Shoshi-ism

Shoshiism are a series of lessons I have learned that I document for not only myself, but for others too. Let's do this life thing together. xoxox G.

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It’s NOT about you

Here’s a shoshiism that will save you lots of time and energy. 

We live in a very sensitive time right now. I can say that because I am a sensitive cheeky. It’s there though, and it’s obvious-- we have unfollowing, unfriending, blocking, missed calls--really harsh stuff...or is it?  Being someone who communicates a great deal with lots of people, I often found myself hurt if I didn’t get a call back or a birthday wish or even a hi back sometimes...it bled through in my friendships, relationships, professional relationships, and family ties. Was I not worth it? Did I not do enough to show that I deserve to be cared for? Where was MY attention and how come I was so good at giving it but not getting it? these questions were the NASCAR race happening in my head. it exhausted me, but then one day I sat in my friend’s jeep and we got to talking. He said words that I’ll never forget. 

It’s NOT about you. 

DING DING MOTHER TRUCKING DING 

Guys. 

we are all in the middle of life right now. Do you really think if your best friend of 8 years doesn’t love you anymore if she hasn't answered your phone call? let’s pay more attention here. Do you really think it has ANYTHING to do with you if someone is acting weird? We’re adults. We don’t have time to play these guessing games,  you should trust that your friends/family/significant other/boss are all mature enough to just talk to you if YOU are in fact the cause or root of a problem/issue. You have a voice too! if you suspect anything just ask them, but I guarantee you, 9 times out of 10 you will be looked at like you're crazy because it was never about YOU in the first place. We are conceited people, it is what it is. We think it’s all about us so we let blockages happen when they didn't need to happen at all. You know when people are like oh this is so awkward... YEAH IT’S REALLY NOT, YOU’RE JUST MAKING IT AWKWARD. Socially Media has completely made things personal without them being personal at all. How many times have you read a status and thought, “oh I wonder if thats about me?” get over it. Even if it is about you (which it’s prob not) get over it! we don’t have time for petty stuff people! We have dreams and goals to reach, we have people we need to help, we have life! 

So do yourself a favor and stop taking things so personally. It’s going to make everything so much better for you, I promise. 

xoxox G. 

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I’m Still Here!

Hi to whoever is reading this, 

I know I’ve been kind of M.I.A but I’d like to just think of it as me learning shoshiisms that kept me away for a while. I’ve had so much going on in my life and it all just seems crazy that I’m in my twenties. 20s! TWENTIES. so weird. It’s like new boxes to check off in doctors offices, updating information you thought would be the same at the DMV, sending resumes to employers with actual substance, and going on dates that require effort and planning. Adulting is the term. ADULT-ing, and let’s be honest, it kind of sucks in the best way ever. It’s so confusing. All of it. Do I keep going to school? Do I take a break? Why am I so broke if I just worked a 14 hour work shift? Who actually reads my things online? Does he remember my name? Should I just pretend I don’t remember his? James? Eric? I’m just going to smile and let him to the work on this one. I’m kind of wondering why I wasn’t told this when I was younger, that I would just be more confused later in life so chill for now. The lessons are endless though, I have to admit it. A lot of them start with the self. myself. yourself. Working life from the inside out. Being confident, understanding your own boundaries, and  keeping yourself happy even if that means sending a peace sign emoji to your crush that isn’t in to you (for reasons you’ll never understand because you’re honestly the best ever) It’s not all easy, but you have to make it that way because you get to construct your life. I never thought that was the case. I was always this person who wanted everyone to be good and level, but It’s like building a house with no tools. Sure, you could live in it, but you could also do so much better. Let people be mad at you, let them be mean, let them try to tear you down, just let it happen- it’s their energy. you just use yours for what you want. I’m learning that more and more every time I have to stand up for myself. I hope you learn it too. It’s important. We’re in the second week of October. I’m still here. I still love you. I’ll be more present. Go check out my next post, it’s a really important Shoshiism. xoxox G.  

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Diana

Hey Diana! I saw your post where you looked so cute on the beach and then I saw your caption about how stressed you've been and that's no fun! I stress out about things too, but I just want to let you know that you are more than capable of reaching every single goal you have! You are so sweet, smart, beautiful, kind and above everything else--you are the only Diana Geppert I know, therefore, I only have the image of a wonderful person in my mind. I think you're someone who doesn't give yourself enough credit sometimes and you need to realize that you are the BEES KNEES 🐝 you have so many people that love you and care about you 🌸💕 I am so happy you are taking this hump day in a positive way and just remember that you are one step closer every single day. Love you so much, have a wonderful rest of your week pretty girl!!! xoxox 🌸💕 G.

