Small ways women can try to begin rejecting enforced femininity
1. Sit with you legs apart when it’s comfortable 2. Wear less make up, a little at a time 3. When dressing, try to prioritize practicality over aesthetics 4. Take larger bites of food if you are hungry and want to but otherwise wouldn’t for fear of being immodest 5. Order sides if you are hungry and otherwise wouldn’t for fear of embarrassment 6. Consider prioritizing eating breakfast over putting on make up/doing your hair 7. Try to stop asking yourself the question “Am I speaking too much/loudly?” because chances are you aren’t. 8. Consider removing less body hair 9. Consider talking more in class/at work if you can 10. Accept compliments when you receive them.
11. Try to talk more in the company of men, in general 12. Apologize only when the occasion requires it (i.e. not for just any situation where femininity requires you to be submissive/compliant/overly apologetic) 13. Consider wearing loose clothing (esp trousers) more often 14. Try not to question or doubt yourself in front of other people, i.e. don’t say things like “I might have this all wrong but…” or “I’m not sure but.. [opinion]” 15. If people interrupt you, say “I wasn’t finished” and continue with your point
All of the above points use language far too soft. Fuck that shit. Get some aggression into ya - this is a WAR for crying out loud. Anyway, 16. Don’t be afraid to respond violently when provoked. Yes, this means to beat the shit out of men when they dare attempt to harass/belittle/attack you. Put them in the fucking hospital, or worse if ya feel like it.
all of the above as well. i'll add these also: 17. don't back down when advocating for yourself
18. establish clear boundaries, and if people can't respect that (ESPECIALLY men), cut them off immediately. no second chances. they can (and will) do it again.
19. disregard anyone's opinion that you haven't asked for.
20. if someone disrespects you, tell them right away. g check these fools every damn time.
21. ignore anyone who claims your hobbies are "too masculine" or implies you shouldn't like something just because it's a male-dominated thing.
22. don't explain yourself to anyone. state your reasoning and leave it at that. they can kick rocks if they don't like it.
23. you don't owe anyone anything. if a guy takes you on a date, you don't have to sleep with him. shut that shit down immediately if you don't want to go home with him.
24. stop sparing men's feelings. if they do something you don't like, be brutally honest about it.
25. don't cave to heteronormative, allo expectations. if you don't want to date men, don't. if you don't want to sleep with them, don't. if you don't want to live with one, don't. if you don't ever want to get married and/or have children, don't. and don't attempt to justify those decisions to anyone. "no, i don't want to." is all the information someone needs to know - and even that would be a privilege.
