the best thing about being over my dad is that now i can be crazy about my mum instead but it's beautiful, because instead of feeling like i am wretched and mangled and need to be mercy killed, which is how my dad made me feel, i get to feel the joy of finally having a mother and being a daughter which i never thought i would have. we went out for afternoon tea yesterday, she bought me new shoes and i convinced her to buy a pair of earrings for herself because they match her tattoo and i even found a necklace that reminded me of her grandma and she got that one too. i get to nap on the couch in the garden with my head in her lap and i never have to cry myself to sleep again because just the thought of my father gave me a panic attack. it really really does get better