[natalieironside]

Have you tried just channeling your instincts to appease into BDSM instead of letting them inform your political philosophy?

If you really just have a deeply ingrained need to be in a hierarchical space and give respect to ppl u call ur superiors, like. Hi. We can do that for you. I know some people.

[thelovers-thedreamers-and-me]

if you really want to lick boots we can make that happen but with better boots

[naamahdarling]

We have flavored boot polish.

[thebibliosphere]

And snacks for after.

[nixiecat]

when u ask ur dog what it's got in it's mouth and it starts chewing faster

[playfully-sadistic]

Subtle and secretive is not my thing in terms of ownership.

I'll pull you in for a kiss with my hand around your jaw in public. I'll lean down over your shoulder and blow sweet promises against your ear while making eye contact with someone who's been a little too friendly with you. I'll pull you into my lap in a crowded bar when we're enjoying the night with friends, and I'll place my hand just a bit too far up your thigh to still be appropriate. I'll make jokes towards our friends about how you've probably spent more time on your knees in our apartment than on your feet. I'll leave marks and bruises on your neck - and tell you to wear clothes that show that your neck is not the only place I've marked up. I'll remind you to "be nice" and "behave", and I'll throw you reminding glances when you step too far out of line. I'll put compromising pictures of you as my homescreen. I'll have us leave a public bathroom together with your hair disheveled, your lips swollen and your cheeks red and telling. I'll excuse us from an event, much earlier than socially acceptable, and make sure that everyone knows for what reason. I'll have you tied up in the bedroom with a vibrator tormenting you and a gag forcing you to stay quiet, while our guests are two rooms away and I tell them you're "occupied, but home" when they ask about you. I'll push people's hands away when they reach out to touch you without my permission. I'll let my hand brush over your ass when I feel like making sure your plug is still in place.

I'd leave no room for you - or anyone - to question my authority over you, and you could surely complain, so how weird that you never choose to.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.

[june-egbert-official]

Someone who says they don't care if dudes wear dresses and makeup is a better ally than someone who says they're a safe space for women and non-binary people. I am not joking.

[redrook]

yeah I went to a gay bar recently with my husband tumblr user beemovieerotica, and a VERY confused capital S Southerner straight man in cargo shorts and a trucker hat showed up

apparently he (who through my drunken memory I remember only as Earl) liked some woman, and she told him that he wasn't cultured enough and needed to attend his first drag show (she also flaked on him)

Now I'm reasonably androgynous and was wearing makeup, a short leather skirt, and black heeled boots, but still when this guy came up to me when I was standing off alone and asked "So. Do you come here often?" with a very earnest expression, I thought. Surely not. This guy doesn't think I'm a straight woman does he????

Anyway I start talking with this guy and he has no idea what the fuck is going on but he is just a very kind and earnest dude and asked a lot of questions (while asking if it was alright if he asked those questions). I track down my husband and friends and I'm like y'all. We need to make sure that Earl has a Good Fucking Time tonight.

Man was completely out of his depth. At one point they put on a puppy auction to raise money for Pride, that started with a 6 ft drag queen in all her glory leading a leather pup out on a leash to the tune of that damned RSPCA "in the arms of the angels" song

We look at Earl. Nervous. He squints, laughs, and then goes "I was wondering why people were dressed like that!" He turned to me and asked "So they're like dogs?" And I said yeah pretty much. And he just chuckled and went "Yeah I thought so with the tails! Never seen this before!"

When the first drag king came out, Earl looked at me wide eyed and went "There's a dude version too?!" And I said yeah they're called drag kings. And he said, low, "Drag kings."

During one of the queens performances, he frowned, shook his head and told me, "Your legs are better than hers." in a tone that implied he thought there was some travesty taking place and I should also be getting paid

When he found out I was there with my husband (and that I am not a woman) he profusely apologized and said "I'm so sorry, it's dark in here and I thought you were a hot chick! I wouldn't have said nothing if I knew you had a husband, I'm so sorry about that."

When beemovie invited me to the dance floor with him later and I still had a drink in my hand, Earl said "Oh don't worry about that I can hold your drink, you get on out there and shake your ass with your husband!" Then before we left, Earl bought me drinks for "Putting up with me all night and answering everything. Y'all helped me have a great time tonight."

like. You gotta recognize there's going to people who have never had interacted outside of their of their own community. This includes you. And just because your community is familiar with all the right vocabulary and how to correctly say something, it doesn't mean they're actually going to support you. If someone like Earl shows up, confused and out of their depth but kind and curious and earnest, you gotta have patience and truck through the small things, so when he goes back to his friends and his coworkers and they snicker asking how the drag show was, he can genuinely talk about how included we tried to make him feel and that he had a great time

The person matters more than the language

[noodlepoodlepupper]

[bdsmgeek-deactivated20141001]

[subnancy-blog]

This clever rope-cuff allows her to grasp the rope when she struggles so it doesn’t injure her wrists.