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Matt

Hiii Matt, It's been two days and you've popped into my head like four times during these two days. I think that means like subconsciously I miss you. I hope school is going well and that everything is okay in your personal life too even though I know it's been kind of hard on everyone what with Mario's passing and all. I personally have been just crying my eyes out, it's amazing my body is still making tears. I want to tell you that I really appreciate you for a lot of things. I feel like you are someone that I always have a great mental image of and I don't ever not smile when I think of you. You've always been really kind to me and it's really been incredible looking back at it all. I think you're really smart and aside from that- being at school I've realized that some people are absolutely horrible at being social and can't carry on a conversation at all, but you are SO good at it and you make people feel like you actually care and are listening. I hope this letter finds you at a good time because for whatever reason I had to write it to you right now hahah I have no idea if that's creepy or endearing but take it or leave it I guess hahah I know you probably have finals coming up so I just want to let you know that you've got this. YOU ARE MATT SILICH, YOU ARE AMAZING! So take a deep breath and kick some crazy academic ass! 🌸💕 see you soon Matt! Love you times ten xoxox G.

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Rest in Peace my wonderful friend. I love you. ❤️ Mario Mayorga

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Women who don't need a Man [or Woman] and why this is so.

Hiiiii🙋

If you noticed the photo I posted below this, you see a girl on a swing set and the swing next to her is empty, but she is swinging as high as she can and has her hair in her face while she’s enjoying an incredible view. The photo personally represented a display of what a woman’s life should look like (based on her choices and what she wants).

First thing I want to clear up is that not all women are sad to be single. It’s a bit of an annoyance to me when others believe that a woman who is single must not be happy. Just to break it down: Similarly to Men who love being Single-Women also love being single. Yes, there is Loneliness, intimacy cravings, and maybe some advice seeking that singles might desire sometimes, but women are perfectly capable of creating an incredible world for themselves, even if they don’t have a man or woman by their side.

Since I am Straight and can’t really speak about being in a homosexual relationship, I don’t want people to be discouraged from reading this because I believe it still serves to empower your minds and hopefully it will help people open up more and enjoy life.

Second, if you’ll back track with me for a moment, let’s talk about that photo I mentioned before. If I were to break it down I would say this.

1. The girl on the swing represents you THE WOMAN.

2. Where the girls is at in terms of height while on the swing represents THE HIGH THAT ALL OF US ARE WANTING TO ACHIEVE

3. The empty swing represents THE PERSON WHO WILL ALSO SWING NEXT TO YOU WHILE YOURE ALSO ACCOMPLISHING YOUR DREAMS

4. The View represents- YOUR OUTLOOK ON LIFE AND WHAT YOUR TAKING FROM THIS LIFE

So with these different things to consider, I would love it if Women started to look at the elements in their life in relation to this photo.

Maybe you are just discovering your swing and need to just focus on pumping your legs so you can get higher.

Maybe you are Single right now, and it’s possible you’re not happy about it. Try to think about how there’s only one swing there next to you, and it might be wise to let someone really worthy of enjoying that view to come along and Swing beside you.

Maybe your view right now isn’t what you want it to be, try to have an open mind, and be accepting of new things no matter how unfamiliar.

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Maybe you need to understand yourself more because with all the craziness that life throws at us, often we forget to actually make time to try and figure ourselves out. Who we were last year is not who we are this year. We are constantly changing, maybe be more aware of those things by hanging out uh yourself sometimes.

I am a firm believer in women and the strength that we possess. I believe that our main goal at this time is to work on building each other up because if we’re being honest- women tend to just tear each other down. This is extremely negative for two reasons:

A. Men are already constantly stepping on women every day and women also stepping on other women results in zero progression in terms of success for females.

B. Along with A, in order for women to progress and for this country to see more women in the senate or women in positions that are the same as men’s’ positions- women must come together in order to create a strong foundation for the women of future generations.

Women, our time is now, and out timing couldn’t be better (actually it could but now is better than never). I encourage you women to challenge yourselves but at the same time motivate yourselves. Criticize yourselves with honest judgements, but know that you must love yourself and stay positive in order to keep swinging. Recognize what Audrey Hepburn recognized: you have two hands, one for helping yourself, and one for helping others.

