Self-Love Central

She/Her, 21, Queer, Feminist, Self-Love Enthusiast

[selflovecentral]

♥︎ About me ♥︎

I'm a 21 year-old lesbian college girl trying to make a difference in the world while attempting to love myself as I am. Follow me for uplifting self-love tips, reminders, etc. This is a safe space to normalize people growing and loving themselves.

Actual OCD and ADHD haver.

weight loss journey updates

Black Lives Matter // Free Palestine 🇵🇸

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[selflovecentral]

Hey y'all I'm so sorry for the hiatus, I have just been kind of disillusioned with Tumblr recently. Hope everyone's good and taking care of themselves. Love y'all

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

dump his ass. move to a walkable city. start hormones. get into fiber crafts. dye your hair weird. grow an herb garden. foster a distrustful cat. take a welding class. invite your friends over for tea and cake. get way too into obscure media. explore a new cuisine. lie to the police. protest in the streets. life has so many possibilities don't it?

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

make out with a frenemy. buy noise cancelling headphones. wear office inappropriate attire. quit a toxic workplace. improve your apartment. start a dog walking sidegig. get on first name basis with your local librarians. bully politicians at town hall meetings. get an unexpected piercing. cultivate farmer's market connections. trade recipes with a gossipy old neighbor. unionize your apartment complex. move to the countryside. let a friend take you larping. keep a sword on your mantleplace

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

get a tattoo on your 40th birthday. be tempted to buy a loom. do a charity drag show. sue your landlord. buy a really nice kitchen appliance. volunteer at an anarchist soup kitchen. rediscover a tv show you watched when you were 8. spam your state senators. shop at asian grocery stores. do cosplay. buy trans flags in bulk and mount them along the highway. go viral for unexpected reasons. move in with your best friend. make lemoncello with leftover lemon rinds. run for school board membership. explore pegging.

[selflovecentral]

dorm tips 🏠

moving into a dorm/shared living space this year? here's some tips just in case!

respect your roommate and their space. treat them how you'd want them to treat you. 🤝

keep your area clean (within reason ofc). dorms and schools in general harbor a lot of dirt and germs, so don't let it build up too much or you and your roommate could get sick! ALSO: some schools do room checks and will fine you for excessive messes or damage to the space. don't let them get you! 🧹

wash your sheets. more than once a semester. once a week is ideal, but every other week works best for me. 🛏️

develop a laundry schedule. personally, I do laundry every Sunday so that I always have clean clothes/towels/etc. 🧺

decorate! a lot of dorm rooms & school apartments kind of look like jail cells when you leave them blank. get creative and get comfortable! 🪴

connect with your roommate, but it's okay if you aren't best friends. my freshman year roommate and I were very different and ran with very different crowds (she was preppy and in a sorority, I was emo and barely went to parties), but we maintained a good relationship through small talk, shared space, and just talking about school experiences. 🫂

know where your RA is and how to get in touch with them. if there's a building group chat, a phone number, etc. that they tell you to save, save it! you never know when you may need them. 📱

this one's a little nsfw and probably obvious, but I have a friend who had this issue with her roommate: do NOT have sex or masturbate while your roommate is in the room. My friend's freshman year roommate constantly had hookups in their room and was always watching porn with no headphones on. you can get in serious trouble for this stuff, and it's extremely disrespectful. if you have your own space and a door that closes and locks, go crazy. but respect your roommate and don't subject them to that. ✨

Let me know if there are any questions or anything else you'd like advice on! I've lived in dorms with roommates for three years, so ask away! :)

[selflovecentral]

back to school 📚

hey everyone! sorry I haven't posted in a minute. life's been busy. but I'm about to start college again (gonna be a senior this year!!) and I thought it'd be nice to make a little list of things that help me keep my life together during the academic year.

