[krembruleed]

curiosity

[maddiemagpie]

Not me fighting for my life pretending to behave completely normally at work while inside I'm trying desperately to stop thinking about Emmrich saying "Slow. Deep."

[feefal]

Exoskeleton🌱

[doctorguilty]

Not to sound like an old fart here but my philosophy about video games is like. A kid living out in the middle of bumfuck nowhere with no internet access for miles should be able to purchase a game from walmart, take that game home, put it in their console, and play the whole game with all of its features and the only thing lack of internet affects is the inability to play online with others. Nothing else. They shouldn't be missing entire chunks of the game becuase they can't download a patch. The game shouldn't be borderline empty or unplayable without a patch.

[odinsblog]

Wasn’t even fake tears. It was no tears at all. They were Kavanaugh tears.

[moveslikekeithrichards]

doing my damnedest to free myself of the “just gotta get through this week” “only x more days til the weekend” mindset & learn to appreciate each day for whatever it is lest i be driven to madness

[moveslikekeithrichards]

so what if tomorrows monday i have leftovers & maybe this week i will make soup. maybe ill see a cat. maybe each day will show me something worthwhile even if im tired & maybe i can enjoy it

[moveslikekeithrichards]

if u are negative on this post im blocking u ! some of us are trying to get better

[winterswake]

We’re all safe now. Nothing bad will ever touch them ever again.

[astriiformes]

Frodo may be Bilbo’s actual adopted nephew, but Merry and Pippin are his younger cousins, and Sam is his old gardener’s son whose family he clearly has a soft spot for and who he taught to read and write, and Gimli is the son of one of his old adventuring friends, and Legolas is, similarly, the son of the Elvenking who named him an elf-friend, and we know Aragorn is canonically his friend as well, who he very possibly could have met as a small child in Rivendell when he passed through, so really, like 7/9 members of the Fellowship are people he can employ weird elderly relative (or the honorary equivalent thereof) energy on if he wants to and I think that’s very powerful.

[penny-anna]

the fellowship is 7 people who Bilbo Baggins can employ weird elderly relative energy onto PLUS 1 person who can employ weird elderly relative energy onto Bilbo Baggins PLUS Boromir.

[cunked]

[thelxiepia]

[homoluigi]

Lol

[childofgears]

you’re just gonna leave this in the tags?

[throwbackblr]

[kameratar]

september is bisexual bewareness month… beware… be aware…. they’re out there. and no laws apply to them for the month………… good luck.

[alixhl-deactivated20200921]

Friendly reminder that there is no food even remotely close to the unhealthiness of an eating disorder.

[shinetroll]

Eat something today. Even if it’s just a bag of chips or a cookie, your body needs some kind of nutrients.

[disarmedbyakiss]

not to be slutty or anything but i’d listen to your problems and run my fingers through your hair

[fanghusband-remade]

ppl on the street when im androgynous

[totally-sapphic-posts]

Thinking about one day being able to say, ‘our home’ and ‘my wife’ is therapeutic

[varandra-deactivated20230907]

imagining moving in with a lover and mixing my books with their books in our bookshelves... might faint

[defectivegembrain]

don’t know what parent of an autistic child needs to hear this but as long as they’re not harming anyone your kid’s stimming is not a “problem behaviour”

[bowditch]

in our house we have a few categories of stimming behavior.

1. the no category. this is for things that are unsafe. hurting self (head banging, scratching), hurting others, chewing on choking hazards. i know this is excluded in OP’s post, but i’m putting it on my list because if you parent an autistic child and deal with this, you have to be aware that a key to off-limits stimming is redirection. stimming satisfies an important physical and neurological need for the autistic brain, and that behavior is sensory-seeking. if you must say no, please also offer options or help redirecting to appropriate outlets for pressure, motion, rhythm, chewing, etc.

2. the shared space category. listen, i get that a lot of people are assholes about things that aren’t hurting them. that’s not what this category is for. but we have a household with multiple autistic individuals and a work from home situation. “shared space” is the code phrase we use for “please take this stimming to a different location.” sometimes, aural stims like repetitive noises or physical stims like pacing can be legitimately distracting to other people in a room (or car!). in the case of other autistic people, it might even feel painful or mentally consuming. this category is no-judgment “please move to another location to continue stimming this way.” it’s not bad, it’s not wrong, you aren’t being shamed– just do your best to respect others and their needs or comfort, and leave the communal area or lower your volume.

3. the you do you category. it doesn’t matter that nobody else is doing this to feel comfortable or happy– you aren’t hurting anyone else, you aren’t being disruptive in a space other people are using together. go for it.

and in every single category, anger has no place in redirecting a stim. not even the no category. stimming isn’t malicious, there’s no actual moral requirement to be “less weird” or “like everyone else.” even reminders like “you aren’t the only person in this room and that’s very loud” don’t need anger. stims aren’t done at anyone. they’re just the body expressing a kind of neurological hunger, and whether the answer is “enjoy that!” or “this isn’t safe for you to eat (ie, do)” fury doesn’t help.

[anais-ninja-bitch]

oh shit this is a REALLY helpful way to conceptualize stimming and competing needs.

[kipplekipple]

I love this so much.