ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā š youāre trying to feel your dr with your cr senses
ā a lengthy shifting guide
why is it so hard to shift from your cr to your dr but not so much vice versa? youāve spent the first large chunk of your life believing this reality to be the full extent and foundation of existence. even if you now logically understand this not to be the case, the years spent curating and deepening a mental, emotional, and physical anchor to this reality has warped your perception of reality and instilled in to you the subconscious idea that your cr is the default. and in treating it as the default, the end all be all, and in compromising with it, you reinforce the idea that you are attached or stuck hereāthat it is even a place to get stuck in in the first place. not only do you trap yourself in this reality and grant it power over you that it does not actually have, you start viewing your cr as the āstarting pointā too, and shifting as some form of transportation from point A to point B. accompanying this belief is an imagined distance created between your current reality and desired reality. you mightāve already recognised this in yourself; the feeling that your dr is somehow faraway, a place that needs to be travelled to.
itās important to make and internalise the distinction between a shift in realities as an act of metaphysical travel, and a shift in realities as a shift in focus. imo the former is a much better descriptor for what shifting actually is in essence. i will go into more depth later, but a byproduct of being raised the way you were, growing up knowing nothing but your cr and rooting & centring yourself wholly (confined) within it, is the over identification you end up developing with your cr self. you are not living reality, you are watching it. but after years of the constant unbroken immersion, the two become almost impossible to distinguish. you define yourself by and take on as if they were your own the thoughts and identity and feelings of the āvesselā you are observing, and let them dictate how you experience reality. the lines begin to blur between you; your cr self, and you; your awareness/the observer.
feel your hand. donāt touch it, but notice itās weight and temperature, or the air around it. now feel the feeler. can you feel yourself? or your body, maybe? now go a step further and feel the one feeling. you probably arenāt fully able to, but this is the observer. āthe observerā, or the state of being after breaking the immersion, is you in your natural or purest state. it has also been described as pure awareness, the void state, ego death, sakshi, the self, anatta, and interpreted in different ways across a multitude of different religions and branches of spirituality & philosophy, all used as a means to an end for different things. fyiāiām not saying you have to completely forsake your cr identity or start ignoring/dismissing your senses or thoughts to shift, just understand that those things donāt define you or your reality. the means to the end here is just getting a point across and hopefully helping improve with the approach you take to shifting. all of this to say, youāre not travelling from point A to point B. point A and B are not places you can (technically) even travel to or exist in, because youāre just watching/observing/being aware of. shifting is not the transportation of a self from one location to another. shifting is simply changing what is focused on/experienced; from one stream of experience to another. a shift in focus.
to summarise, you as in your ego, the you in this cr as you know it, your body, your brain, your thoughts, your identity, donāt actually go or shift anywhere. you, your awareness, in favour of perceiving you, your cr self, the one sat at your computer or phone or whatever reading this right now, starts perceiving a different you/ego/selfāone that could have the exact same personality, memories, and thoughts, just in another realty, or one that is a different person entirely. there is only a change or āshiftā for the observer, not the cr self or ego. so stop trying to feel your dr with your cr senses. youāre not going to. youāre so immersed in your cr and cr self that you automatically rely on this realityās bodiesā senses to gauge your success when you try to shift, waiting for your cr self to get a cue that itās never going to get. the surroundings your cr self feels arenāt going to go anywhere. nor are your senses going to shut off. your cr body will continue to receive sensory information, because thatās what bodies do. so donāt lie there expecting your bedsheets to disappear or magically warp into your dr surroundings or something and feel like youāve failed when they donāt. shifting is not about somehow willing your surroundings to change or lying in your room forcefully convincing yourself that your senses are feeling something else, itās about acknowledging whatās beyond those senses. feeling and connecting to what your dr self feels.
if you can still feel your cr, itās not you feeling it, itās your cr self. and you are not your cr self.
you can apply this to your thoughts too. your thoughts are no less your cr selfās than your senses are. if you start getting doubts mid attempt or canāt let go of the thought or feeling that youāre not in your dr, remind yourself that you are not your feelings or thoughts or doubts. you are simply observing them. of course your cr self will think that theyāre still in their cr, they are. just ignore them and shift your attention elsewhere. your focus and awareness are what dictate what you experience, if you relinquish your focus from your cr and direct it to your dr instead, thatās where youāll ābeā.
