Ahhhhh, if you could just get them off your mind for two f*cking seconds. Seriously. Why is it that you cannot get that person off your mind when they aren’t any good for you? Well, I dunno. But what I do know is what we have all been through at some point. HEARTBREAK. Ewww. The tears. The overeating or lack thereof. Calling your friends venting. Listening to heartbreak music on repeat. And how could we can forget the social media stalking! Don’t lie! We all have been there. Our brains literally become addicted to love. The songs don’t lie. But when our hearts get broken, well…it hurts. 9/10 we’re left to pick up the pieces of who we are and rediscover ourselves without this person around. Talk about self discovery. Psshhh. It sucks. So the questions are, how do we heal? Find closure. Walk away freely to love again. Let’s get into it!
⭐️Step 1: cry it out, cuss it out, dance it out, sing it out. Get those feelings out. You need to. Trying to pretend that something doesn’t bother you and that your totally fine with someone leaving out of the blue isn’t healthy. But the trick is not to stay in this emotion for too long. Give yourself time to purge but then make the decision to stop. So if you have to pretend your in a music video crying your eyes out or blasting “good 4 you” at 3am in your headphones so no one will hear. DO IT!
⭐️Step 2: Don’t be afraid to think about what happened in the situation. Nothing feels better than ripping that band-aid off again right?! Well it good to remember why you had to walk away! But what if you got ghosted? This is where it get super complicated. You know the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me” well that’s true. If you haven’t done anything wrong to that person. It was them. And you can’t really question why, because if you do you won’t get answers and it’ll just send you more out of control. I was once told “it doesn’t matter why he chose the other girl” and I don’t understand it at that time. But truth is, it doesn’t matter why someone didn’t choose you. We all want to be loved. And we often times will place our self-worth in the other person we are dating. When those people don’t fulfill their end of the bargain, and we get hurt. Our image is broken. We don’t know who we are much anymore without them. This step is the hardest and the longest. It takes time and patience with ourselves. This is a hard lesson that only can be learned by YOU. no matter how much advice you get.
⭐️Step 3: Self-Care: So now that we have cried our eyes out and pushed everyone away. Let’s take it back to the basics. What do you like to do? Caring for you isn’t just hair, nails, clothes. Don’t get me wrong…when you look good, you definitely feel great! But the happiness comes from within. It’s the feeling after the club lights turn off. The silence. Find peace in your own energy. Laugh with yourself more. Take yourself out on dates! What makes YOU happy? Be so happy with yourself that whoever comes your way has to bring you something that you don’t give to yourself already. It’s okay to be alone! Sure, it’s nice to have someone at times, but there are a lot of perks to being single too!
⭐️Step 4: Sit back on your throne. Reclaim glory, peace, and love over your temple. Sit back. Relax. Smile. Because if they liked then they shoulda put a ring on it!
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