en pissant

don't be boring

[siliconetone]

I don't post pictures or identifying information directly to tumblr dot com because I dom real people and need to maintain some level of discretion lmao

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Ok apparently I need to update this but rules for messaging me directly especially as an untrained, wannabe submissive male (anonymous asks are fine but you still have to behave):

1. You will greet me, you will tell me your name, and wish me a good day.

2. You will shut the fuck up until I deign to respond. You can read my blog, you can leave polite comments, but that is it. Continuing to try to elicit a response will get you blocked.

3. You will not mention any of your kinks to me or solicit me in the first message. I will give you a warning because you're basically a brainless animal but if you break this rule again I will block you.

4. You will not beg for attention. You will not convince me to take you on as a sub because I don't do online-only domming and am not on here to search for submissives. This will get you blocked.

5. If you're unwilling to listen, come off your burner account, and move to alternate communications for any serious conversations, this will also get you blocked.

6. I am not your fucking mommy and I am not role-playing BDSM online. I am an actual adult with a real job who also likes to stick silicone in people's holes. Being a dom does not inherently make me a sex worker and you guys are very fucking weird about women.

7. I actually very much enjoy discussing kink, fetish, sex, etc. But I am not your instant gratification machine. It is a privilege to talk to me and be allowed in my space. Don't fuck it up.

[adwellingplacefordemons]

Jusepe de Ribera, The Martyrdom of Saint Andrew (detail), oil on canvas, 1628

[angelika555]

I need a man with a big wallet who also takes it up the ass for me 😪

[siliconetone]

put my little slut in a latex hood, tied him to the bed, stuck a fat vibe in his hole, slathered his dick with sildenafil, and then rode him until i got so hungry i almost passed out lmao

[neshamama]

sarah bernhardt, "self-portrait as a chimera," c.1880, bronze

[milksockets]

help

[gouged-doll]

[letmebegaytodd]

*walks around my house in a tank top and underwear like im the only playable woman in a david cage game*

[euclyptodis]

men have such one dimensional fantasies it makes porn so boring. there is a whole world of sensuality that doesn't even get touched on in porn because most porn caters to fantasies that don't allow for any personhood on the part of women or femininity. and anti-porn feminists were so misguided and i think honestly very misogynistic because all they did was throw hoes under the bus and honestly cower in fear of their own sexualities in my opinion. if we made porn in a way that did its best not to cater to patriarchy it could be incredible. but that would take a lot of money being in the hands of queer people and women who have decentered men. im so fucking bored and i want to have fun. in the sex work industry everyone has to dumb down their sexuality just because the source of money is boring ass loser men with fragile egos. even the subs are fragile as fuck.

[1anonyymous1]

this app is literally my public private place to talk to myself

[siliconetone]

Thanks for the answers! I guess what I really meant in my second question was how do you get over the fear of hurting somebody or pushing someone too far or even just like them having a bad time because? At least for me when I do engage in play whether it's as a dom or sub I want to make sure everyone is having a fun and pleasurable time and not being put bad spaces. I also guess now that I typed this out that a big part of this is just trust in your submissive or play partner to use safe words and trust them to know their own limits. If I'm missing nuance I'd love to hear your insight.

I could also see if this is just a fundamental difference in someone who lives the lifestyle is like a more baseline than someone like me who lives it when I can.

You get over your fear by educating yourself more and learning to communicate. Not just negotiating before you play (and assessing risk profiles and emergency plans), but learning to navigate negative outcomes in your scenes and dynamics (I also strongly recommend getting CPR and first aid training!). The question isn't "how do i never hurt someone or make them feel bad" but how will you react when you inevitably do and how you treat a play partner after. I will also add that it's in fact not a good idea to just take someone's word for it and trust they will always be able to make competent decisions when entering situations that alter their consciousness. Like how good are you at reading people and noticing signs of distress? Things like that.

[siliconetone]

1st of all your blog is really great

2nd this is more of a question about kink in general how did you find out you like to be dominant and how did you become confident in your dominance

I ask this one cause I like hearing peeps stories when they want to share and two maybe its because I am a switch but I at times find it hard to enact a dominant persona because I get in my own head to much

tbh the factors in me becoming a dominant are going to be completely divorced from anything a man understands via his lived experience. i hated being treated as if my natural lot in life was to be a submissive bangmaid to every guy trying to come at me. i completely reject it and do not enjoy being submissive ergo had to explore things i actually enjoy and what worked for me. this is basically something i've been doing for years now.

my initial interest was less in developing personal relationships with subs and more that i wanted to learn to be competent in certain social and technical skills: i just went out and did it as safely as i could, even when i didn't feel like i knew what the fuck i was doing. i also did research, went to workshops, and hung out at events to network and learn from other people directly. for me it is not just a temporary sexual role/only in the bedroom kinda play it is a lifestyle i'm fully interested in so i think that is also a big part of developing my "confidence".

[siliconetone]

hi. love reading your blog. if it's not too presumptuous to ask, do you have any where like kofi or throne we can send gifts?

just to be clear if you're planning on sending me anything it is a gift for enjoying my blog and not a bid for attention or anything transactional in nature. it's freely given and i owe you nothing. i have an account on both (under siliconetone) that i never got around to using properly but im not 100% sure what details become available to me if you send something from a personal account so, you know, use discretion.

[oldbutchdanielmolloy]

[witch-breaker]

[siliconetone]

tbh i used to feel weird about treating men like my servants but reparations or something

[siliconetone]

i have been on here too much today but rest assured i logged off, threw my sub around like a ragdoll, caged him and strapped a dildo to him, and then sat around in my pjs while he cooked me dinner