silly

[s1llythoughts]

I hate October. I hate her. I hate knowing I’ll never get better. It’s been two years since she sa’d me. I have only gotten worse, it’s so isolating.

[surviving-trauma-day-by-day]

Strategies to deal with thought spirals and rumination:

- Allowing the thoughts to be there for a moment and actively thinking them through one time - then telling myself: "This is a thought. Thoughts aren't dangerous. Thoughts are allowed to exist. This thought was allowed to be here - and now it can leave again." Then trying to let it go.

- Visualizing the thought as a bird that flies around my head. Then telling myself that it's not allowed to build a nest and visualize it flying away.

- Writing the thoughts down.

- Talking about the thoughts with other people.

- Thinking of alternative thoughts that might be more helpful. (For example instead of "I will never get better" think "I don't know if I will get better. But I also know that healing is possible. And it's worth sticking around to find out.")

- Focusing on my surroundings/ the present instead of the thoughts.

- "What would I say to a friend who has those thoughts?"

- "Conference table" with my trauma/ inner critic/ other parts of me. ("The trauma/ inner critic got to speak a lot today. Now it's enough.")

- Using skills.

- Doing an activity and focusing on that instead of the thoughts.

- Allowing myself to feel the emotions that come up and doing something to deal with them. (Like comforting myself, allowing myself to cry or punch a pillow,...)

[s1llythoughts]

help gender problem. I’m like pretty sure I’m a boy and most the time I just want to be the most masculine guy out there but sometimes I want to do feminine things like dresses and nail painting but I don’t like she/her at all and I feel like I’m failing gender aaaaaa pls help is this normal??