take your meds! keeping your mental & physical health in check is the most important thing. 💊

eat what you need to when you need to. if your brain isn't getting the nutrients it needs, you can't do your best in school! protein is really important for brain function as well as health in general. 🍱

hand-in-hand with that, whether you're on meds or not, make sure you've got your support system. the people (doctors, therapists, family, friends) who support you and who you can talk to if necessary 🫂

get a calendar. can be physical or digital, whatever works best for you. put due dates/classes/meetings/whatever on there to make sure you've got all your ducks in a row. 🗓️

wash your hands often! classrooms are dirty, and you don't want to get sick right when you're trying to get back into the academic groove. 🧼

brush your teeth! I know that for me, I'm always worried my breath smells bad in conversation, so I find it easier to talk to new people and relax a bit when I've brushed my teeth before classes. 🪥

figure out where you work best. library, classroom, dorm room, work & study wherever you feel most focused and productive. 📚

take good notes! on paper is shown to be more effective, but if digital works better for you personally, go crazy. ✏️

get a good relationship with your teachers/professors! be kind to them and communicate well and respectfully. but if an instructor isn't being kind to you or treating you with respect, don't hesitate to ask to be moved to another class. 👩‍🏫

get to know your academic advisor/counselor. if they're good at their job and know you mean business, they can be a big help. 🤝

general hygiene! shower, do laundry, wash your sheets (especially if you have a roommate). you'll feel better and those around you will appreciate it, too. 🚿

[lastoneout]

Sorry we really went from free the nipple, take back the night, slut walks, and ending gender/sex segregation in sports being fucking milquetoast feminism 101 concepts to fucking girl dinner and "I just worry about fairness if we let trans girls play against cis ones" and "it was right of that woman to call the cops on a black man for existing near here in public during the day time because men are all violent monsters" and "radical feminism isn't transphobic we just need to kill all men including trans ones those oppressive traitors" and I will legit never be able to be normal about it. What the FUCK happened. I'd say I wonder what the feminists of my youth would say about this but I'm one and lemme tell ya I want to throw up. Go fucking read bell hooks or do something else useful please because all of this learned helplessness, gender essentialism, and transphobia dressed up as feminism is actively holding us back.

[karlovycross]

Summer Berry Mix 🍓🫐 ♡⊹˚₊

[ed-recoverry]

From one Gen-Z to another, let’s continue to deprogram ourselves from the idea that 30 is old and you need to have your shit together before 30.

You can go back to school after age 30!

You can fall in love after age 30!

You can find a best friend after age 30!

You can find a passion after age 30!

You can find a job you love after age 30!

You can recover from an addiction after the age 30!

You can pursue a large goal after age 30!

You can travel the world after age 30!

You can move after age 30!

You can change your appearance after age 30!

You can ask for help after age 30!

You can make discoveries about yourself after age 30!

You can come out after age 30!

You can fix your finances after age 30!

You can be attractive after age 30!

You can fix your life after age 30!

You can do anything after age 30!

Idk what so specifically about the number 30 has bewitched so many of us into believing that means your life is over, but it’s just so far from the truth!

You have so much more time after 30 to accomplish all that you want to do.

Your life isn’t over until it quite literally is over. Stop giving yourself a deadline that doesn’t exist!

[selflovecentral]

Quick rant about Zepbound & a current issue I’m facing

If you’ve been following me for a bit, you know I was on Wegovy for awhile for weight loss. I was overweight and unhappy. Sadly, the Wegovy made me feel like shit and throw up a lot. So in December of 2024, I switched to Zepbound, which has been working great for months. Literally no complaints.

In June I got a letter from my insurance telling me they’re no longer going to cover Zepbound. They recommended a couple alternative drugs, one being Wegovy, the others being ones my doctor advised me not to go for.

I just feel so lost because they’ve already denied my appeal to get it covered. My doctor isn’t being very helpful. And I’m 90% sure that if I go off Zepbound, I’ll gain most, if not all, of the 45 lbs I’ve lost back. I’ve always hated exercise and the feeling of being sweaty. I could definitely eat better, but I think I eat normally for a college kid.

