You Put The Stars To Shame

Trish/Julian | 27 | she/they/star | selfshipping sideblog 🔞 | pfp by wolfienuked

[selfshippingsorceress]

~♥~ Welcome to my selfshipping blog ~♥~

(remaking my introduction because time has passed)

Hello and welcome! My name is Trish (alternative names you can call me include Julian, Bunny and Tara) and this is my selfshipping blog (main blog is spellstrucksorceress, art blog is spellstruckart)

I'm 27 years old (which makes me ancient in selfshipping years /lh), genderqueer (my pronouns are she/they/star), bisexual and polyamorous

DNI:

Minors (I know selfshipping is really popular among teens but I'm almost 30 and feel uncomfortable interacting with kids half my age + some of my partners are from 18+/M rated sources + I want to be able to occasionally post more NSFW/NSFT stuff)

Anti-selfshippers (duh)

RPF/selfshippers with non-fictional partners

Adult selfshippers with minor partners (yes, that includes aged up characters and "1000 years old vampires who look like little girls" or any other nonsense excuse)

Fans of the following ships: Gale/Mystra*, BloodWeave (Gale/Astarion), OakBlood (Halsin/Astarion) [BG3]; Chance/Lux*, Diceplay (Chance/Parker) [Date Everything]

(The * ships make me genuinely uncomfortable, the others I'm just tired of having shoved down my throat because of how popular they are)

The usual DNI criteria (queerphobes, racists, misogynists, etc.)

🪻pronouns.page🪻romantic F/Os🪻ask games 🪻stuff I write 🪻

[sealovinq]

a reminder that it's okay not to have intricate lore with your f/o. you don't have to figure out how you first met, how you became friends, how your relationship with them grew, how you knew that you'd stick together forever. it's okay to immediately jump to the part of your story when you are already together without the need for a back story. it's okay to draw yourselves together even if you haven't explored how you would even get there in the first place. it's okay to just exist with them without having to give justification as to how you came to be together. your f/o is already happy to simply exist with you.

[snow-ange1]

Imagine your f/o clinging to your waist and begging you to come back to bed so they can keep holding you.

[inquissien]

A kitten at heart

[fictother]

F/O kissing your tummy.

[kiawren]

Is this anything

[dmclr]

dont worry if ur self inserts look extremely similar like give them all the same three hairstyles give them all the same color schemes!!!!! they are inspired by u after all!!!! give them the same design or make up a new distinct one each time, either way ur making an awesome self insert so long as it reflects u in a way that makes u happy!!!!!!!!!!

[selfshippingsorceress]

🍡🪷🛍️ For Gale!

@lovers-cloudscapes

Thanks for the ask, and sorry for answering only now, it's been so hot where I live lately it's almost painful 😭 Anyway, onto the answers!

Original ask here ~ Divider from here

🍡 what nicknames do you have for each other?

Gale's nicknames for me: my love, my beloved, my dear/dearest, sweetheart, my star/starlight/starshine, my everything

My nicknames for Gale: my love, my heart, sweetheart, my man

🪷 if the roles were reversed and your f/o was the one selfshipping with you, what would their blog look like?

Ngl I can't imagine any of my F/O's selfshipping with me 😭 they're just so cool and I'm...not. Anyway, for the purpose of this ask, I'll put my struggle with self loathing and answer this.

I'm imagining Gale's blog to look not too different from mine, with a similar purple and blue palette, maybe with a custom barely readable cursive font. He would definitely be confident to post fanfiction, gush posts, and even straight up poetry on the regular. I feel like he would enjoy making moodboards and sharing images and quotes that remind him of me.

🛍️ what would your f/o get you as a gift? additionally, what would you get for them?

Gale's gifts for me: snacks, jewelry, perfumes, any trinket that reminds him of me

My gifts for Gale: books and scrolls, writing supplies, trinkets, wine and other fancy alcoholic beverages

[small-sketch]

Figuring how to draw this stray I found

[purpledngnoodle]

Best cover girl is best~ More variants are up on P@30n!

[dreamwinged]

misc. selfship asks ❤︎

thank you for 400! <3 answer these asks however you'd like, but please practice reblog karma if applicable! 💌

🧸 - how would your f/o try to comfort you if you were upset? 🦢 - what's a petty argument you'd have with your f/o? 🍡 - what nicknames do you have for each other?

🪽 - what was your first kiss with your f/o like, if you've had it?

🪺 - describe your f/os perception of you before you got together, compared to what it is now! 🪷 - if the roles were reversed and your f/o was the one selfshipping with you, what would their blog look like?

🧊 - how would your f/o text you? would they use proper punctuation/capitalization, or type more informally?

🍋‍🟩 - similarly, what would your contact names be for each other?

💍 - how do you and your f/o feel about marriage?

🪻 - what's your f/o's coffee or drink order?

☁️ - how does your f/o like to spend their free time with you? 🛍️ - what would your f/o get you as a gift? additionally, what would you get for them?

🫧 - what song(s) remind you of your f/o?

🪼 - what’s your favorite way to feel closer to your f/o?

proship/comship/neutral dni

[sharpenedhatchets]

💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭

btw your romantic f/o is telepathically kissing you rn

💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭💭

proship dni - doubles welcome

[cursed-casanova]

Imagine finding your f/o cuddling a big plushie you often sleep with and nuzzling into it...bc it smells like you...imagine hearing them murmur how much they love you and rustling its fur and maybe even hugging it tighter...

They're so obsessed with you <3

[bleedfurme-main]

me getting a new f/o core :

[armurecla]

‘morning，my love’

[nebbymakesimagines]

I feel like we don't talk enough about how introducing riako/gachikoi, oshikatsu, and similar terms, as selfship terms has done irreprable damage to the selfship community by turning it into a competition for how much merch you own of your F/O.

[nebbymakesimagines]

Back then, owning a bunch of merchandise of your F/O was a novelty. You would look at the guy who owns a bunch of Lola Bunny toys and go "wow, he's really devoted!" because you rarely saw something like that. Those people were so in love with their F/Os, that they went out of their way to buy a lot of merch of them.

Nowadays, it feels like a requirement. Now the expectation is that love your F/Os because of the merch. More merchandise = more love for your F/O. And if you don't have enough merch of them, you aren't actually in love with them. And even if you do have a lot of merch, it's never going to be enough.

I genuinely do blame the use of riako/gachikoi/oshikatsu and similar terms being used for selfshipping because, such terms came from Japanese idol communuties that already encouraged extremely unhealthy views on love and especially with parasocial relationships. Hell, riako/gachikoi literally refer to believing that an idol (as in, a flesh and blood human who exists right here in our world) is in love with you, specifically, and that this is a good thing. A fictional character can't be hurt by you, but a real person will.

Sometimes that real person is you, going into debt to prove yourself the winner of a nonexistent competition. You should buy merch of your F/O because you enjoy having it. If you feel like you "need" to or else you aren't "truly" in love, that's when you need to stop and think about whether you actually like selfshipping or not.

Honestly this is also why I and many others are so critical about Japanese terms being used by non-Asians and especially how prevalent this issue is in selfship spaces. If you can't even tell me where these terms come from and what they mean, stop tacking them onto yourself for aesthetic.

[cursed-casanova]

Every so often non-sharing selfship drama gets brought up Again and I'm like. Sigh. Do you people ever learn.

[cursed-casanova]

okay everyone, repeat after me:

Non-sharers are not delusional, evil, or possessive people by nature

Non-sharers are allowed to have boundaries

Non-sharers are allowed to block freely

Non-sharers are welcome in the self ship community

We all good? Good. God bless and keep ALL Non-sharers.