I just want being trans to be normal. not in a hyper assimilist way or anything, but I just want being a trans man to be like any other man! something I could mention and other people could and it'd just be whatever!!!! I wish trans women could just be like any other woman. I just want to stop feeling like I have to hide myself
So I have come to terms with being aroace but I should be starting hormones at the end of this month and the thing with hormones is that your sexuality can change and libido can increase. Because of this Iām scared that I will be allo once Iāve been on hormones for a while⦠had anyone else had this experience?
This is a helpful chart I cam across a while back. I feel like Iāve seen at least one other variant with aesthetic attraction on it as well; in any case, itās a tool, not a prescription.
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Libido may spike due to changing your hormones and getting that 2nd puberty rush, but that doesnāt have anything to do with your orientation.
A high libido without attraction is just untargeted horny. In my opinion and personal experience, knowing thatās what it is makes it way easier to deal with.
From what Iāve read, sexuality can shift over time in general. But whether or not HRT can cause that shift, Iāve not read anything conclusive. Iāve seen people who say their orientation did shift, but Iāve also seen people who say it remained the same.
I havenāt started HRT yet so I canāt report personal experience there. But my orientation has changed since coming to terms with being trans ā previously, and especially in the teenage years, I mistook gender envy for sexual attraction, and had a high libido helping mask it. After all, I was told that I was supposed to feel attraction and drive, so I assumed it was that. I was wrong, but more importantly so were all the people telling me what life is like.
If I ever get hormones, Iām only expecting that puberty-like libido spike again. And this time, Iāll know how to deal with it. (And if it does change, Iāll still known how to deal with it, because I know a lot more things than I did back then.)
Bodies are complicated pieces of biological machinery that we still have a lot to learn about.
So I have come to terms with being aroace but I should be starting hormones at the end of this month and the thing with hormones is that your sexuality can change and libido can increase. Because of this Iām scared that I will be allo once Iāve been on hormones for a while... had anyone else had this experience?
I've finally come to the conclusion that I would love to have a qpr. I crave for connection and a relationship with somebody but not romance. I want a partner to share my life with, go get groceries, buy an apartment, adopt a dog and all of those things but where do I even find that? How do I connect with people my age that way?
honestly donāt know why i agree to do things with my parents, im the only one itās never fun forā¦
my dad just introduced us to someone and referred to me as āmy daughter **deadname** she likes to be called skyeā This is an improvement to how he was before about my name change but it still feels really invalidating