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WOULD YOU NOTICE IF I WASN'T HERE ANYMORE

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Bleeding sun - More here

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sharing this cause i wish i learned this sooner

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But did you really forgive them if you aren’t willing to let them back into your life

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Forgiveness is letting go of your anger at someone. It doesn’t mean you have to trust them again.

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People often confuse forgiveness for reconciliation

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My abusive ex once tracked me down and said he had done so because of a 12-step program telling him to make amends. He apologized. I told him “I’m glad to hear you’re getting help. Thank you for the apology.” He then tried to add me as a friend on Facebook. I told him “I accepted your apology but we are not friends. I hope your life continues to improve. Goodbye.” and thankfully he fucked off. I have to tell you though… I was sweating bullets the whole time.

I am honestly glad if he is getting help(I only 70% believe he was in the program and only 40% believe he will change because of it)…. but not only does an apology not heal the damage he caused… it certainly isn’t enough for me to risk further damage.

I owe him nothing. I didn’t even owe him a response to the apology. I did that for me because that is who I want to be. I want to be the person who can set healthy boundaries while being compassionate to those who have wronged me.

Hate is a heavy burden to carry for someone you don’t even like, so I choose not to hate. I do choose who I let into my life however, and there is a high bar.

Turns out I was going to be okay. So long as you're not in my life.

You don't get to walk in like nothing happened 3 years later. You don't get to walk in full stop.