The Simplicity of Life

Mundane and hops around.The predictability and the mundane but comforting ordinariness is my normal-day-to-day life. Based in Singapore Wanna talk? Telegram @sayitsmay

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

holding yourself accountable and tearing yourself down are two different things

[taeriminal]

how to do it (asking seriously)

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

be aware of what you’ve done wrong. forgive yourself and learn from it rather than beating yourself up over it and thinking it’s just a part of you that can’t be changed. know that you can’t go back and undo it but also that in the future you can do better and not repeat the same regret. self hatred stemming from regret is hard to control, but it can be managed with patience and practice.

[lierdumoa]

DON'T focus on:

how guilty you feel

how much punishment you deserve

DO focus on:

how to prevent it from happening again

how to make amends

[closet-keys]

sometimes I think I fundamentally have a different experience of things like emotion and belief than many people, because when people say things like “why worry when you can’t change the outcome?” or “wouldn’t you rather believe xyz” I’m left thinking are other people just consciously deciding what to feel and believe?

I don’t feel things because I logically decide the most useful emotion to experience and then decide to experience it— things happen and my bodymind reacts to it viscerally through the sensation of emotion. When a hammer hits your knee and your leg jerks up in reflex, that’s not deciding to lift your leg and you can’t stop yourself from that movement because it’s not helpful.

I believe things because that’s my actual perception of reality— if there’s no counter evidence I’ve found that reality is different than I understand then I’m not going to just.. stop believing in what I understand to be real because it would be more pleasant to believe something else. I don’t even understand how that’s possible— if you’re just deciding, is that genuine belief? or just a refusal to learn more because of a commitment to a particular idea/story you’re comforted by?

I just don’t feel like I understand what people even mean with these words. I can choose what I learn about and how i react to emotions and the circumstances that the emotions rose in reaction to, but I can’t just decide what to feel and believe based on convenience.

[szonikuscsavarhuzo]

Vintage coke machine

[weltenwellen]

Judith L. Herman, Trauma and Recovery

[quotespile]

“Am I a good person? Deep down, do I even really want to be a good person, or do I only want to seem like a good person so that people (including myself) will approve of me? Is there a difference? How do I ever actually know whether I’m bullshitting myself, morally speaking?”

— David Foster Wallace, Consider The Lobster

[quotespile]

“How little our careers express what lies in us, and yet how much time they take up. It’s sad, really.”

— Philip Larkin, Letters to Monica

[saja-star]

holy shit is this gorgeous.

[albertserra]

Utah to Become the First State in 2024 to Ban Transgender People From Using Bathrooms

News & Opinion Utah will become the first US state in 2024 to prohibit transgender individuals and youth from using bathrooms in publicly ow

Utah will become the third state to restrict trans persons from using bathrooms in buildings other than schools, alongside Florida and North Dakota. However, the legislation in Utah is of a different caliber as North Dakota’s bill only applies to correctional facilities and dorms and Florida’s legislation only applies to government-owned buildings.

In accordance with the bill, trans individuals could also be charged with voyeurism and/or criminal trespass if they use publicly owned bathrooms that align with their gender. According to Utah’s law, these class B Misdemeanors are punishable with up to six months in jail and a fine starting at $1,000 if charged and convicted.

[metanarrates]

the law has already passed, as of last week. I can't emphasize enough how scary this is for the trans community here. please keep an eye out for any trans people you may know in the state, and consider avoiding utah if you're trans. this is beyond horrible for us here

[mutedtempest]

what the actual fuck. I know Utah is horrible because Mormonism is pretty disgusting in multiple ways and the state is controlled by the LDS church, but... yeah.

All the people who didn't listen when we told them religion and moral "purity" politics are dystopian and terrifying are gonna get burned pretty good. It's horrible but this is what happens when so many support people like this.

[aahsoka]

‘bread is bad for you’ ‘rice is bad for you’ sorry im not subscribing to the idea that staple grains that have been integral to cultures for centuries are evil. i love you carbs

[tysonfurybattlepass]

the only bad part about going to the zoo is hearing adult men confidently tell their kids or gfs objectively incorrect information about the animals we’re looking at and having to remain silent. do u know the restraint it takes to say nothing when a grown adult man tells someone “falcons are in the same family as eagles” next to me? no babygirl. no.

[tysonfurybattlepass]

fyi falcons are not closely related to other birds of prey (hawks/eagles/buzzards). falcons are actually parrots that minmaxed for a glass cannon dps build.

[tysonfurybattlepass]

assault parrots, if you will

[onceiwashere]

please do not mistake a small group of people on the internet doing something stupid, or something that makes you mad trending with 100-1000 tweets, for an urgent and widespread social issue. it’ll make you mean, complacent, and easy to manipulate before you realize it

[onceiwashere]

also… if you see someone complaining about or arguing against an absurd position, that doesn’t always mean that the thing they’re complaining about exists or is common. lots of people use social media to win the arguments they have with themselves in the shower

[a-forger-and-a-point-man]

Full story here

[tylerknott]

Typewriter Series #347. Steamy again. (at Helena, Montana) https://www.instagram.com/p/CqrczsvLBXY/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[renamok]

[noromodragon-deactivated2019082]

This really hit home, and there are many types of families in the world. It would be great if more people could realize that. 

[pearwaldorf]

You want some serious old fart advice? Never, ever lend your friends more money than you think you can lose permanently. I don't fucking care if they say they'll pay you back. I don't care how small the amount is. Write that shit off as gone in your mind. It will eat at you forever if you don't.

Some people say the same thing about family, but I think it applies more to friends. Family is (usually) held together by obligations the way friends aren't. And money is a huge stressor in all kinds of relationships, not just romantic.

I'm not saying this to bum you out. I'm telling you because this is not something you want to learn on your own. Because it fucking sucks to realize it's one reason you're no longer friends, whether you were necessarily aware of it or not.

[vaspider]

I generally go one step further: I do not lend friends money at all. I will give you what I can afford to give, and I ask you to pay forward what you can when you can, give to someone else who needs it. This policy has really served me well. When I'm giving money, I never have to worry if I'll get it back -- I won't! It's a gift! No stress!

[cacopheny]

yeah I don’t ever care about getting money back even if a friend insists they’ll pay it

that’s what money is for. spread that shit around. don’t worry about a return

[therehavebeenstranger]

that lizzo quote about loving yourself as a tactic of survival

[therehavebeenstranger]

yeah

[gatheringbones]

in the realm of hungry ghosts, by gabor maté