shayne

20, he/him, ⚧︎, queer mixed poc. meow 🦝

[tragbarerpanzrabwehrkomplexfagot]

[bixels]

Always tough seeing how rampant polyphobia still is online with the same hateful talking points as any queerphobia. People openly and snarkily celebrating someone grieving a break up in a poly or open relationship because they’re “bound to fail” and “hopefully you learned your lesson” (as if every queer relationship hasn’t faced this exact scrutiny in the past. “See, this gay couple broke up. Yet another example of why homosexuality is destined to fail because it’s unnatural.”).

But then I remember how everyone IRL I’ve trusted to talk to about my poly relationship has either been immediately accepting of it or been really curious and asked me to explain how it works. And when I do, they go, “Huh. I don’t get it but it sounds like it works for you.” The best response was when Tulli explained navigating jealousy and compersion to an older, married person and they went, “Wow, I wish I heard this stuff when I was younger.” It’s a good reminder that in real life people suck less and have more stakes and motivation to show basic human empathy. Harder to be a random dickhead when you can’t just say something shitty to a stranger and run away scot-free.

[bixels]

true nuke

[bixels]

Always tough seeing how rampant polyphobia still is online with the same hateful talking points as any queerphobia. People openly and snarkily celebrating someone grieving a break up in a poly or open relationship because they’re “bound to fail” and “hopefully you learned your lesson” (as if every queer relationship hasn’t faced this exact scrutiny in the past. “See, this gay couple broke up. Yet another example of why homosexuality is destined to fail because it’s unnatural.”).

But then I remember how everyone IRL I’ve trusted to talk to about my poly relationship has either been immediately accepting of it or been really curious and asked me to explain how it works. And when I do, they go, “Huh. I don’t get it but it sounds like it works for you.” The best response was when Tulli explained navigating jealousy and compersion to an older, married person and they went, “Wow, I wish I heard this stuff when I was younger.” It’s a good reminder that in real life people suck less and have more stakes and motivation to show basic human empathy. Harder to be a random dickhead when you can’t just say something shitty to a stranger and run away scot-free.

[frothingbeerbottles]

As a borderline, I love narcissists so much and cannot understand why some people are like “bpd is the result of narcissists/narcissistic abuse” when the term narcissistic abuse was coined by an israel defence solider, who yes, did have npd, but he also blamed his narcissistic tendencies for three counts of securities fraud. He also believes that narcissists “cannot be healed, because they do not exist as real persons, only as reflections” and exist as a false self instead of that just being them or having these be adaptions for survival in stressful situations, all of his takes on narcissists are self-cop outs to demonise other narcissists and make him unaccountable for his actions. And you guys fell for it hard because you didn’t even know that it was made by a narcissist or even the integral history behind it like you guys seem to do with EVERYOTHER thing.

I LOVE it when narcissists are high and low, i LOVE it when they devalue people because they’re being unreasonable or ableist assholes, or even just because they’re being grating and purposefully ignorant and no one wants to say anything. You guys who hate on narcs for being disordered, ESPECIALLY if you have bpd, are just assholes, point blanc. All you want to make a group of people who are already hated on and targeted specifically because they are not your idea of perfect victims which makes you look more victimised in comparison.

TL;DR: you guys fell hard for the term “narcissistic abuse”, clung to it like a baby sloth and didn’t even know the history behind it or that it was made by a narcissist, and you guys definitely don’t know or care what being a narcissist entails or how it forms in people so maybe think twice before you flap your lips and speak up on shit you’re clearly uneducated on. Don’t throw your narcissistic siblings under the bus to get validation from neurotypicals who wouldn’t spit on either of you if you were on fire.

[witchrealms]

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[jaggedspine]

* I was wrong. * The dream never happened. * Kris hadn't changed. * I hadn't changed. * I had simply gotten carried away. Please do not reupload my work.

[genderkoolaid]

cis people are wayyyy too damn comfortable with making jokes about men getting pregnant. and frankly so are other trans people.

