My daughter's half-English, but she'll only be asked about the other half
“You’re the son of a Nigerian and a Norwegian, which is quite unusual. And I wonder, do you feel a very strong sense of being a role model for British Norwegians.”
I could have obsessed over any number of lines from the Richard Ayoade interview Kristian Guru-Murthy attempted to conduct this week. There were perfect wordplays, brilliantly obtuse retorts and moments of laugh-out-loud silliness. But is was the pointed question about Ayoade’s Norwegian heritage that stuck in my mind.
For in the UK (and every other western country), mixed-race people are defined by the darker-skinned part of themselves. In most discussions on race Richard Ayoade isn’t English or half-Norwegian, he’s half-Nigerian.
50 years ago this bias was understandable. The vast majority of the UK population was white, and so any other race was seen as intriguing and ‘exotic’ (and yes, as a lot of far more hateful things as well.) But today, when 20% of the UK population is non-white, and there are over 1 million people of mixed-race*, the novelty has surely worn off. So why do we still ask mixed-race people about the parent with the higher melatonin level?
I never had to answer questions about my nationality or ethnicity. I wouldn’t, being blond-haired, blue-eyed and of the very English surname ‘Taylor’. But, for my daughter, it’s something people will ask her about frequently. And she won’t be allowed to give the easy answer.
Her mum is an Australian citizen, who was born and brought up in Singapore (until she was 11). But her ethnicity (courtesy of her great-grandparents) would be classified as South Indian, Tamil from Kerala to be precise. Despite her great-great-grandfather possibly being a French soldier.
So when people ask my wife, as they frequently do, “Where do you come from?” her first response is “Australia”.
Inevitably she’s then asked “Yes, but where are you from, originally?”.
She answers “Singapore.”
“Yes, but originally? Where are your parents from.”
“Singapore.”
Cue a puzzled “Ok, but…”
Eventually, she’ll explain that a long, long, fairly irrelevantly way back, her family came from South India.
My daughter will have to answer all of these and another layer of questions. But, despite being born and brought up in Bristol, few people will ask her about her Englishness.
*http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-20677321










