shit that i haven’t realized on time isn’t normal:
parent locking you in the bathroom so the guests wouldn’t see you in your pajama
parent taking off the door of your room to prove a point
parent telling you that everyone else is having it worse and that you should be grateful and lucky
parent continually acting like you’re stupid and when you confront them on all of the hurtful and insulting things they say, they answer “but it’s the truth”
being called animal names, slurs and insults on daily basis
parent looking away and pretending they have nothing to do with you while other parent is beating you, threatening you or having a rage tantrum
parent cutting up your favourite clothes when you throw it to wash
parent acting like things that happened haven’t happened at all
parent laughing at you “I never said that” when you get angry about horrible things they say about you
parent convincing you that you will never be independent or capable of living on your own
parent acting as if they regret ever having you
parent looking at you with intense hatred, annoyance and contempt
parent refusing to acknowledge anything you ever did for them
parent expecting you to put them before yourself and to worry about their problems, their issues and their emotional state when they would never do the same for you
parent talking to others about you as if they get to decide who you are and what you like, want, need or deserve
parent comparing you to other kids continually just to prove to you and others that you are worse than anyone else
parent comparing themselves to murderers, psychopaths and dictators to prove how they are in comparison just great people
parent lining up all horrible things that they could be doing to you that they are not doing to make you feel grateful they’re sparing you even worse torture
parent watching you being beaten, humiliated, abused and ridiculed, and then approaching you to tell you it’s all your fault, and to ask you if you really needed this and why you provoked it
parent acting as if any and all damage done to you is deserved and justified, no matter where it comes from
parent blaming you for everything bad that happens to you
parent refusing to give you the same affection your siblings receive
parent making sure that if they’re in pain, you’re in much more pain so you would react to defend them from pain in any situation
parent oversharing their problems to the point where you feel responsible for them, and for solving them, and would never even consider burdening them with your problems
parent praising your siblings and giving them money/things that you want and need right in front of you just to make you feel extra horrible
parent ignoring all of your signs of distress, ignoring your crying, your shutting yourself up in your room and refusing food, your unwillingness to open up to anyone, your cold attitude towards everyone in the family, and acting like everything is okay except you are spoiled and act like a child
