Hey idk if your still active or if you answer stuff like this but it's been really bothering me. In a post you said you basically lived 400 years cause shifting. I'm scared of shifting a lot and then eventually I'm a lot older mentally than physically. Cause then I couldn't be friends with anyone or date anyone bc I'd be too old. Is it possible to not mature while in DRs? Could I spend 2 years in a DR but still mentally be 18? I want to still mentally be 18 when I come back to my CR but idk if that works cause I'll still have the DR memories and memories cause maturity, right? This is making me think of giving up on shifting cause I don't wanna be trapped in this weird age limbo.
Well, this is what I'm restarting this account (reviving- more so) with, Hi!
Basically, it's a tricky subject actually, I'm not solidly 400 mentally, I'm way over that number, at some point you get bored of counting because the truth to many is- it truly doesn't matter, that's something you come to understand when you shift constantly, time can be reversed, flipped, sped up, slowed down, anything, it basically doesn't exist.
The thing with the maturity is this (for me, and my friends (most of them are also over a 100 mentally)), each reality you go to, the events and experiencing the life is what makes you mature, so yes, you would mature if you experienced those kinds of events (age≠Maturity). But, heres a catch, in this reality, since you've only experienced 18 years of life and have yet to mature in a way you have in your DR, You won't have the same mindset.
For me personally, it's not a solid "yeah, I lived a bunch of lives outside of this reality they made me mature, and because of it I've lost all of my youth, that I should have according to this realities version of me." Nope.
Think of it more like this- reality¹ is your CR, you're 18 here, with an 18 year olds mindset. Reality² is your DR, let's say for example, you're 30 there, maybe it's a reality packed with action (Marvel, TWD, TVD and so on..), the events you've experienced made you mature.
You shift to reality² for the first time, you embody the version of yourself there, you gain all the memories, emotions, lessons you've learned, all of it, and the maturity is linked to the experiences, not the age itself. And think of Reality¹'s version of you, the mindset, being in the back of your head, because you're not currently experiencing Reality¹, instead, you're experiencing Reality², the focus shifts. So do you, according to the reality you are in.
When you return from Reality² to Reality¹, your focus and mindset shift again, now, an important thing to keep in mind is that all of what you experienced there, including the memories you gained, they don't disappear, they just go more out of focus the same way your memories of Reality¹ do when you're in Reality².
Yes you might feel older, but it doesn't mean you'll lose who you are here the second you mature in a different reality, it is possible to fall in depression (or deepen it if it's your state already) if you've experienced something awful in a different reality, and that might make you feel like you've lost this version of yourself, but that's not the maturity speaking, that's the Negative experience you had affecting you.
Another thing to take into account- you age. Here, you age each year, the number on your identifications raises one number per year, you experience different things all the time, you gain more friends. And yes, it is possible to stop or slow down time or always return to the same moment you do (that's returning to a parallel of this reality from how much we "know" (theorize)). But at one moment, you're bound to get sick of it, you'll age and mature here too, you won't be 18 forever, aging is a beautiful thing, not something to fear.
I recommend doing shadowwork on the topic of the fear of aging if you think that it might trouble you, because you can work on that, your self concept and all of it, shake the stress off and leave yourself at ease.
and yes, if this is too complicated to understand, it is 100% possible to shift to DRS where your experiences don't mature you, you learn lessons- sure, but not the kind that make you harden your walls around yourself if you get what I mean.
(Also- apologies if this is hard to understand because of certain wording, I am still indeed awful at explaining things, and this is being actively made in a rush- I'm at work and keep in mind that this is how I view the topic, from my own personal experience with maturity and aging, so don't take anything as fact, as always!)
Take care, happy shifting!
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