Chronic Chaotic

Over 21, sad and not even rad, wishes to eat cheese in peace

[docholligay]

Possibly my spiciest take is that it's actually good to have people you respect and like that have some dogshit takes.

I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.

It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"

I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.

But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON

LET'S ALL GO PISS ON THE POOR

[mikkeneko]

[notaplaceofhonour]

It’s also good to assume you probably are the friend whose brain falls out 20% of the time.

We all have blind spots, assumptions, and dogshit take from time to time. They can’t all be winners.

[shiinayumi]

Remember its not just one person or friend, all of us have dog shit takes once awhile and its how we learn. People are so terrified of making mistakes theyre literally isolating the fuck out of themselves and being more miserable than if they just made the mistake once in awhile.

[addicted-to-love-and-also-drugs]

Also like.. having shit takes about something does not necessarily mean they can't have good takes on other things. I work at a cat rescue with a bunch of little old Catholic ladies and several of them are Trump supporters. They don't agree with a lot of what he says and does, but they are single issue voters. They vote against abortion. Period. End of information. And that is.... Not my opinion for sure! But they are not bad people because they have dogshit political takes.

They buy us presents for our birthdays and for Christmas (we are Jewish but it's still a nice gesture). They genuinely care about our lives (and our cat). They know full well we disagree politically and they really don't care. And they are so dedicated to cat rescue work! All of these old Catholic women with some of the worst political takes imaginable, have gone to insane lengths for cats. And they are legit the best rescue I have worked with. They care so much about all cats everywhere. They gave free cat blankets (that we were originally going to sell to raise money for the rescue) to another cat rescue because they had kittens coming and they needed them.

Their policies on adoption are truly some of the most kind and compassionate ones I have seen. Sometimes cats literally just hate something about a certain house, too much traffic, too many smells, whatever. Sometimes it just doesn't work for the cat and that is in no way the person's fault but SO MANY RESCUES punish you for giving a cat back and refuse to adopt to you ever again! The rule is in place for people who do this multiple times for no good reason, but the rescues often apply the policy regardless of circumstances. Our rescue lets you return a cat back to us and get another one and they use reasonable judgement to determine if the person is causing the issue.

Anyway, before this turns into a longer rant about cat rescues I have worked with, humans are complex and multifaceted and sometimes people are just going to believe utter garbage. But that does not mean you can't get something positive for yourself (and for the cat population of your local area) out of being their friend and spending time with them. Moral purity is impossible and everyone in the world is wrong about something. Go make friends with people who don't believe everything you believe.

[shiinayumi]

Yeeessss love everything about this 👏💖

[garlicbunny]

“ok lets do warm up sketch”

“oh..”

[thornethenorn]

[flork-of-cows-official]

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[gremlininho]

let me. innnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

[ankle-beez]

surprisingly forward-thinking of jim henson and co. to make a female character in the 70's that's allowed to be loud-mouthed and violent and kind of overwhelmingly romantic and even a huge bitch at times and not have a moment where any character asks her to change

[ankle-beez]

going through all the muppet movies in a row made me realize that like. miss piggy was made in the 70's. and it's so rare even today to have a character like her. she's loud, she's selfish, she's funny, she's extremely vain, she's obsessed with romance, she's violent, she's kind of annoying, and there's not a single moment in any of these films where she's asked to tone down any of these personality traits. i am not joking when i say that miss piggy might be one of the best treated female characters ever written

[amultitudeofyellowrodents]

you might be on to something, I've never heard Miss Piggy being called problematic either

[ethernalium]

Resident Evil 4 (2023)

[utah-mountain-drifter-deactivat]

[abysswarlock]

[northisnotup]

[brightlotusmoon]

Blue Lobster Cannabis Strain Information - GrowDiaries

Blue Lobster (selection of the originally released Facade by Chris Lynch while he was with the Compound Genetics) is an eye-catching cannabi

Okay but how did they decide to name it Blue Lobster when its parents are Apples And Bananas and Eye Candy? I must go research why weed strains get such odd names sometimes.

[gremlininho]

looking. at you

[thememedaddy]

[docholligay]

Possibly my spiciest take is that it's actually good to have people you respect and like that have some dogshit takes.

I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.

It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"

I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.

But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON

LET'S ALL GO PISS ON THE POOR

[mikkeneko]

[notaplaceofhonour]

It’s also good to assume you probably are the friend whose brain falls out 20% of the time.

We all have blind spots, assumptions, and dogshit take from time to time. They can’t all be winners.

[shiinayumi]

Remember its not just one person or friend, all of us have dog shit takes once awhile and its how we learn. People are so terrified of making mistakes theyre literally isolating the fuck out of themselves and being more miserable than if they just made the mistake once in awhile.

[clytemnestraaa]

one of my creative writing professors once said that to evaluate a work as good or not, first you ask what the work is attempting to do, and then you evaluate how well it does it. and this is how to judge everything from critical essays to romance novels to snack packaging to theory tracts.

