this isnt a horror house, it's a horror home

He/him, Adult, Always tired. Icon by me!

[rot--mutt]

i need to perma-explode. forever.

[b0nkcreat]

Random stinging pain in my neck 👀

[creepymutelilbugger]

atacked by my #MindWasp

[b0nkcreat]

Can you put those things on a leash please

[creepymutelilbugger]

Yeah. a really Long one so they can still get u tho

[b0nkcreat]

Commentary on: Society

[angelofthemornings-deactivated2]

One thing I really like about Beverly Engel's book It Wasn't Your Fault, which is about PTSD-induced toxic shame, is that quite a bit of it deals with people who haven't broken The Cycle of Abuse (TM) and have gone on to hurt others. That's a really underserved and vulnerable patient population, and statistically, it's also MASSIVE. I don't think I've read a single other self-help type book on PTSD and self-loathing that confronts the possibility that you're exactly as bad as you think you are.

[angelofthemornings-deactivated2]

I felt better that it so much as mentioned that children can react to abuse with ungovernable rage. Everybody likes the image of PTSD patients as internalizing everything and becoming doormats, which does happen, and often, but it's not the only narrative. Personally I've always hated my abusers and have always wanted everyone who so much as breathed wrong in my direction from ages 0 to 18 to burn eternally in hell. I *never* thought any of it was my fault and ever since I was a toddler I was willing to make it everybody else's problem, and it's really relieving to read a clinical perspective that acknowledges that abuse victims can act that way too.

[reasonablywittyatbest]

It's wild to me that its such a neglected subset of abuse victims. Its really common. When I still lived with my parents and was still subjected to my father every fucking day I would lash out terribly at my mother, to the point when i went to visit them for years afterwards she was afraid I would lash out again. We've worked it out, I'm a much better person when I'm not regularly subjected to mental and emotional abuse, but like, its just so common.

I think it must be, at least partially, because, people hate the imperfect victim. Its easy for so many people to sympathize with someone who never lashed out. Less so for people to sympathize with people who are angry and lash out. Even though its a perfectly sensible reaction to being hurt over and over. I'm sure most people would like to think they would simply never.

I don't think this is the whole reason, but, I think it plays into it.

[sunspotpony]

Similarly, there’s a narrative of, you cannot experience grief over having fucked up. That if you are hurting because you caused harm, because you were the cause of harm, that you’re not allowed to grieve, because you “earned your sorrow. You deserve to bottle it up and to hurt for the bad things you have done,”

Which is punitive logic. It’s copthink. Which is bad.

[angelofthemornings-deactivated2]

important

In fact, you can actually give yourself trauma over fucking up too badly and doing, witnessing, or failing to prevent something evil that goes against your morals; for instance, if you steal your mother's life savings due to drug addiction, kill a civilian during a military operation (please do not join the military), or became abusive because you didn't have the tools and skills yet to handle BPD. In the field of psychology this is called "moral injury" or "perpetrator trauma."

[headspace-hotel]

I had this realization a while back:

Some kids who experienced trauma would react by becoming violent, disruptive, and rageful.

This is an inherently normal and natural response for a creature to have. Attacking and fighting for survival is inherently something most animals sometimes do, it's fundamental and will always happen sometimes

But children that are violent, disruptive, hateful of authority, or angry are labeled as "bad" and are punished for it, and the label of "bad" is not just temporary but lasts a long time, as though there is something fundamentally wrong with the child

So, I thought, a child's value in the world and whether they deserve to be helped is judged in this harsh, punitive way, based on whatever natural survival response happened to pop out of them

And I thought, that is grotesque. It means that a certain fraction of traumatized kids will not be helped, but instead be considered "bad," because of basically a biological thing that their body had to do to survive.

Also it is a good point about perpetrator trauma. People are very caught up in the idea that PTSD means the same thing as being a victim, or that you have to be "innocent" to be traumatized. And many people think that people that are not "innocent" are not really traumatized, they just act like they are to get sympathy.

