Love, Joy, and Marriage
I just want the first off thank everyone who has actually consumed my content. I never thought that the things I say would be interesting to other people oh, and it actually is, so that's cool. Today, I wanted to talk to you about the concept of joy. I come from a Biblical background in the sense that my mom was in the church, I was raised in the church, so that's a history that I have within me as a person. Not to say that who I am unilaterally, I'm not saying that I'm a pastor or a theologian, I'm just saying that I've had exposure to that realm of information.
In regards to the Bible itself, there is no emotion regarding happiness, you won’t to see happy in the Bible, but you do find joy. So what I have done is it looked up what joy meant. And at this point of my life looking at what love is and what joy, not to say that I'm looking for love or I'm in love but I've experienced love, and so the 2 make sense. If you look at the love and the joy, they come up on each other, and we as individuals who are older start to want to get married. And we want to get married sometimes because we're influenced to do that, we have peer pressure to do that either from your family or friends or even if that's the culture that you are brought up in, there isn't that idea of marriage that's there.
But the idea that me, I, personally feel that marriage represents is a union of 2 people who have agreed that their life has the same purpose. Not to say they are both going to be doctors, they are both going to be a nutritionist, but they both want to live a specific type of lifestyle, they share the same vision. There is an idea in the Bible as well where there is 2 animals, oxen, walking together and they are tied together or chained together, bonded together by our yoke. And it says you and another person can't go the same way unless you are yoked together. And for me, I feel marriage is a yoke where you and another individual are plowing ground for the seed to be planted and there to be a harvest.
Completely different concept, but the idea of joy and marriage, when I explore my first marriage, I did not look at joy as a concept at all. I look at, “Hey, this is somebody who I'm attracted to, this is somebody that I really enjoy spending time with, this is somebody who I could see myself with for unlimited time.” I didn't consider joy, I didn't consider love, I didn't consider hard times. All of that to say I have experienced… I have experience to say I don't feel (and this is my personal) opinion that anyone should ever look at anything in life as a goal but to seek out joy. I don't think you should try to be a doctor, I don't think you should try to be a lawyer, I don't think you should try to build a building, I think you should try to find what joy means for you. What does it mean for you to be joyful? Not happy because happy is an emotion, I feel joy is something that's foundational, you're building something up on something and you're leaving a legacy. I guess that would be my personal definition is joy is the verb of leaving a legacy.
So what are you being joyful about? What are you seeking toward that is going to define joy for you? What does joy mean for you? I hope you've enjoyed this episode of my podcast. If you haven't followed me on social media, you can find me on Twitter. I am trying to be more active on Facebook, also I am on Instagram religiously, I know we just talked about like God and all that stuff, that's interesting. But I'm on Instagram pretty tough because I feel like Instagram is the news of today, it's everyone's platform for them to create their own body of work. And so for me, it's like my canvas so I love to just throw things on my canvas consistently. You guys have a great day. If you haven't had a great day so far, I just want you to know that everything that you would do is a small step for you to make a huge accomplishment, but you will not get to that huge accomplishment and sometimes you want even see that huge accomplishment until you take a couple of steps. Have a good day.