While going through shit...
You tend to realize how much shit you can legitimately take. And it’s not shit, it’s just a whole heap load of life lessons. And when we realize that, it will make us so much stronger and grow to be a better person to yourself and to others. Sometimes we have to hit what we define as “rock bottom” to realize that everything that happens to us is literally for a reason. For a lesson. To make us a better us. And some don’t realize this. Some just think, “ wow, this always happens to me!” or “ of course, this would only happen to me!” or “ why does this keep happening to me?”. It’s because you haven’t learned your lesson. You have to deal with it differently if ~omg it fucking keeps happening to you~ These lessons are ment for you and there is nothing thrown at you that you cannot handle. There’s a solution to every situation that you encounter.
I’ve just realized people complain so much. It’s so sad. It’s like every little problem they come across they are completely ignoring the lesson. That’s why this shit keeps happening to you. You failed at learning your life lesson. Which does not make you a failure, it’ll just keep happening to you so you can learn how to deal with it. Then “omfg why does this keep happening” turns into “oh its nothing, its happened to me before, no biggie” Then you proceed to deal. with. it.
If you learn how to deal with your biggest problems without getting frustrated or complaining constantly to everyone around you about it, then maybe it’ll stop happening. Or at least you can figure it out in a manner where you can actually get knowledge from it and not have it effect yourself and the people close to you.
Another thing a lot of people don’t understand and I had a HUGE problem with it myself, was consistantly word vomiting our problems to others. Everyone has their own level of problems and pain. But that doesn't necessarily mean everyone you know needs to know every single problem and pain. Have you ever realized in the middle of telling someone your problem, they go into this void in their head racing through all of THEIR problems (or "get me outta this convo!") Then either the conversation goes into this woe is me convo, then you end up with two depressed people talking about their problems, complaining about something they can fix. Or you get one person slowly wrapping their word rope around you and just dumps all their troubles onto you. Which is not fair if someone is just trying to be there and genuinely cheer you up or trying to make you look at the bright side but you continually insist that you tell them about how much pain you are in or what happend that one Friday night when you decided to go out with friends and everyone else had a great time but you. You're just wasting time, dwelling on the negitive. What can you do to make the situation better, keep talking about it? Telling the same story 20 times to 20 different people? That’s not helping. You’re only digging yourself deeper into a sad world, that's made up in your head.
We all have the power to change the negitive into a positive.
And we all have learned a grip of life lessons, just think about it.