[positive-pumpkin]

If this is the sign you're looking for, please

stay alive

stay safe

Drink some water

eat something

get back into the things you love

Unclench your jaw

do some self-care

Take a shower or bath

Take your med(s)

[shani77]

Hi!

I want to make it clear that my posts are by no means the encouragement of toxic positivity, this blog focuses heavily on picking apart and analyzing common human emotions and behavior, to help others veiw it in a more gentle perspective, as something in our nature instead of something shameful. Do not undermine your experiences, your emotions, and most certainly do NOT shame yourself for not being positive. Us as people should never be programmed into one thought process or emotion.

[shani77]

What do YOU find beautiful?

If you removed the ideals others have given you, if you looked at the world through the eyes of a newborn, or perhaps an alien, what would you find beautiful? Were you as harsh to the faces you found safety in as you are to yourself? Is your proof of humanity really such an ugly thing to rid yourself of? Would you wish your beloveds to erase such things as well?, and why are you so different from them? Maybe its because youve been told by someone to have shame in your humanity, that the things so normal to have, so normal to want, so normal to yearn for, desire are something animal, undesirable, insignificant, something that doesn't please or serve their ideal. But if a friend came to you, and told you someone has told them that, would you tell them to believe them?

[shani77]

You do not deserve to be hurt. Not by yourself, not by others.

Even when angry, even in failure, even in disappointment, mistakes, even when others tell you, even if you tell yourself. You do not deserve to be hurt, physically, emotionally, mentally. You're mistakes, your internal dialogue, impulsivities, what others have said, what others tell you what you are, what other have done to you, are NOT you. You deserve so much more than being hurt.

[shani77]

Cleaning your space

Once the thought of cleaning a certain aspect of your space pops into your mind, do it. Not later, or after a project, but at that very moment. On your way out the door and notice cups in your way? Take them to your sink on the way out. Going to get a snack? Grab a few aspects of clutter with you to throw away. You don't have to do it all at once, and you certainly shouldn't dwell on it. Including these small projects with your daily routine helps you view it as less of a chore. Just remember that if your space is messy it does not reflect any concept of laziness or slobbish nature. It is simply the result of a living being occupying that space.

[shani77]

The only thing you are in control of in your life, is your choices, the way you chose to treat yourself, how you view yourself, the goals you set, and how you view your emotions. Other people's view of you, and concept of you are out of your concern. Your world keeps spinning once you allow others opinion of you remain just that. An opinion. You know who you are. Take pride in that, have a good relationship with yourself, you are capable of changing your own path, you are capable of deep connection with your soul, mind and body.

[akindplace]

joyfulsmolthings

[shani77]

Your Relationships Do not reflect your worth.

If a partner loses interest, it doesn't mean you as a person are boring. If they no longer find you attractive it does not mean you as a human being are ugly.

You are not your partners compliments, you are not their gifts, you are not their affection.

If they don't see your value, that's them, and you can find someone that sees you for all you are. The first person that can see that is you. Know you are more than how your partner may treat you. Love yourself and seeing others true colours will come easier.

[enesl]

Be with someone who makes you happy.

[what-iz-life]

“You deserve a relationship that enables you to sleep peacefully at night.”

[artbylittlebug]

[thepeacefulgarden]

That's not hypocrisy. That's growth.

[shani77]

Love this

[yes-oh-yes]

[shani77]

Choosing to fight may not always be the best option. For those with malicious intent, fighting fuels their fire. What these people do will make you angry, and unfortunately their main goal is to do that. But that's where your power is, knowing that what they do is simply there to hurt you. You are allowed to feel hurt, but just know their actions are never a result of your wrong doing and never blame yourself for ~why~ this person chooses to do the things they do. Some people are deeply injured and choose to take amusement out of escalating the people around them. The best thing you can do is prioritize your well-being, and find healthy ways to cope with these conflicting situations. Be hard when it comes to your boundaries and don't budge, these people will push and push, let them know that you will not let them overstep the boundaries you've created for yourself. Always know it's okay to leave, and in a lot of cases, even if it means losing a relationship with these people, is the best option to save your soul from the heartache it will cause. If you have the resources, building a healthy support system, including professionals is a wonderful option. Just know you do not have to tolerate mistreatment, do not let malicious people take your power from you, no matter who they are.

[taurusicidal]

i’m coming to tumblr for advice. incoming vent!

i have been feeling super paranoid about if my friends really like me or not. recently, i tried to bring it up to one of them and they told me that i don’t annoy them. but, the reassurance isn’t enough. i’m just paranoid that he’s talking shit about me even though i’ve never given him a reason to.

not only that but we’re hosting a competition together and lowkey i feel like i’ve been pulling the weight. even though he’s busy, i don’t know. i feel like every dm he doesn’t respond to right away, i don’t know what to do. i can’t be honest with him because that won’t change my mind.

i’ve been tempted to leave the friendship because of my own paranoid and not wanting to take others down with me. what do i do?

[shani77]

One thing that helped for me was observing my friends actions, and if they back up with the words they say. If they do then reminding yourself those things when you feel that way can be beneficial. If that is not the case or does not find to be helpful. It is completely okay to give yourself the space you need! You are not dragging anyone down, you are allowed to feel the way you do. And if they view that as you dragging them down they might not be friends that are fit for you.

[shani77]

When others change...

If they have changed after realizing they have hurt you, you still do not have to forgive them for what they have done. Always acknowledge their efforts, but remember sometimes protecting your well being means you may never forgive that person, and whether or not you want them back in your life is your choice, there is nothing wrong with making a choice to be distant towards the person, they may have changed their ways but the way they hurt you hasn't. Forgiveness comes with time. Give yourself the time YOU need.

[shani77]

[gentleaffirmations]

✨Forceful reminder you are a unique soul, irreplaceable in this world, and bring so much to everyone you meet. You have done so much good and have so much more to do. Thank you for just being you✨

~✨✨✨~