F*ck Him: Nice Girls Always Finish Single
Summary:
A high-value woman knows her way around men, regardless of whether or not she’s good looking.
High-value women repel bad men, or men who won’t bring anything to the table in a relationship.
Men are repelled by the ‘nice girl’ or ‘good girl’ because:
She’s looking for the one, and she thinks she’s found him in her new partner.
She’s led by the belief to accept less than exemplary behavior in hopes that he will one day change (not happening).
She tries to impress him, often overcompensating by being overly nice and appeasing, driven by the belief that she’s not worth enough. It should be the other way around.
Your actions define how valuable you are.
Never seek a man’s approval.
Never let a man call all the shots.
The high-value woman doesn’t play games. She considers herself to be a prize, one he needs to chase after.
High value women have more important things to do than to chase after a man, regardless of whether it’s mundane or not.
Mental fucking:
Two important rules to remember:
Never share your body with him too soon. You will fall in love too hard, and way too soon.
Mentally fuck him as soon as you can: creating a challenge will force him to look past your looks.
First impressions are critical towards cultivating the impression of high value.
If you want him to treat you like a queen, act like a queen right out of the gate.
How to mentally fuck a guy:
Decide what you feel are just feelings, which come and go, rather than falling head over heels for him.
Want a relationship, but not just any relationship. Be happy to stay single for as long as necessary.
Neediness comes from natural instincts.
You never need a man or a relationship.
She consciously wonders, “Is this the best guy to give my time to?”
“If this guy never changed, would I really want to be with him ten or twenty years from now?”
She knows she doesn’t need her looks to get a great guy.
Setting the rules:
After the first date, she doesn’t reach out. She’s busy with her life.
She’ll see when and if she contacts her again. She isn’t willing to spend time on a guy who isn’t putting in the work she deserves.
She never behaves like a bitch. Instead, she has a take it or leave it mentality.
The first couple weeks of interaction set the stage.
Whatever is set is difficult to change later. Create the right habits as soon as you can.
For ambitious men who want success, they work for what they want:
That’s why high-value women are so attractive. Her standards are not an act. It is the only acceptable way.
Three most important traits:
She’s a queen, and she has a lot of self-respect, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
He is not the center of her life.
She never, ever pursues him. If he seems to lose interest, she withdraws. She has better things to do.
Managing men:
Is he playing games?
When he says he’ll call and doesn’t - this places the ball in his court.
Right way to respond: don’t care. Don’t even become fazed when he steps back.
You can find a guy who cares and does better.
Creating distance by disappearing.
Right way to respond: Put energy into your passions, interests, and other men you start dating.
Men who are not sufficiently interested will disappear.
Claiming he’s not ready for a relationship: a phrase used to create space and lead women on.
Right way to respond: Say, “Take all the time you need. I’m not sure about you either.”
Respond with low investment by even lower investment.
Never consider him nor the relationship as important as he does.
Counter-intuitive way of getting him to do what you want:
Give him the feeling it was his own decision. If he comes to the conclusion, he will stand by it.
Reinforce good behavior. Ignore him when he shows bad behavior. Consider him less important.
Ignore him when he doesn’t add value to your life to train him.
If you want a man to do something, ask another man to help you, or tell him you’ll take care of it.
Men are governed by their own egos.
The more you need him, the less he will want you. The more you want him, the more he will need you.
Don’t show him you need him. Have extra activities, so he won’t become the center of your life.
Work on your mental strength. The more you try not to lose him because you need him, the higher the probability he will eventually leave.
Ideal praise to criticism ratio in relationships is 5 to 1.
Avoid getting played:
High-value women are in short supply. Make men earn your attention.
Your emotions are never to be trusted.
Establish a strong set of boundaries.
Self-respect is #1.
Men always treat you the way you allow to. They cannot respect a woman more than she respects herself.
When his attention declines: do the same and withdraw.
A man should never, ever be totally sure that you unconditionally love him. For if he is, he will move on to the next item in his hierarchy of needs.