[nonevahed]

[unsolicited-opinions]

If a doctor proposed banning all antibiotics but refused to answer "What about sepsis?", you'd rightly walk out of the room.

Of course the ideal should be a world without prisons. In a perfect utopian future, we would have no need for cages because we would have successfully dismantled the root causes of crime, poverty, and harm. But this smug, dismissive refusal to engage with the grittiest realities of human behavior helps absolutely nothing and actively works against her goals.

It treats a foundational question of public safety as a tiresome "gotcha" rather than a deeply legitimate human concern.

When activists retreat into pure idealism and dismiss the public's valid fears about violent crime as unworthy of a response, they don't look visionary. They look condescending, elitist, and entirely disconnected from the reality of human nature.

So I read the rest of this comic and more of her work.

The underlying logic of this deflection relies on a false dichotomy - the idea that if you dare to ask how an abolitionist world handles a rapist or a murderer, you must be a blanket defender of mass incarceration.

Over here in reality, you can fully recognize that our current justice system is deeply flawed, broken, and failing survivors, while still demanding to know what replaces the physical containment of dangerous individuals.

To frame a question about immediate physical safety as a structural roadblock is an intellectual bait-and-switch. It assumes that anyone asking for a practical plan just "doesn't get it," when in reality they just want to know how you plan to keep their loved ones safe.

The comics series "Who's Left" is garbage.

Here's how it dismisses people who lived through the communist (authoritarian) regimes of the 20gh century: by calling them old and xenophobic.

And here's how it defends those regimes:

Speaking as a lifelong left-leaning liberal: this is tankie bullshit and it deserves your contempt.

Idealism is great. Pretending idealism is a suitable replacement for realism or pragmatism is idiocy.

[stardustsideblogg]

I....

The reason it conjures images of gulags, bread lines, and violence is because those things actually happened. There are so many memoirs and histories about gulags out there. The comic is spitting in the face of the people who lived through that.

[unsolicited-opinions]

💯

[shiinayumi]

It spits in the face of gulag suvivors and survivors in general, like dismissing survivors fears of assault of any kind is so fucking egregious to begin with. Dismissing people who've gone through the worst types of harms, fears about it repeating to themselves as well others and then acting like "if we didnt have x thing in society we'd have a utopia but YOU are holding it up" is such an insidious form of victim blaming it begs the question of if people who do this are themselves responsible for egregious harm and want to not be punished for it. And of course that doesnt have to be the case and its also possible to just be that naive of humans and our functionalities, but there is a reason the phrase "thou dost protest to much" exists.

Not to mention the bullshit self righteousness of people like this who think they have the answers to the worlds vast problems if it werent for us pesky "other" humans getting in the way with "stupid questions like what about rapists". Like they get to feel good about themselves and boost their own ego for having an idea to help the people they think are the most down trodden while ignoring the other side of that equation, and doing absolutely no real work. Like i have never seen a prison abolitionist like this writer actually reach out to survivors to say hey let's work together to reform the system but also see what makes you feel safe etc no its all about them and their own bullshit ideas.

[magnetothemagnificent]

franz kafka’s writings are often analyzed in a trans lens the person who wrote that was almost definitely a trans person who related. people who call kafka a trans woman are almost entirely trans women. there is also a huge subset of literature shitposter girls who use kafka and the metamorphosis specifically to talk about their experiences with womanhood. so while i agree that the trope you are talking about is antisemitic i don’t think that applies here. he’s not being called a woman in a disparaging way.

It. Literally. Doesn't. Matter.

Spoiler alert: trans people can be antisemitic!

Franz Kafka was a real person who died not too long ago, and just because a trans person relates to his writings doesn't mean they can claim he's trans. It's not the same as relating to a fictional character. You can't 'headcanon' an actual person. I don't care how much you relate- he wasn't trans, don't call him a woman. He was an actual person, not a fictional character you can project on. An treating Franz Kafka like a fictional character you can project any label onto and separate him from his actual life is dehumanization and *also* antisemitic.

It's no different than queer people co-opting Anne Frank's memory and erasing her story to just herald her as a "bi icon" when she never had the chance to live long enough to label herself. Queer gentiles need to stop dehumanizing Jewish people and turning them into blank slates they can project onto.

Kafka's Metamorphosis and writings about his depression are from the viewpoint of a disabled Jewish man who was watching as antisemitism was slowly escalating around him and Jews were becoming insects in the minds of society. And "he's not being called a woman in a disparaging way" is the dumbest excuse ever- antisemitism is antisemitism. I've seen trans people infantilize Jewish men, calling them "different breed of man" or "scrunkly" and then insist they meant it positively. Intent doesn't matter. Calling a Jewish man, who never ever indicated having any gender identity otherwise, a woman, or implying he's somehow not a full man, is antisemitic.