[milkymissy-deactivated20160113]

this is actually quite wonderful and I don’t really wish to delve far into the art of this but someone took the time to come up with this and it’s nice

[animentality]

This is just drip.

[whatsallthisnow]

I'm pretty sure what they mean is the people walking around in Puppy Play masks and the like. Nice try though.

[tuulikki]

Being scandalised by pup play masks is so embarrassing it never fails to crack me up

It’s a shirtless dude in a ickle little goofy leather doggy-woggy mask ooooooh terrifying how threatening how terrifying I am traumatised from even imagining it please help me Jesus!!! 😭

What can these people claim to be threatened by, exactly? That they’ll get bitten and turn into a pup play enthusiast, like some kind of kink werewolf?

[shadowknight1224]

You saw someone with a puppy mask in public??? Ohhhh my godddd should we call the news??? Should we call you an ambulance???

[japanese-gum]

this is what you're afraid of?

[ace-pervert]

Soooo scary.

[turquoisemagpie]

Petition: Legally enshrine the right of adults to physically transition using NHS services

Introduce a law to legally protect the right of those aged 18 and over to transition using NHS services. This should specifically cover phys

Uk peeps!! Let’s get this going! 🏳️‍⚧️🇬🇧

[18thcenturythirsttrap]

...Non-UK peeps, please reblog for reach ❤️

[playfully-sadistic]

Subs who start to drool at the sight of a fat and prominent cock bulge

Subs who rub their entire face against said bulge, ignoring the fabric

Subs who beg you not to shower before they suck you off

Subs who can't stop getting themselves off while their mouth is on you

Subs who passionately sniff bulges and moan when the scent gets to their head

Subs who could spend hours just giving head and feeling full, heavy balls on their face

Subs who get off to being used as throat whores

[playfully-sadistic]

Easy guide to force yourself into subspace when you get off all by yourself: Pant. Do not moan - open your mouth, put your tongue out and let your drool run down to your chin while you rub yourself silly. Nothing quite as humiliating affirming as that.

Whine. Squeak. Do not touch - hump.

Make yourself feel exactly like the animal that you are, lead by instincts and instincts alone.

[hexlatex]

I think this is the closest a null drone toy can get to giving you puppy eyes 💕

[olive-pup]

Y'all, it's official now!

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[puppygirl-panopticon]

Hey check this out its dope (and hot) (to me)

[servantofdiscord]

A big aspect of what makes the fantasy of hypnok*nk fascinating to me is just the idea of being made to act on a way you wouldn’t otherwise. I tend to be a very reserved, low-energy person who has trouble adjusting to change and has trouble trying new things or even doing things I enjoy without getting overwhelmed thinking about the obligations that come with them or figuring out where to start. Executive dysfunction is a bitch. So whenever I fantasize about hypnosis I tend to focus on myself of a character being made to act differently whether it’s just a simple behavioral change or a complete personality rewrite make them utterly devoted to some new cause or an individual, the idea of just having your mind rewritten and able to focus and perform a task is already appealing as a cathartic experience overcoming my own personal limitations and then the aspect of having your agency taken away or entirety removed makes it a form of power play that drives me crazy in a good way. Just the contrast of being made to act in a way you wouldn’t normally and knowing that it’s not you doing it it’s you following orders is something I am simply obsessed with, I just want to feel that empty mindless state where I can’t think any other way than what I’m told to think where I’m no longer standing in my own way and I am not overthinking things and I’m just doing what I’m told because it’s what I’m told and the deepest part of me that’s still aware of what’s going on is just thriving in this state.

TL;DR The fantasy of hypnosis taking away my agency completely is really cathartic and hot.

[sylladextrous]

start hrt today! what're you waiting for?

fuck it. it's posting my art time

[playfully-sadistic]

Clean them up, bitch.

[playfully-sadistic]

In case no one has told you: If you feel like you "have to dom" or are always "expected to dom", and it feels more like a task than anything, then maybe you're not a switch. Maybe you're "just" a sub who likes making people happy, and that's okay, but don't pressure yourself into providing something for others that doesn't bring you you, just to please them. I'm picking this example specifically in this direction because there's always been more subs around than doms, and it can feel impossible to find a dom without a switch/switch dynamic.

There's no shame in being exclusively a sub or exclusively a dom. It's also not "boring". Your preferences matter, they're very valid, and no one's worth ignoring your own comfort for.

Also, if you do enjoy domming or subbing and still prefer to call yourself only a sub or only a dom, that's very valid too. Labels should make you comfortable and not make you feel like you've stuffed yourself into a too tight box.

And while we're at it: exclusive doms aren't more valid or better doms, thanks.