhiatalks]

SWs have some of the highest rates of homicide and violence in the world why do people think this is a hot take?

i genuinely have no idea and my main assumption is that it's either (1) their own whorephobia, which is very common and one of the least interrogated forms of discrimination (alongside fatphobia and ableism, in my experience) even in progressive circles, or (2) people just don't like me and so feel like they need to insist that my views are false or bad because they're coming from me, which is pretty upsetting but not surprising

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not a single real sex worker on earth would give a fuck about someone using the word whore or hoe as long as they’re not being insulted with those terms on the basis of their profession. that’s some chronically online shit probably spread by only fans girls

do you... actually know any sex workers, anon? because i do! and this is basically 101 -- it is the whole reason that sex workers prefer to be called 'sex workers' or 'erotic laborers'; the term "pr*stitute" is also often viewed as a slur. also, i really think the phrase "probably spread by only fans girls" makes your stance clear enough, and i don't need to engage further.

this post is old, but the information on it is still solid: https://sexworkerhelpfuls.tumblr.com/post/90478067686/sex-workers-language-and-slurs

and a good starting point, written by, yes, an erotic laborer: https://www.vice.com/en/article/n7j94b/how-to-be-an-ally-to-sex-workers

also this piece from the aclu: https://www.aclu.org/news/lgbtq-rights/sex-work-is-real-work-and-its-time-to-treat-it-that-way/

would love to know why this is making folks so angry though

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not the “let me write minors” weirdo coming in the tags with another dumbass take havent we had enough of you💔

just say you hate sex workers and go 💖

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people really showing their swerfism...

yeah people seem to think that i invented this concept ! it is something i learned after spending time reading and learning and listening !

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hello! i got some asks about this and i am by no means an expert as i myself am not involved in sex work, but i am an advocate and ally! here are some places to start. CWs for whorephobia, violence against women and sex workers, transphobia, and racism throughout these links. these also often contain mentions of nsfw content, of course, given the subject matter. 

what is whorephobia? https://www.insidehook.com/article/sex-and-dating/whorephobia (I don’t necessarily agree with everything in this article, but it is a good starting point/primer)

about the intersection of whorephobia and anti-Asian sentiment in the Atlanta killings: https://www.npr.org/2021/03/21/979811779/atlanta-killings-sex-worker-advocate-sees-deadly-consequences-of-overlapping-hat

https://www.thotscholar.com and https://tinahorn.net  -- tina horn and femi babylon are two of my favorite writers on the subject; femi babylon particularly writes about the intersections of whorephobia and misogynoir

https://www.vice.com/en/article/n7j94b/how-to-be-an-ally-to-sex-workers -- a great article by femi babylon on sex worker allyship ! point #3 is especially salient.

the columbia human rights law review symposium on sex workers’ rights, advocacy, and organizing

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why did those people send you anon hate about having a non dyslexia friendly blog when they don't have one either...

when you say something people don't like they are prone to retaliating by pointing out everything you've done ! it is what it is. i have fallen victim to this myself. hopefully they too make their blog more accessible