But in reality people can get PTSD from killing another person or torturing them or harming them in another way. Committing that violent act against another person is very devastating emotionally and mentally.

And sometimes people think that perpetrators don't deserve help for their trauma, as if trauma is a punishment for doing something bad.

Society has to change a lot for us to understand these things and truly be compassionate towards all people.

[ilovedthestars]

"how do you feel about labels as a queer person?"

[vendal-construct]

We Do Not Like The Concrete Tomb.

[vendal-construct]

This is our most popular post and we've seen more than one person tag it as "unreality." We understand why one might think that but we assure you: it was not.

These facilities chew you up. They suck the life from you and grind your body to dust to extract every ounce of profit they can.

These places destroy the body, the mind, and the soul.

[aynsasnya]

greedy devil

[2productive]

[sirenofthegreenbanks]

this is from "research as a leisure activity" by celine nguyen, publs. on stubstack in 2024. it's a very good read

[copperbadge]

I met someone when I was pretty young who had received a generous inheritance -- not enough to live a life of luxury, but enough to live on comfortably without working. He had chosen to simply keep going to school his whole life. He did get degrees, but he didn't use them for anything other than pleasure -- he had a Ph.D but also two Master's degrees, three BAs, and was currently serving an apprenticeship in blacksmithing while considering trying out some trade schools next. I thought, if I had the money I'd do that too, and then thought about how I still could learn all the time, it would just have to be a hobby instead of the career he'd made of it. It definitely changed the way I saw both education and leisure.

[genderkoolaid]

i want to see just how many people get left out of polls / surveys / studies that split the community up into non-overlapping groups of trans men vs trans women vs nonbinary/genderqueer people. so answer my poll child......

note: NB/GQ here is serving as an umbrella term for all kinds of identities, including but not exclusively people who describe their gender as just "nonbinary" or "genderqueer." if you would say "yes i am a trans man/woman, and also [insert other gender here]" that would fall under the first option below.

do you identify as a trans man/woman, NB/GQ, or both?

i am a trans man/trans woman, and ALSO nonbinary/genderqueer

i am a trans man/trans woman, and NOT nonbinary/genderqueer

i am nonbinary/genderqueer, and NOT a trans man/trans woman

i am a NOT trans man/trans woman, and NOT nonbinary/genderqueer

Remaining time: 6 days 10 hours

[lightshadowverisimilitude]

Waymo Takes Revenge, Dropping Drunk Teens Directly Into Squad of Cops

A Waymo vehicle delivered two 15-year-olds, who were drinking alcohol and shooting small water beads out of the car, straight to police.

I'm sure it's totally fine and normal and great that the taxi spies on you and will just deliver you directly to the police :)

This definitely can't be something that would be used in an abusive or arbitrary way :)

Law enforcement for sure wouldn't abuse something like this :)

[puipui-official]

This was predicted in 2015

One Star

I got into the passenger seat. There wasn't a driver seat. But after two turns, something felt wrong: the self-driving Taxy was heading the

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

just off the top of my head, this has been a common scifi trope since at least the 90s. pretty easy to predict

[cognitiveinequality]

[tanoraqui]

TO BE CLEAR, the “AI” “driver” of the car did not alert the police or do anything else. A human employee of Waymo was remotely observing the passengers through the car’s many internal cameras, and they alerted the police and remotely made the car pull over. It does not seem to be public knowledge why a Waymo employee was remotely observing this particular car.

Waymo calls San Mateo police on teens for drinking, shooting toy guns from driverless vehicle

Two 15-year-olds on a Waymo joyride were intercepted by police and detained for underaged drinking and shooting Orbeez gel blasters from the

This doesn’t make the whole thing less dystopian, nor even very much less cyberpunk. But we should be clear on the details.

[segamascott]

[supreme-leader-stoat]

This is true but I'm gonna be controversial for a second and say that I feel bad for jocks who get hit with The Injury™️too. The Injury™️ fucking sucks, man. Having something that everyone praised you for when you were young suddenly betray you and having to grapple with both a sudden loss of ability (whether it's something that can be recovered from or not) and figure out what your future looks like now that the one you had imagined for yourself (whether it was actually realistic or not) feels like it's been snatched away is brutal.