obviously thereās no one set way to shift, so if you want you can stop reading here and apply this information to your shifting journey in whatever way suits you. if youāre interested in my method though, hereās the compilation of all this info into practical steps you can actually take to shift.
get comfortable somewhere you wonāt be disturbed. close your eyes and focus on what you can see. the light behind your eyelids, shapes, colours, whatever. but instead of automatically interpreting these sensations as belonging to your cr, allow them to become sensory input from your dr. light? thatās coming from the lamp by the xyz in your dr bedroom. or maybe your in a field if thatās a fitting setting for your dr, and itās the sun shining down on you. shapes? thatās because youāve been lying down with your eyes closed for a while now, youāre tired after your classes or job or whatever you do in your dr. even if itās nothing at all, let it be your drs nothing. just feel it. do this for about a minute.
then move onto your body. whether itās sinking, lightness, tingling, focus on it. and do the exact same as you did for the previous step, interpret it as input coming from your dr. donāt worry if you can still feel your body lying in your bed, because your surroundings arenāt going to changeāat least not physically. again, those sensations belong to your cr self, and they donāt prevent awareness from directing itself elsewhere. the goal here is to shift your focus away from them and onto something else, so hyperfocusing on your cr and worrying about your surroundings is counterintuitive. just gently guide your attention back to your dr, really try feel your dr surroundings and what your dr body is currently feeling. if you canāt fully avert your focus away from your cr, thatās fine, at the very least just try receive/tap into the input coming from your dr alongside your cr.
finally focus on what you can hear. if youāve already managed to make a connection with your dr through your sight and physical senses just build up on what youāve already got. feel grass tickling your skin? deepen the connection there by focusing on the sound now too, the wind blowing through it. see light behind your eyes? focus on the hum of the lights.
repeat these exercises over and over, deepening the connection with each cycle. if you donāt manage to get anything the first cycle just keep going until you do. it might take some practice. like i mentioned before, after spending so much time here and being in constant attunement with your cr self, the sense that your cr is the default starts to take root and it can be difficult to shake the feeling that youāre just indefinitely āhereā. itās normal for it to take some time to learn how to question this feeling and push past it. since you've never (technically?) been aware of anything outside of this reality, learning how to do so can be a bit like learning how to use a muscle you've never used before.
this method operates on the idea that reality is something that is tuned into through focus & narrowed awareness and not something metaphysically travelled across, so for the most success with it, iād recommend starting to make a conscious effort to see your dr less like a place and more like a wavelength or channel, a perspective already existing beyond your current focus. shifting to your dr then becomes an effort to notice and receive input from this channel/wavelength, input that already exists out there and that simply needs to be acknowledged. youāre just picking up on whatās already there, feeling something that a version of you already feels.
persist in the belief that reality is observed and flexible. youāre not "stuck" anywhere unless you believe you are.
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"Most of the time you can't see fan art of them because most of the content you'll see of female characters are the ship they have and not just a character"
Getting home after a long day or just being able to let yourself wind down and enjoy a calm afternoon with your f/oā¦ One thing's for sure in both of these situations: you feel right at home in their arms.
It started off with you laying together, deciding to get cozied up while catching up with you favorite show, of doing a quick rewatch of some of your favorite movies, but the way they kept on rubbing your back and lovingly placing kisses to the top of your head just make everything feel so warm and relaxing.
You couldn't help but nod off in their arms, and they didn't mind whatsoever! In fact, getting to see you this at ease while being close to them makes their heart feel soft and warm, they just want to make sure you're always able to feel this safe and loved when they're around.
If they need to get up, they'll wait it off for as long as possible, your rest is their number one priority right now, besidesā¦ You just look so cute! How could they ever get themselves to bother you? It'd be like taking a cat off your lap while they're napping, outrageous!
The show/movie quickly becomes background noise to them, getting to hear your steady breathing and watching your cute expressions is far more fascinating to your f/o! It makes them wonder what you're dreaming aboutā¦ They'll make sure to ask about it later.
Once you manage to wake yourself up, they'll hold on to you just a bit tighter, they want to stay as close to you as possible! They ask how you've slept in between peppering kisses to your face, as well as cooing about how adorable you looked.
As you ramble on about your dreams or how well rested you feel, they can't help but let their smile grow wider and wider. They can't wait to spend the rest of your lives together, with many more calm times like this.
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