[obi-waankenobi]

I hope I'm not derailing here (please tell me if I am and I'll delete this), but I'd like to especially call attention to this line (which I love, btw):

I don't care how much you relate- he wasn't trans, don't call him a woman.

At some point relatively recently, people seem to have come to the conclusion that you can't empathize with a character (or real fucking person, in this case, and I cannot stress how gross that is) unless you're just like them. "Oh, I, a nonbinary person can identify with this cishet man? He must actually be nonbinary!" "Oh, I, an autistic person, can identify with this Ambiguously Quirky™ person? She must actually be autistic!"

Being able to relate to a person--real or fictional--who isn't just like you is a good thing. It's good that you see yourself in the writings of a cisgender man! Maybe it will teach you that cis people aren't the enemy. It's good that an autistic character resonates with NT people! Maybe they'll gain new insight into their autistic friends and family!

It's called empathy, and it's so important to understand that you are going to see your experiences reflected in people who are unlike you. Those connections are important. Deciding that Kafka must be a trans woman because you're a trans woman is missing the entire fucking point. It means that you do, in fact, have some things in common with a cisgender man, and conversely, it means that cisgender men have things in common with you. To flatten them out so they're just like you is missing out on so much of what they have to say.

People are beautiful and rich and layered and the fact that we can connect with other people and share experiences despite how different we are? That's the whole fucking point. That's what makes life worth living.

OP, I'm sorry I only spoke on being transgender and autistic. Those are the only two points that I could speak on from experience. Talking about real people like they're fictional pisses me off, and I sort of... got off on a thing.

[terulakimban]

I'm not OP, but one thing that's frightening about this from a Jewish perspective (especially in the context of discussing someone who was alive in the interwar period) is the recurring idea that Jews only matter as lenses for other people's stories. That we can be empathized with, but only if our narratives can be twisted to someone else's.

Because we've seen that before. We see it very often because it's a fundamental premise of some incredibly antisemitic forms of Christianity, and when it turns out that we're real people with real opinions and real beliefs and real feelings who don't just exist to validate someone else's perception of who and how we could be, people don't just abandon their pretense at allyship, they get violent.

It's also a common failing in how the Holocaust is taught. People like to present this lens of "it was random violence that came out of nowhere and could've happened to anyone. It could've happened to you! Imagine if you'd been one of the victims! That would've been a tragedy wouldn't it?" And the thing is, that's bullshit. If you were just a random German citizen at the time? You would've been one of the perpetrators. And it was a tragedy in and of itself; it doesn't become a tragedy by imaging a scenario in which people who were perfectly safe would've actually been potentially in danger (never killed, of course, because Holocaust education is also commonly sanitized, which is a different rant).

Edited to take out a rant that was in drafts and got added to this by mistake, but. Well, the Tl;dr, since that's been reblogged

Well. I'm a cis woman. GNC, perhaps, but cis. And I get misgendered (and degendered) a lot because of how people read Jewish features. And... when friends insist that any discomfort I have with feminine stuff is because I'm an egg... I get that they're trying to be helpful for a journey of self-discovery. But I've done that introspection. I check in with myself periodically just in case. And "oh, you're really nonbinary/a trans man because you're [insert list of stereotypically Jewish features//personality traits commonly ascribed to Jews [whether or not I have them]" -it hurts. Because not only are they minimizing my actual identity and my self-knowledge, and deciding that they're the experts on my life, rather than me, they're doing it in a way that's constantly used to hurt me.

[theres-a-hole-in-my-wall]

another thing! Jewish men are (pretty often) seen as feminine/unmasculine and like they could never be 'true men'. In a lot of media they're the awkward nerds, the virgins, the weirdos. Point is this is not just misgendering anybody (which would be awful enough), this is misgendering a group that's known to be seen as less masculine than a white man for example

*this is a bit of derailing but it reminds me of how black men face the opposite issue of being seen as hyper masculine & in turn hyper violent. None of us can win in this racist ass society my g-d

[historysweeth3art]

I agree with all this but I don't think anyone ever said kafka was a trans woman, more that they interpreted Gregor samsa as one.

[magnetothemagnificent]

Nope. I have personally seen people call Franz Kafka a trans woman and refer to him in feminine terms.

[historysweeth3art]

Okay well that's just weird. I didn't think anyone would actually come to that consensus since it's just not true??

[magnetothemagnificent]

Antisemitism is a hell of a drug

[abislwise]

@historysweeth3art Trigger warning: antisemitism via the feminization of a Jewish cis male.

And these are just what I got by using the tumblr search feature. Imagine if I used something that worked.

[the-quasar-hero]

Incredibly fucked up that you have to clean the dust off of fans. You are a machine that creates wind; get your shit together.

[justanormalpersin]

This just makes me think of the why do walls get dusty they’re vertical act like it

[valtsv]

i'm like a fujoshi but for dead people

[valtsv]

if you could see the thread i'm hanging on by you would not say these things to me

[laterkiss]

i have this deadly sickness called remembering

[laterkiss]

don't even remember posting this