[evilwriter37]

Yeah, like, maybe we shouldn't be shaming/making fun of people for either of these things!

[fibro-memes]

[do-you-have-a-flag]

[creatingblackcharacters]

We will ALWAYS be here, and we will ALWAYS overcome!

[neonshroudedgraves]

Bluesky asks Texas users to verify their ages, citing new app store law

"Why do you need age verification on a site where everyone is 38?"

[stevishabitat]

idk who on earth could possibly need to hear this, but do NOT, under ANY circumstances, give out your SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER to ANY SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS

☝️☝️☝️

[silurisanguine]

Bluesky's age assurance sucks, here's how to work around it.

Bluesky's age assurance sucks, here's how to work around it. - bluesky-osa.md

Ublock Origin filter gets around it. VPNS at the moment get around it too.

[robinade]

In conversation with multiple posts going around discussing technical literacy and typing skills…

I HAD typing classes: my typing speed is less than 35 Words Per Minute

I did NOT have typing classes: my typing speed is less than 35 WPM

I HAD typing classes: my typing speed is 36-45 WPM

I did NOT have typing classes: my typing speed is 36-45 WPM

I HAD typing classes: my typing speed is 46-55 WPM

I did NOT have typing classes: my typing speed is 46-55 WPM

I HAD typing classes: my typing speed is 56-69 WPM

I did NOT have typing classes: my typing speed is 56-69 WPM

I HAD typing classes: my typing speed is faster than 70 WPM

I did NOT have typing classes: my typing speed is faster than 70 WPM

I'm on mobile/ vanilla extract option

Voting ended onJul 20

➡️ Take a typing test here (and you need an actual, physical keyboard for this):

1-Minute Typing Test — TypingTest.now

The industry-standard benchmark used by employers and typing certifications worldwide.

➡️ 'Typing classes' refers to computer skills classes you might have had in school; you can also count games or other related typing training your parents might have had you do.

➡️ Across 3 different typing test websites*, the (english language) world average typing speed is 40 WPM.

*typingtest.now, typingtestgo.com, typerworld.com

[genderkoolaid]

queer opinions on cops at pride

We analyzed LGBTQ people’s perspectives on police participation in LGBTQ Pride events using data from the Policing the Rainbow study, the first nationally representative survey examining LGBTQ people’s experiences with and perceptions of the police. Respondents were asked to indicate the extent to which they agreed or disagreed with the following statement: “Police should participate in LGBTQ Pride events to show their support.” [...] The Policing the Rainbow survey was fielded in August 2022 through NORC’s AmeriSpeak Panel. The survey used a stratified, multistage probability sample of households in the United States, was administered in both English and Spanish, and was designed to be representative of approximately 97% of U.S. households. A total of 1,598 respondents completed the survey, yielding a response rate of 27.1%. The sample was constructed to produce representative groups of LGBTQ and non-LGBTQ adults. While both LGBTQ and non-LGBTQ respondents shared perspectives on police participation at Pride events, this research brief focuses exclusively on the perspectives of LGBTQ respondents (n = 798).

from "LGBTQ Perspectives on Police Participation in Pride Events" by UCLA's Williams Institute

found this data very interesting. particularly the fact that no group opposes cops at pride more than trans people

[genderkoolaid]

for those wondering how this could be possible: if you spent a little time with old white middle class gay people in the US things these results will be profoundly sensical i promise.

alternatively: there is not a community in this country immune to cop / state / status quo propaganda, no matter what extraordinarily good reason that community has to hate the cops and the state and the civilizational status quo.

[ymutate]

Gloria Petyarre (Australian Aboriginal, 1945-2021

Bush Medicine Leaves, 2011

Acrylic on Belgian linen

59 1/10 × 78 7/10 in (150 x 200 cm)

Private collection