Don’t You Want Me?

♡ My heart is forever yours ♡ Moved to: @godlyyandere https://soft-sickness.carrd.co/ poly/open relationships are a trigger for me so please don’t interact with the posts that have a banner on them, the rest is fine to interact with.

[soft-sickness]

This shitsite is so fucking judgemental about what men can/can’t do or be and it’s so fucking annoying. I’ve been seeing the yandere community shit talk men for using the yandere aesthetic to cope and it’s pathetic. Men, you CAN use the yandere aesthetic to cope. You do not need women’s permission to use healthy coping mechanisms. YOU ARE VALID AND I LOVE YOU.

[soft-sickness]

Anyway this is still valid and I still love you all 😪 idiots trying to complain about this post are irrelevant bc I’ll always be here for all of you 💕

[luckychant-deactivated20171213]

[ketzalcoatl]

[tokyoproxy]

by joohander 

[eliminated]

[softsickgod]

Love is soft, innocent, kind. Love is not forceful, cruel, secretive.

So darling, don’t let them force you into things you don’t want. You don’t have to have sex if you’re not ready. You don’t have to send nudes if you don’t want to. You don’t have to go out all the time or stay inside all the time. You’re allowed to have friends. You’re allowed to be yourself.

You deserve so much happiness and love in this world.

[soft-sickness]

i'm new here so i'm not sure if you've answered this before (sorry if you have) but why do you not want poly/open relationships to interact with your posts? no hate at all i'm just curious, if you're not comfortable with answering there's no pressure :)

Polyamory is an extremely big trigger for me due to 2 horribly abusive poly relationships I used to be in and a third poly relationship I was coerced into which turned into them taking advantage of my mental health and both of them threatening to not only post my naked body, but also leak my home address, my credit card information, my families locations, etc. if I tried to leave the relationship. Due to that, seeing those types of dynamics, especially interacting with my personal posts, causes me really intense flashbacks and then I get extremely paranoid that it’s those abusive people coming back to hurt me. I was in therapy for it to try and deal with the paranoia, flashbacks, fear, anger, etc but was unable to continue affording therapy once my daughter was born, so it’s a trigger I’m extremely unable to cope with currently. I don’t hate poly people, but the dynamic itself is horribly terrifying to me and it’s not something I can cope around currently. That’s about as much detail as I can go into without triggering myself. I know a lot of people are curious about this and I may go into better detail one day but please accept that for now, this is all I can handle saying.

[soft-sickness]

Whatever those awful anons say, what your going through is none of their business. They can suck an egg. I hope you have a good day.

Thank you so much❣️

[marshmalllovv]

[softsickgod]

There’s beauty in everything you do. The way you laugh, the way you smile, the way you simply exist. All of it is beautiful even if you can’t always see it. I truly hope that one day you see the beauty in yourself the way that others see it in you. You deserve to be happy with who you are; you deserve to love yourself.

[soft-sickness]

Hey please ignore those asks. You have your reasons and you don't own ANYONE an explanation about your triggers. Same with people complaining about the yandere tags in #bpd. Can y'all just learn to block. I hope you are doing okay, you're not alone and you are valid as fuck

Thank you so much. It’s just so frustrating that I can’t just say “it’s my biggest trigger” because then people practically demand to know the details of it and it’s like,,, they don’t have to explain their trauma to justify their triggers so why am I being forced to share my trauma? It’s fucked up 

[softsickgod]

You’re not a bad person for having boundaries. You’re not a bad person for telling someone no. You’re doing your best and learning how to take care of yourself. It’s okay to put yourself first. Self care isn’t selfish and you deserve happiness just like everyone else.

[soft-sickness]

Just wanted to say that i really appreciate your yandere post about supporting men within the community. I'm a girl and use it as a coping method too and i fucking hate it that some people jump the gun and assume that everyone who's into it are actually acting on the urges. No shit we know they're awful to act on. It's why we'd rather get it out here instead of act on it. Male yandere's are just as valid as the rest of us who use it to cope too.

All yanderes are valid as long as you control your actions!! 😌❣️

[soft-sickness]

(psst, your carrd link seems to be broken!)

I don’t use this acc often but thank you for letting me know! 

[soft-sickness]

may i ask why you're against polyam relationships??

I answered this in a previous ask!

[soft-sickness]

"i post abusive shit in mental health tags but people in healthy open relationships trigger me" either go see a therapist or go fuck yourself

Pay for my therapy and ill go lmao otherwise you can fuck yourself for being mad about my triggers due to extreme abuse 

[soft-sickness]

I’m not poly or anything but why don’t you want poly people interacting? Just wondering I don’t mean any offense!

I was in 2 extremely physically, mentally and sexually abusive poly relationships and a third poly relationship I was basically forced into and they threatened to leak my home address, my families addresses, my credit card info and more if I tried to leave. When poly ppl interact I get extremely paranoid that it’s those abusive ppl coming back to get me and it terrifies me