Goldstar lesbian: I’m pretty lucky I figured out my sexuality early and never slept with a guy. I’m glad I didn’t because I know I would regret it now, and it would have made me really uncomfortable, so yeah I’m pretty happy I’ve always known I was a lesbian which I’m aware is a pretty rare experience. Yay, good for me.
Everyone on earth for some reason: oh so you’re just a creepy straight guy who is saying that women who have slept with men are dirty impure sluts? you’re saying that late bloomer lesbians aren’t actually lesbians? You are a misogynist who judges women’s value based on their sexual history?? You want women who have slept with men to literally fuck off and die??? You are literally planning a mass genocide of women who have slept with men???
Gold star lesbians make up approximately 0.5 percent of the global population. No one hates you or is mad at you because you are straight or bisexual and slept with a man, and no one hates you for being a late bloomer lesbian who slept with a man. It’s fine, in fact, you are the status quo. I have a lot of respect for women who didn’t realize they were lesbians until after sleeping with a man, or even marrying one. All the hardships that late bloomer lesbians talk about when it comes to compulsory heterosexuality, social pressure, and uncomfortable sexual encounters with men are exactly why I’m really happy and proud of myself for figuring myself out early, and not caving to any social pressure, because I know that’s not an option for most lesbians and not a common experience. Late bloomer lesbians have every right to also be happy with themselves and proud of the things they’ve gone through to get to a happy lesbian life, and it wouldn’t make me insecure. You wouldn’t see me claiming that late bloomer lesbians are creepy men.
But the second commenter is absolutely right, I don’t view any type of male as a real woman! But even if you believed trans women are women, they are male and have penises. If being a gold star lesbian requires never sleeping with a man, there is no physical tangible difference in sleeping with the male body of a “cis man” and a “trans woman”. You have sex with your bodies, not your internal identities.