like dean's childhood WAS fucked up and interesting and worth talking about!!! but so many people have locked onto their particular desires for dean's character and refuse to engage with what we are actually told and shown by the show so they have to make shit up instead. it IS interesting that dean took to hunting so well, that john trusted him to be brought along on hunts as a child, that he viewed himself as a parentified figure for sam who was responsible for his well-being, that often his decisions or actions while acting under those roles in his own mind were harmful or wrong or made sam upset. that is interesting! it is interesting and often used in early seasons as a plot point ON THE SHOW!!! that sam and dean have very different understandings of their childhood! why would you make it LESS interesting by deciding "dean's view was 100% right and sam is either stupid or lying" rather than accepting that when sam counters dean's beliefs about their childhood it isn't to make a he-said-he-said argument for no reason it's PLOT, on a TV SHOW, that shows that dean's GOOD INTENTIONS often FAILED, just like john's!!! because dean was a child and trusted his dad! and sam was a child and trusted his brother!
imagine seeing "i was kind of a lonely kid, dean" / "no you weren't, you had me" and thinking "ha! take THAT, sam! your lies will NOT be accepted here!" rather than "the differing views the brothers had about what sam was experiencing (by which sam's view is de facto the 'more' correct one, both because it is about HIS experiences and also because of what we are shown and told in this episode and others) is a central theme of what makes this tv show interesting"
imagine seeing the difference in sam & dean's heaven memories and assuming sam is somehow MANIPULATING HEAVEN and/or heaven is twisting the world to suit sam's INCORRECT understanding of their childhood just to MAKE DEAN FEEL BAD and thinking that that reading of this television show is, like, better and also canonically true. why do you want to make the conflict "dean is right and the world is actively conspiring against him to gaslight him" rather than "wow, ten-year-old dean was put in a horrible situation and wasn't equipped as a ten-year-old to fix the horrible situation his six-year-old brother was also in, and now as an adult dean has to reckon with that, and it's upsetting for him, and he often denies this rather than admit he was incapable of being a parent for his brother because he thinks sam is blaming him and accepting that blame that will ruin or strain their relationship, which ironically strains their relationship because sam isn't trying to blame dean, he's trying to be understood"