Have a wonderful week everyone! 🌸💕

xoxox G.❤️

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This photo belongs to aquamar-ine I believe, and I don't want to take her photo without citing it.

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Today's Shoshiism 💕🌸🌻

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Okay, so let's just talk about how sucky it feels when people decide to just walk out of your life...

I don’t know if you guys have ever experienced this, but one of the biggest things that bothers me is when people just decide to not be in communication with you anymore. I think it bothers me because 1. It’s usually a really sudden thing to happen 2. You don’t always see it coming 3. People don’t always have to justify themselves

With that said, I also have to add that although it sucks when that happens and it might even hurt, every time I’ve experienced this I’ve also always found a piece of myself in the process. It’s pretty cool, it’s like, “well you suck for being so mean and just leaving, but hey look! There’s my charisma I never knew I had before!” It’s pretty stellar. The only thing I could really say to paint this as a picture for you would be this: imagine someone is leaving (friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, parent, sibling, etc.) and they have their hands behind their back. Now imagine them walking away and dropping whatever was in their hands, and picture yourself picking it up and calling after them saying, “wait! You dropped this!” And only until you look down do you realize it’s actually something that belongs to you.

What would you do?!

You’ve just found a piece of YOU!

Here’s what I can tell you:

I would recommend you get to know this piece of you because there’s a reason why you found it when you did. People aren’t always the ones with all the answers, sometimes you know app the answers—you just don’t realize you do 🙈

Give yourself some “me” time, and instead of thinking about why someone isn’t in your life anymore- think about what their absence has added to your life and how you can better yourself.

Remember, taking something away always means that you’re also adding something new.

Stay Warm and Safe Everyone!

xoxox G 🌸💕

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I spent some of the toughest times locked up in my room. I had to figure out a way to create a better version of myself because for whatever reason, I just didn't really like me. I started writing positive notes to myself. Some were lyrics that really helped, and some were quotes that made me feel good about life and myself. It isn't much, but it made a world of a difference being able to see something positive on paper, maybe it'll help you guys too ☺️ @shoshiism #positivity 🌻💕🌸 #positivenotes Note: I've had these little notes for years. 🎈

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Today's Amazing Person #26

Tenae! (This girl is my homie fo' life) Tenae, I'm sure you already know most of this, but you are someone so so special. You possess this kindness in your heart that not many can match. You have the ability to create great moments even in the worst of times. You make me smile with little effort and I'd pick you calling me crazy before anyone else. I love you so much, you're not only a friend, you're someone I admire. You keep proving me and everyone else in this world that caring never reaches a maximum level, it's always limitless. Thank you for showing me that sometimes I have to decide what's best and to trust me judgement. I love you ❤️ xoxox G

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Sometimes we take a while to make decisions, and it's understandable because sometimes decisions can be really hard to make- but there is also something special about being able to finally decide. It shows growth and progression, you're becoming a better version of yourself. 🌻

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Disappointment is something that happens to all of us, but it isn't something that's meant to tear us down, it's meant to keep us going. 🌻 #Follow @shoshiism for your Daily Dose of Positivity! 🌻 #life #love #beach #self #disappointment #idea #open #mind #think #december #shoshiism 🌻

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Shoshiism: 🌻

Okay, I get it. The world isn't perfect. People don't always smile. Life doesn't always give you incredible moments. The answer isn't always "Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell." The whole reason behind Shoshiism from a general standpoint is, yes, it is all about positivity, but it is also these life lessons that I learn that maybe aren't the easiest lessons I've learned. I publicize them because I know that there could be a 2% chance that someone else is going through the same thing or maybe someone else could use the "heads up" from me. I put them on here because yes, it can get shitty sometimes, but it can also be so amazing that you have to remind yourself to breathe. Life has so much going on all at once and Shoshiism is all about discovering all those things that are going on and taking away little bits from each experience, good or bad. I encourage a positive outlook because I personally believe a positive outlook is key for accomplishments and essential for getting through the unbearable. Something I want you all to understand is that positivity doesn't mean having a big smile on your face all the time or saying hello to everyone you see. Positivity can be viewed in a lot of different ways, you just need to figure out what you're most comfortable with and roll with it. I'm planning on being more and more active with my Shoshiisms because they mean a lot to me and apparently a lot to certain individuals too-which is really kind 🌻 and kindness is my favorite. ❤️ I hope you all keep following my Shoshiisms and enjoy the concept of Shoshiism because honestly guys, you make it an incredible feeling anytime you spread your positivity! 🌻☺️ Love you, xoxox G