[genderkoolaid]

idk what trans man/transmasc needs to hear this but no you are not in on the joke. 9/10 when somebody makes an mpreg joke they are not laughing with you. they aren't even really laughing at you. they are laughing at a caricature of you. they know what a trans man is and yet have so little care about trans men that their first thought when it comes to pregnant men is the hilarity of a cis man being feminized (often forcefully) and how amusingly grotesque or amusingly erotic they find it. you are not in on the joke. you were never in on the joke.

[genderkoolaid]

like. :( this was a funny episode otherwise but this was just really uncomfortable and upsetting to see. especially since i know dropout cuts out certain prompts in editing for a lot of reasons, so this promot went through so many different steps and nobody brought up how this might come across? or nobody thought it was bad enough? and i kept waiting for the contestants (one of whom literally is genderqueer!) to work into their jokes something make it clearly about cis men or smth, but. no. and how am i supposed to take that y'know?

[genderkoolaid]

i think my biggest problem is that these jokes boil down to "isn't it so WEIRD that a man is pregnant/has breasts???? isn't that so STRANGE?????" and whether you take that the route of "this is funny because its disgusting/disturbing" or "this is funny because its extremely erotically charged, often in a way tied to humiliation/control" you are deriving comedy from the idea of a trans/intersex man's body just. existing naturally. there is no greater depth it is just "wouldn't it be funny if a man was female in some way? but still identifiably masculine but in a way that has been corrupted by the sexual embarrassment of the most stereotypically female act? isn't that amusing?" and at worst its another example of how, when people try to get one over on cis men through the route of gendered/sexed humor, it frequently relies on leveraging trans & intersex men as examples of a man at his most failed, embarrassing, sexually dominated. and the worst part is again that there's not even a cursory attempt to diffuse this charge by the comedians making these jokes, there isn't any acknowledgement of what they are talking about. it's like anyone who's ostensibly a trans ally enters this pocket universe where trans and intersex men don't exist whenever one of these jokes comes around. and how am i supposed to feel about this!!!!!!!!!!!!

[genderkoolaid]

also its funny that the only time I have ever seen any meaningful public outrage about these jokes was towards Lil Nas X with his Industry Baby promotional stuff. which i frankly didn't even mind. because while obviously there was an element of "man pregnant!! how strange!!" because of Society, but to me the humor was primarily "a literal reference to the album title" + "i have a new album coming out, so i am depicting myself as literally pregnant with my new album." if he had been a cis woman, it still could've been funny, because there was more to it than just the shock factor of him being a man (although that is mostly how people took it).

but yeah. the only time ive ever seen anyone get any meaningful pushback against these kinds of jokes, was when it could be used to "call out" a Black GNC gay man who was already getting a ton of homophobic hate. how interesting.

[genderkoolaid]

"boypreggers" "boyvulating" "boybortion" do you know that a black trans men had the cops called on him because he went to an OB/GYN? or how a black trans man had doctors try to pressure him into getting an abortion, on top of other racist and transphobic medical mistreatment that caused him to have a mental breakdown and develop PTSD after giving birth? or how a black trans man was arrested for shoplifting because he was pregnant and they assumed his baby bump was stolen clothes? or that a pregnant trans man had to jump out of an uber with his wife and run away from the car because the driver was threatening him for being a pregnant man? or how a pregnant trans man was murdered by his abusive husband and misgendered across the news? do you think about any of this ever? do you remember your mpreg obsession when you start talking about reproductive rights or do you immediately start talking about "men controlling women's bodies" without a hint of fucking irony? has your fetishization and mockery of male pregnancy actually translated into any meaningful support for men who can get pregnant?

& i wanna make this crystal clear my point is not "everyone who makes these jokes knowingly is doing it to mock trans men." many people who make these jokes DO think they are doing it in xyz totally lighthearted unrelated to trans men way you think justifies this. my point is that no matter what people think these jokes are about, they are indicative of how we think about and engage with the reality of trans and intersex men. at the very least i want people to think twice before they throw around these jokes like there's no deeper meaning here.

