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@romantic-arospec-apl
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I reblog arospec, aplspec, autospec, and qpr/alterous posts and take submissions
Submissions:
You can submit questions, experiences, vents (will be tagged), or asks for flags, dividers, user boxes, etc.
Obviously don't be mean, we respect microlabels here, you don't need to be aro/apl to reblog or comment
Blog owner has a few labels
And uses any pronouns but she/her
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Evil Aromantic
EvilAromantic (evilaro): For Aromantic people who feel evil, negative, angry, and/or villainous. Also is for Aromantics who are seen as "too aromantic" by allos.
Evil AroAllo
Evil Aromantic Allosexual (evilaroallo): For AroAllo people who feel evil, negative, angry, and/or villainous. Also is for AroAllos who are seen as "too aromantic" by allos.
Below the thingy is each flags meaning for the colors! And extra graphics of course!!
DO NOT TAG THIS ASEXUAL OR AROACE OR IM COMING FOR YOUR KNEECAPS
@radiomogai
"Allonormativity doesn't exist"
When I was young, my parents made very clear to their kids that if wouldn't matter to them if we were gay or straight; they would accept us regardless.
When I thought I was bi, they had no problems with it.
When I first mentioned the existence of asexuality, my father's immediate response was "that's not a real thing."
As far as I know he still doesn't believe in it, let alone accept that I am ace.
If you're not het, you might be seen as a deviation, an abomination, etc. If you're ace you're just seen as broken.*
(The argument from "We don't need a word for 'not ace'" is just funny. Do you think the dictionary is running out of room? We might not have needed a word for it but we do have one now, so we may as well use it.)
*Absolutely not saying that's worse, just meaningfully different.
"Do you think the dictionary is running out of room?"
Hardest line I've ever heard
I love you aplatonic autosexuals. An angel gets its wings every time an aplatonic person finds out they're autosexual or vice versa
As an aroace person who is alloplatonic, I’d like to say this to other alloaroaces
Aplatonicism is an experience so far from my own that it might as well be on a different planet. I can’t imagine my life without platonic attraction and a full range of platonic relationships. I really can’t. But guys, that’s MY experience. And no one’s experience is universal.
Think about people who say to aromantic and/or asexual folks that “you’re gonna be lonely forever” or “you can never be happy/fulfilled without x type of relationship.” They say those things from a place of not understanding, which they mistake as confirmation of their experience as universal truth and consequently as permission to not be respectful. And we as people on the other side of that know how much it hurts. We know how much it doesn’t align with the way we exist in the world.
So if you’re someone who is aromantic and/or asexual and you have difficulty understanding the aplatonic spectrum, I’m here to tell you that that’s completely okay. I’m also here to gently remind you that your lack of understanding doesn’t invalidate other people’s identities.
If you want to try to understand, there are plenty of people here who will be happy to talk to you about their experience. And hey, you may ask a ton of questions and do a ton of research and find you still don’t understand. And that’s okay. But give aplatonic people the same respect and kindness that you wish allos would give aromantics and asexuals. Trust that they know themselves and their experience. Don’t pass on aphobia in another form.
Happy pride month to all y’all out there on the aspec, including the aplspec. No one can tell you who you are but you. Keep shining bright.
while i appreciate the posts in retaliation to "friends dont look at friends that way" (replying with "no romance doesnt exist anymore" or things like that) and i understand the sentiment (god knows alloromanticnormativity is a little fucked), i think also we need to acknowledge aplatonic ppl.
people who feel less or no platonic attraction, shoutout to you!!! you're not allonormative for not wanting a platonic relationship, and i hope more people learn about aplspec as time goes on!!!!!
・₊✧𝘈 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘺｡｡｡ -`♡´-
♡NARCAPLATONIC/NPDAPL♡
✧ Someone who is aplatonic because of their Narcissistic Personality Disorder ✧
✧ Requested by @a-jagged-nightmare ✧
✧ Tagging: @radiomogai @the-iris-network-mogai ✧
"we only met eachother just the other day, but you already got me feeling some typa way." <- aplatonic. cannot be just friends. needs some level of queer platonic in friendships.
Emmoniromantic / Emmoniaromantic
Emmoniromantic (emmoni-romantic) is a term on the aromantic spectrum that describes individuals who confuse their intense fixation on someone with romantic feelings but after this fixation fades away, they realize they weren't truly in love. Some individuals may choose to call it 'obsession' or 'limerence'. It can be used as a tertiary identity or romantic orientation on its own or alongside with flutter attraction and/or pseudoromantic.
Emmoniaromantic (emmoni-Aromantic) is a similar term for those who don't experience any other kind of 'romantic' attraction.
This term is exclusive to neurodivergent individuals who can develop a hyperfixation on someone or great passion for their 'X person' (attachment figure; can be referred to as 'favorite person', 'safe person', 'chosen person', etc.). It can be used by those who are formally diagnosed, self-diagnosed or questioning but not transabled people and the like.
Below the cut are disorder-specific versions of the flags, their meaning and related terms.
Circus Attraction
[PT: Circus Attraction]
Circus Attraction, a type of Tertiary Attraction(/Non-Rose) term that can be accounted under the Social Attraction and Platonic Attraction term umbrella. From the outside it can be seen as very goofy close friend group, but in reality those in this group all have a deep connection with each other. This can be partnership (poppership), queer platonic, poly, etc.
Different member of the circus represents a different type of Tertiary Attraction, a ringleader has the goal to get others of the circus.
Alt Name for Partner(s) : Pop / Poppers /Poppership
Alt Name for Crush: Candyfloss
Group name: A Circus
What is a Ringleader: someone who founded the group and or the one holding the group together
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[Tag] @radiomogai, @liom-archive, @tertiary-attraction-archive (edit) @revenant-coining
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being aroallo is lowkey so embarrassing. like wdym my sexuality is whore. why
you know what prev you have a point
@aromanticofficial
official whore post
"But aros still feel platonic love, right?" Not all of us.
the aspec experience of going 'but am i actually aspec?' and then seeing an allo and being like 'oh. okay. yeah i am. what the fuck'
i need the aromantics to know that the new york times crossword loves your existence because it allows them to use the word “ARO” in their puzzles
they just love you
tell them i’m flattered but not interested. i hope we can still be friends
happy aromantic visibility day!
You know what I like so much about the aromantic community?
We have so many concepts that the average alloromantic person has never heard of. Concepts that make it so much easier to explain our experiences, desires and struggles to other people. They make it so much easier to exist as an aromantic person in this world. Of course, every aromantic person can decide whether they find these concepts helpful and applicable to their experiences. But I find it amazing how many cool concepts the aromantic community either came up with or took pre-existing concepts and made them our aromantic 101. I don't think the allos really get how being aromantic can fundamentally change your worldview. And to be honest, I think they're missing out because I think everyone would benefit from at least being familiar with those concepts.
Being aromantic is basically like this:
Aromantic shrimp colours are real.
Anyways, aromantic community, y'all mean a lot to me and I'm so happy I found y'all and now share your "secret" knowledge!
The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.
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