“Is it A Real Right frame?!”
As I am staying awake over an hour, I choose to write at 4.25 am on the midnight of hopefully amazing Tuesday. Today although nothing different but at this favourite time-zone of my day, I get random thoughts which make me wonder about the way I have been taking this life... a person like me who is too thoughtful, poetic and passionate when it comes to my personal life want to talk today on my fav subject ie human physicology and relationships.
When we talk of relationships...there are certain we are blessed, showered or may be thrusted since we are born and with years and time to come, we decide which ones to carry, and which ones to leave behind like one gets rid of a baggage, as there comes a time it only adds a pain and no gain when it comes to soulful essence.
And, then the second set of relationship comes in, which comprises of those individuals we pick or take along as we meet, greet, come across, or walk hand in hand. Those certain kind of interesting, uninteresting and so as different variety of people we encounter professionally, personally, co - incidentally accidentally, or via simple law of attraction, leading to a connection. However almost we all agree to the fact that there are these very few of those people whom we allow our personal space. Space which is so special and only ours. They are our family or become our family, routine and responsibility when it comes to their happiness, taking care and simply being there, thereby making them feel at home.
Then comes situations, events, and circumstances which impact, clear and reflect lot of the attributes in a relationship. It tests, challenges and give lot of chances for one to figure out an understanding of people and their priorities and preferences. It decides the extent of permanencies or temporariness in once life.
After setting the above context, it comes to the point, which I am trying to figure out. Which is as simple and real as I expect things to be. I have always segregated my relationships as where to apply mind and where to apply no mind. I choose always to keep things separate when it comes to things I own forever and things which are too emirate. Places where I apply mind, I don’t own those, neither those own me or even neither can ever get a feel of belongingness as I’ll be too cold, unreachable, sometime shrewd, mean, too direct and politely clear with them. They could be too important relationships but they are the relationships of mind and tactfulness. Where whatever I say, listen, respond or react I’ll ensure ot try to ensure that sound correct.
The second type of relationships are those which I always prefer never to apply my mind. This includes my family, friends and all those few close set of Individials whom I involved in this close net. They are all those whom I consider mine and their smile and sadness makes difference to my day to day life. They are those whom I don’t have to make efforts, to make them feel special because they always know they are. For them, I would take out time, create the time, ignore the other time and fit them in my routine, in a way they never feel left out. I do all this not because they need me but I need them. Just like you need food for body, you need a food for soul too.
The above paragraph talks about my real frame which I am in since I was a a kid Ridhi, to today when I am a woman Ridhima. But, as I grew up, matured and evolved with time... when it comes to my relatives, friends, and all the those I love to carry along in this journey of life...I somewhere unfortunately many a times saw them using mind. They use mind when I expect them to speak their heart out, or listen my heart out, they use too much brains while they commit of something and they use all their senses when it comes to take a stand, or going out of their way. They either will make you count what they do, or they would just run from situation, or will make a smart excuse and finally even if they do something it would be half heartedly. When they ask for help, they would first show and mention what they did for me or they would talk about how it could benefit me in future. Some of them will rarely be direct, but instead prefer to be manipulative, calculative and too diplomatically correct when it comes to giving simple advise or responses.
Then the question I get in my mind is that if with time, all the real I thought I have seen it changing to fake... if security of relationships is not determined by efforts one puts in but options one carry to be self secured and to make other unsecured. If variety and not the exclusiveness is a need. If, before helping someone, one has the agenda of how to reap benefit for own in future. If, instead of being available when needed one choose to to run away from those situations. If people choose to be together in happy and fun filled moments and scared to be a part of sad and difficult moments then are they justifying the basic fundamental of being called a family or a closest one? How come when at places where the only organ which needs to be active is heart, it’s instead leading to numbness and rest all organs are hyper active..? Is this is how it’s supposed to be and in time to come I’ll be only left out with few of those closed or weird ones like me who are mindless in relationships?
It makes me wander and wonder, are people like me not in real right frame or now the world can’t fit to such real frame which were once created? :)
When we talk of relationships...there are certain we are blessed, showered or may be thrusted since we are born and with years and time to come, we decide which ones to carry, and which ones to leave behind like one drops a baggage, getting rid of it as it only adds pain and no gain when it comes to soulful essence. And, then the second set of relationship which comprises of those individuals we pick or take along as we meet, greet, come across, and walk hand in hand. Those certain kind of interesting, uninteresting and so as different variety of people we come across professionally, personally, co - incidentally accidentally, or via simple law of attraction, leading to a connection. However almost we all agree to the fact that there are these very few of those people whom we allow our personal space. Space which is so special and only ours. They are our family or become our family, routine and responsibility when it comes to their happiness, taking care and simply being there, thereby making them feel at home.
Then comes situations, events, and circumstances which impact, clear and reflect lot of the attributes in a relationship. It tests, challenges and give lot of chances for one to figure out an understanding of people and their priorities and preferences. It decides the extent of permanencies or temporariness in their life.
After setting the above context, it comes to the point of what I am trying to figure out, its as as simple and real as I expect things to be. I have always segregated my relationships as where to apply mind and where to apply no mind. I choose always to keep things separate with how I decide and choose. Places where I apply mind, I don’t own those, neither those own me or even neither can ever get a feel of belongingness as I’ll be too cold, unreachable, shrude, direct and clear with them. They could be too important relationships but they are the relationships of mind and tactfulness. Where whatever I say, listen, respond or react I’ll ensure ot try to ensure that sound correct.
The second type of relationships are those which I always preferred never to apply my mind. This includes my family, friends and all those few close set of Individials whom I involved in this close bet. They are all those whom I consider mine and their smile and sadness makes difference to my day to day life. They are those whom I don’t have to make efforts, to make them feel special because they always know they are. For them, I would take out time, create the time, ignore the other time and fit them in my routine, in a way they never feel left out. I do all this not because they need me but I need them. Just like you need food for body, you need a food for soul too.
The above paragraph talks about my real frame which I am in since I was a a kid Ridhi, to today since I am a woman Ridhima. But, as I grew up, matured and eveolbed with time... when it comes to my family, relatives, friends, and all the those I love to carry along in this journey of life...I somewhere unfortunately many a times saw them using mind. They use mind when I expect them to speak their heart out, or listen my heart out, they use too much brains while they commit of something and they use all their senses when it comes to take a stand, or going out of their way. They either will make you count what they do, or they would just run from situation, or will make a smart excuse and finally even if they do something it would be half heartedly. When they ask my help, they would first show what they did for me or they would talk about how it could benefit me. Some of them will rarely be direct, but instead prefer to be manipulative, calculative and too diplomatically correct when it comes to giving simple advise or responses.
Then the question I get in my mind is that if with time, if all the real I thought I have seen it changing to fake... if security of relationships is not determined by efforts once put in but options one carry to be self secured and to make other unsecured. If, before helping someone, one has the agenda of how to reap benefit for own in future. If, instead of being available when needed one choose to to run away from those situations. If variety and not the exclusiveness is a need. If people choose to be together in happy and fun filled moments and scared to be a part of sad and difficult moments then are they justifying the basic fundamental of being called a family or a closest one? How come when at places where the only organ which needs to be active is heart, it’s instead leading to numbness and rest all organs are hyper active..? Is this is how it’s supposed to be and in time to come I’ll be only surrounded with few of those family members or closed wierd ones like me who are mindless in relationships?
It makes me wander and wonder, are people like me not in real right frame or now the world can’t fit to such real frame which were once created? :)