It’s so cruel because this medicine gave me a glimpse at a life where I’m not worried about calories, where I’m not constantly comparing myself to my friends, where I can shop stress-free knowing the store will have something that fits me. I got to experience what it was like to be able to eat whatever I wanted, just like my friends. And now that’s all being taken away.

I know that this is partially a psychological issue. That I should be able to be comfortable at a higher weight. But it’s also just how much harder things are for heavier people. It’s societal pressure. It’s the way doctors look at you and treat you.

If anyone else is going through this, don’t hesitate to reach out/comment your experience. Also, does anyone have any suggestions for what I can do to somehow get this medication that’s made my life better for the past year?

[selflovecentral]

Okay the OCD-induced trichotillomania is getting better (a little).

I keep my hair up most days now so I can’t pull it out as easily/see split ends that I want to rip out.

My hair is usually only down in my room, where I keep hair cutting scissors, so if I see a split end while fidgeting with my hair in there, I can just cut off the split part.

Overall, the goal right now is to stop ripping hair out however I can.

[selflovecentral]

I think I’m dealing with OCD-based trichotillomania 😭

Ever since I bleached my hair there’s been some breakage and every time I see a split end in my hair I pull it out, I was doing that before this but it’s gotten worse recently 💀

Does anyone have any tips to stop this compulsion?

[selflovecentral]

Self care in the summer ☀️

Wear sunscreen if you’re going outside! Even on cloudy days. ☀️

Get outside! This is a very easy time of year to sit inside and be on your phone. Don’t forget to take a break from that when you can. Go for a walk, go to a pool, go to a movie theater, anything to break up the summer monotony a little. 🏝️

Drink lots of water! This heat can be literally killer, you don’t want to be dehydrated. 💧

Shower regularly! It’s hot out there and you’re bound to get sweaty, so don’t be crusty/stinky for too long. 🚿🧼

Know symptoms of heatstroke and sun poisoning! These can be really dangerous, so look out for yourself and your loved ones. (I threw up the other day because I was in the sun too long and was dehydrated) 🔥

Aloe Vera/after-sun products after you’re out in the sun! Helps to quickly lock in a tan and also soothes sunburns. 🥵

Moisturize! This goes for all year, but it’s always nice to have moisturized, healthy skin, especially during a season where you might have more of it exposed to the weather/elements. 🧴

Manage your sleep schedule! Every summer I feel like I go to bed super late because I’m not in school, and then I end up sleeping in way too late the next day and regretting it. Set a rough bedtime/wake up time for yourself if you feel like it. 🛌

Every body is a beach body! No one is thinking about your body, your scars, your weight, etc. What matters is you feel good and you’re having fun. Don’t let insecurity stop you from enjoying a wonderful time of year! 👙🩲🩳

Not SELF care, but still important: please take care of animals around you. Pets, strays, friends’ animals, etc. It’s hot as blazes outside, and animals are not immune to heatstroke and heat exhaustion. Put out some water for strays if you can, and make sure your pets are being well taken care of whether they’re inside or outside. 🐱🐶

[psyduckz]

“she’s setting women back decades” can we have a little more faith in women here

[selflovecentral]

I know this is a blog dedicated to self love and uplifting messages, but I need to say this.

If you support Trump, his administration, ICE, cops, etc., do not follow me or interact with my posts. I want absolutely nothing to do with you, and I sincerely hope your words and actions haunt you someday.

[thefloridagothic]

Fuck ICE and fuck you if you support them

[foundations-of-the-slay]

Determined to keep my black box dyed hair and winged eyeliner through college graduation to prove alt bitches can get degrees

[selflovecentral]

Guys I hate to say it but I went back to my natural color earlier this week 💔

(my last year of college is about to be so busy and hectic that I don’t think I can keep up black hair dye maintenance)

[selflovecentral]

hey y’all I know it’s been a minute, but I just wanted to say if you’re part of the protests in Los Angeles against ICE rn I support you and I’m with you, even from across the country. Stay safe, take care of yourself and those around you. You’re making this country a better place. 💕