having multiple s/os isn't cheating. if you think that it is, please stay away from me. like I'm so fucking serious. (made this post 6 days ago. just now posted)
AND READ THIS POST PLEASE by @mywitchyblog
I was heated when I wrote this ... so I'm sorry if I sound mean everybody ๐ญ
and regarding this logic, I can say, because you don't shift to a reality where you are with the s/os that you have no prior knowledge of, then you are neglecting them :) . and then I can also say, because you have children in different realities that you have no knowledge of, you are neglecting them as well. and that because you are aware that you have children in other realities and chose not to shift there, you are neglecting them.
people that say shit like this are just trying to rationalize their initial knee-jerk reaction, or personal discomfort. I have never actually seen this argument hold up within the mechanics of the multiverse. people want their personal objections to feel objectively "correct," so they try to construct a rigid moral argument to make everyone else conform to it.
YOU don't like it. YOU think it's cheating. doesn't mean it actually is. cheating also has to come with the intention to deceive/hide. so this implies shifting to a reality where you're with a different s/o means you are inherently deceiving them. and then I can also say, because you're not shifting to be with an s/o you have no knowledge of, you are inherently neglecting them.
โถ โ youre choosing to there! you're cheating! it's emotional cheating, not physical! โ I actually hate you guys ๐ญ. as far as this CR goes, emotional cheating can be considered deception in a shared reality. it is when someone tries to keep their interaction with another person from their CR partner through deception, using up their time, trust, and intimacy for someone else in the same world.
it's not like you have a totally separate, enclosed reality somewhere out in the multiverse that your partner is living in. you are not hiding an ex that lives down the street. you have a whole other life in a totally separate reality. their argument assumes that human affection is a pie. and that when you care about something in one reality, that affection is being โstolenโ by a baker from another reality.
this idea is inherently flawed, as human beings can love many children, many friends, many pets, and even many family members at once without any โdepletionโ of the ability to care about another being. feeling affectionate/loving in one reality does not mean that you have less ability to feel the same affection for a loved one in another unless you choose actively ignore them. by definition, cheating involves crossing a mutually understood boundary between two individuals in a relationship.
and to add, saying that it is a 'choice' to shift is not the drop the mic moment you believe it to be. choosing to be in another reality is an assertion of individual sovereignty and multiversal free will. it is not the betrayal of your partner. choosing to be another person through infinite universes does not mean that you are choosing to forsake or deceive a different life.
yes, it IS my choice to go there. since the act of making a choice to exercise my multiversal autonomy is not the same thing as choosing to betray someone. the act of making a choice to live a different life within a whole new universe is not the same thing as choosing to degrade, betray, or lie to my partner. they take 'making a choice' to mean someone is automatically guilty. critics mistakenly interpret the decision to exist elsewhere as malice, but deciding where to direct oneโs awareness is simply a matter of individual freedom.
the decisions we make on where our awareness is directed are OUR CHOICES, not some randoms who believe that free will is a betrayal of trust. living another life somewhere else is not an offense simply because some insecure strangers on the internet feel uncomfortable with it.
strangers on the internet do not have the ability to create boundaries for a relationship after the fact if those two individuals are complete strangers to them (so you should ignore people that say this bullshit). if those two people in a CR relationship never came to an understanding regarding multiversal awareness being a boundary cross, then the hall monitors of shifttok have no say in the matter at all. you cannot fucking break a rule that was never made. the term "emotional cheating" is really just a euphemism for thought policing.
it is impossible to select and decide when multi-reality mechanics apply to human ethics exclusively when it serves your own personal discomfort. the ethics of cheating in an ordinary relationship context are entirely dependent on trust violation and deception in the context of that relationship. however, the context of an entirely different reality consists of that entire life and history that is all contained within itself. it would be absolutely ridiculous to expect someone from reality A to have any control or ownership in reality B.
โbut it seems disingenuous!โ then every reality where you are with someone else is inherently disingenuous. this includes relationships outside romantic partners. you have a different mother? it's disingenuous. all of these are just personal discomfort disguised as logical arguments. except they aren't making sound/logical arguments. they're just emotional ones that have nothing to do with the actual framework of the multiverse.
and I just have to ask, why the fuck do they care!? none of this shit fucking matters. you don't like it? I don't give a fuck! so what!? cry me a fucking river! even if it was cheating, the hell are you gonna do about it? their logic doesn't even make any sense! that's also the exhausting part! it's not an actual, cohesive thing they're saying that they can actually back up, without ignoring the nuances. so it's just seems like an emotional argument, rather than one that's actually consistent and LOGICAL. its not draining resources from the world, you aren't in the relationship, and it doesn't directly affect you. sooo...i'm not exactly sure why we care???
โwell not everyone believes in the multiversal theory!โ so then, if not everyone believes in the multiversal theory then why are we even having this conversation when most people do!!?!?!?!? and you just confirmed that is a rule that is exclusive to YOU or certain individuals. NOT EVERYONE. the second their "cheating" argument gets dismantled using actual multiverse logic, they move the goalposts. rather than acknowledge that the reasoning is flawed, they attempt to turn the tables on the discussion entirely by asking, โwell, but how about consciousness?โ itโs an old-fashioned way of deflecting, as they know they lost the first argument.
even according to consciousness theory, their statements fail! you are completely conscious in the reality you are experiencing right now. when you are in reality B, you are being conscious of reality Bโs situation, its history, and its relationships. the other realityโs partner simply doesnโt exist for you!
let me make this clear. there's a difference between saying, โI personally find it to be cheating for myself.โ and making a moral judgement on other people by saying it's objectively cheating. UNLESS YOU ACTUALLY HAVE THE INTENT TO CHEAT OR DECEIVE YOUR PARTNER, THEN YOU ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG, AND THERE IS NO ACTUAL MALICE. people that argue the opposite like to assume intent because it confirms their own bias. and allows them to approach it so rigidly. intent does not exist without action.
โ well, an action can be bad even if you do not intend it to be! โ yea, but for an action to be considered โbadโ unintentionally, there has to be actual harm done in that reality. shifting does not interact with, influence, or affect this (or the next) reality in any manner. it is impossible to commit an โunintentional offenseโ to a reality if the action was never committed within that reality.
the amount of outrage online about this tends to be nothing more than searching for a way to justify feeling morally superior. the creation of something as abstract and non-existent as "multiversal emotional infidelity" allows them to be the protector of virtue, all without having to deal with the real world. it's incredibly exhausting to watch because everything about it is made-up. they are just creating conflict out of nothing by putting unrealistic constraints on things that they do not even fully comprehend, and getting mad about the hypothetical.
I just end up laughing at the sheer absurdity. we are out there exploring the infinity of the multiverse and they are in comments sections, writing traffic tickets for it. it makes no fucking sense. it's the multiverse. multi. it has no limits or actual constriction or restraint. it just is. things like this are just limitations. and (unfortunately) for some of us, they're comfortable to embody.
bottom line: please STOP projecting your single s/o obsession and personal "icks" onto an infinite continuum of realities. if the dynamic doesn't work for YOU, simply state that. get off ours dicks about it already. jesus christ. bye. angel out. this is my opinion. you disagree? do me a HUGE favor and block me. you can't be civil? your comment gets deleted. I also still can't believe that within the shifting community and the concept of the multiverse, people still have these weird debates and strange opinions over nothing.
