I really do think Ralsei is a people-pleaser. Although, I personally believe it could have been born from insecurity, low self-esteem and his conflict-adverse attitude.
Ralsei notably has a very low self-confidence, which oftentimes can mean problems with self-esteem; Ralsei was at first very preoccupied about Susie and Kris's impression of him.
This insecurity can make individuals attempt to conform their behaviors to fit into a box, overshadowing their true self because they fear being perceived negatively.
A people-pleaser puts all willpower to make others happy. Oftenly stretching themselves thin just to please, while depleting valuable time and resources for themselves.
They'll stifle their own necessities and preferences just to accomodate to other people. This suppression of self-expression can cause the individual to feel as if they don't know themselves at all.
Those years of focusing on Kris and Susie disconnected Ralsei from his own emotions and the like. In essence, a people-pleaser it's a 'personality' built squarely on serving others while neglecting oneself.
Because this is often driven by a deep-seated need for approval and validation, the constant praise received from doing things for others makes them feel like they are needed and useful. They'd think they have no purpose if they cannot help others.
Setting proper emotional boundaries is difficult for these types of people. They struggle to set limits due to strongly fearing disappointing others.
This also tends to make these people overcommit to activities or responsibilities others expect or request of them.
Another drive for people-pleasing behavior is the fear of conflict. This fear from Ralsei could easily be explained since he initially believed friendship was about "being happy all the time."
Over-apologizing is also another typical sign. Ralsei says “sorry” frequently, even for things that aren’t his fault. This type of response is the first reaction to conflict as a way to de-escalate the situation before the other person gets too mad.
These types of people are quick to feel guilty when something goes wrong, even when the situation was beyond their control.
Because they prioritize keeping others happy and avoiding conflict, these individuals resort to suppressing their own emotions and opinions.
Ralsei notably does this a lot. He tends to swallow his own opinions or smooth over tensions by minimizing his own hurt in order to keep the peace.
Seeking external validation is also another common behavior. The individual's sense of self-worth depends heavily on what others think of them.
Hence why they need reassurance that others aren't upset with them, frequently checking in to make sure people are happy with them, and adjusting their behavior based on perceived disapproval.
People-pleasers often find satisfaction in the altruism. Therefore, having others see them as 'selfish' is something they fear, as this might mean losing much-desired affection and acceptance.
Something noteworthy is that a lot of Ralsei's development throughout Chapter 3 redirects attention to his lack of self-confidence and autonomy. Serving as the factor that aids in unwinding his people-pleasing behaviors and helps him take back control of his life.
Normally, in the quizzes Ralsei chooses what the player picks. But, in the Doom Board, Ralsei picks different answers regardless of our input.
When Ralsei gets the chance to make choices outside of someone elses' approval, he can do things on his own, which is described by him as something he greatly enjoyed.
And, interestingly so, Ralsei's guts actually go up in Chapter 3, before going back to square one in Chapter 4.
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