[genderkoolaid]

reminder to all trans & intersex men that you are always allowed to be a huge bitch about mpreg jokes. it IS that deep and you are RIGHT to be upset about it.

[artistsanimals]

Title: Vultures in a Tree Artist: Antoine-Louise Barye Date: 1810-75 Medium: Watercolor on woven paper Size: Sheet: 10 11/16 x 15 1/8 in. (27.1 x 38.4cm) Source: The MET

[vintageeveryday]

Mugshot of a teenage girl arrested for protesting segregation, Mississippi, 1961.

[attackoftheskydancers]

Her name is Joan Trumpauer Mulholland. Her family disowned her for her activism. After her first arrest, she was tested for mental illness, because Virginia law enforcement couldn’t think of any other reason why a white Virginian girl would want to fight for civil rights. She also created the Joan Trumpauer Mullholland Foundation. Most recently, she was interviewed on Samatha Bee’s Full Frontal on February 15 for their segment on Black History Month. Don’t reduce civil rights heroes to “teenage girl”.

[lobodecasa]

tell me to grow wings...

[this-is-orientalism]

could you explain why naming an island in animal crossing Konnichiwa is orientalist? [genuine question] ive seen people name their island lots of things, even things like (english) greetings, so im just wondering if its orientalist on its own or with a mix of the rest of that "japancore" bullshit

totally okay if you cant, i understand. have a nice day/night!

white people w absolutely no relation to japanese culture be like if you can name your island Hello why is it orientalist to name it an exoticized japancore uwu buzzword because it sounds cool for my cute aesthetic island

[smokey-jinn]

[lenixtt]

the lake

[wtchgrrl]

can you guys stop putting typewritermonkey and her stupid comic on my dash. she’s a literal intersexist who says that those who talk about getting reassigned a gender after birth are straight up lying because she personally doesn’t understand why someone would do that

“hey, i know someone who went through this thing and it really messed them up” “erm, source? you’re lying!! nobody would ever do that!! doctors aren’t THAT bad to intersex people!! why would they be cruel when it has no point??” literally just look up herculine barbin, no one is stopping you

[ieatratsyummy]

[ID 1: a bluesky post from Typwritre Monky (tpwrtrmnky.bsky.social) that says, I keep asking transmisogynist tumblr users who invoke "well sometimes intersex people have complicated histories with birth gender assignment" for ONE source explaining the purported forced legal reassignment process they talk about. I never get one. I get sources on OTHER stuff that happens. Underneath that post is a reply from her that says, If there's anywhere that has a normalized practice of "if your intersex child develops sex characteristics contrary to their birth gender assignment, they Have To be reassigned" I would like to know how that works! But nobody seems to want to back that claim up with anything!]

[ID 2: another post on Bluesky from the same user that says, Because this claim only ever seems to pop up in discussions of transfeminization as a material, social category, and is exclusively deployed as a gotcha with NO cooperative intent from the people doing it, I basically have to assume it originates from one of: - Lying. - Severe misunderstanding.]

[ID 3: a third post from the same user that says, Are those sources saying "corrective procedures are done to intersex babies" or are they backing up the claim "sometimes an intersex baby is assigned one sex, then in later childhood assigned a different one seemingly for no reason". With a reply underneath that which says, Because this is the issue that I keep having. There's an outlandish and bizarre claim about a convoluted process where doctors are being evil in a way that doesn't even serve the typical patterns of abuse against intersex people, and when I ask "what" I just get explanations of regular intersexism!]

[quicklyzanyfang]

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[yixiaosuige]

gazavetters #710

[lovs-ck]

nothing is scarier than having a crush on a cis girl as a trans guy

[ahmed-ziiaad]

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[ahmed-ziiaad]

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What we need is not impossible, but it is more than we can manage alone. If you're able to donate, please don't wait. If you can't, please share this appeal. It may reach someone who can give my mother the chance to receive the treatment she urgently needs.

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[a-shade-of-blue]

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