Am I Not Magnificent?

Brandon. Tall. IT. Dad. 31. NYC.

[estrella-fuego]

🍃🍂

[soletherapy]

I’d smash.

[gluten-free-pussy]

Does anybody else feel like the “Body Positive” movement kinda failed? Like i fell like all it did was attempt to widen the parameters of being considered “fuckable” rather than attack the concept of beauty actually being a necessity

[whatisdisdotcom]

YES THANK YOU. It still turned into something for the male gaze.

[natcritiquescartoons-deactivate]

Please remember the “body positive” movement was started by fat women for fat women

[soletherapy]

Was it? I thought it was supposed to be for all genders? Interesting to know this. Changes a lot.

[kenihana]

Women love so differently. I’ve come to the conclusion that the reason males never pick up on a woman’s interest is because we never do things explicitly. We don’t buy men flowers or offer to take them out. We invest, we bend over backwards and we’re patient, but to men that’s just a woman being a woman. A man is never going to realize you’re going the extra mile until you tell him or until you stop trying.

[soletherapy]

There is a post with even more notes than this going around saying that men need to stop thinking women are interested in them because they "invest" time and are nice. There's another that states that saying you "invest" time in women is an insult. Go. Fucking. Figure.

[candicekellyxo]

[sextmebitch]

Really wish I had a female I could bring home as my bestie, & fuck them on the DL 😩

[chocolate-thai]

seriously…

[soletherapy]

It's interesting how accepted this is. I saw a question that someone got where a guy said he had this setup with his friends and he got clowned like shit.

[arabwife]

stay away from people who constantly do things that bother you after you already addressed the situation, they don’t care

[goochie-mane]

When you ask for a pic of her booty hole for the very 1st time and she don’t judge ya nasty ass and just sends it

[britteryikes]

It’s real.

Women are typically intimidated by intelligent, popular, and attractive men. A lot of the time, a man’s confidence is offputting to a woman and she won’t speak to him without some type of hint from him confirming that she won’t be rejected. She’ll watch from a distance for a while. Like and reblog a few selfies here and there. Comment on a few posts. But never speak to the person directly. A man who expresses himself on an emotional level makes him seem more humble. Approachable. Caring.

All it takes is for the late night to roll around where this beautiful and broken man is awake with nothing but the thoughts that he can’t escape at night. When all of his mutuals are asleep and he doesn’t have any memes to reblog. Nobody to joke around with and keep his mind off his demons. He realizes his audience is slim to none and starts to expound upon the mental and emotional struggles that he’s dealing with. The lack of pride he has for who he is. His insecurities. His flaws. Things that he’s depressed about. Quietly to himself in his mind, but publicly. 

Women always see this as a way in. Catch him while he’s vulnerable. Offer an ear and try to use this as her angle to get closer to him. Completely disregarding the contents of his confessionals and compliment him on his writing style. Generically assure him that everything’s gonna be okay. Vent to him about her trials and insecurities to create a sense of closeness. Be wooed by his sound advice. Be proud that this beautiful man is speaking to her. Shower him with compliments. Try to be his hero so that her ulterior motives may be fulfilled - making him hers.

The man gets a sense of comfort from her. He knows he is in no place mentally to commit to her, as should she. But she tries anyway. He is elusive. He is beautiful and does not know it. He is a trophy that she wants to claim. She persists and he accepts all the love she gives. Love that is not necessarily earned. Love that is given for selfish reasons. Love with no foundation. Love without roots. Love that will never grow. And he cares for her. He does not love himself and her love makes him feel like he has purpose. Silences the demons for a while. Her love becomes an addiction. Her intentions are selfish. He affirms her. He admires her for loving him in ways that he can’t. He thinks she is special for seeing things in him that he can not see. Meanwhile, his issues are continuously ignored and he is never healed. She is merely a rug to cover his mess and she keeps shoving things beneath herself as to not be obstructed from her goal. To obtain him. Exclusively. 

This cycle continues. He continues to vent. New girls come along the same way she did. He extracts the same from them with nothing to give. She becomes upset because the position she thinks she worked for is being filled by new faces. She starts to argue with him. She starts to create conflict with him. She assumes ownership over him. Has she been led on? Perhaps. But why follow someone when you know the destination is not ideal for you? Why do you think you can manipulate a person into loving you when you know they don’t even love themselves? Why would you pursue exclusivity with a person who clearly just needs a friend? A person who needs help and advice and not compliments and nudes?

Her contentions push him away and she becomes emotionally violent. She starts to suck him dry of everything she’s ever filled him up with. She tells him all of the horrible things that he’s said about himself. She makes him feel low. She makes him her emotional punching bag. It’s easy to guilt someone who has never felt much for themselves anyway. It’s easy to drag someone who is elusive outside of his physical presence. It’s easy to make someone who nobody really knows on an intimate level out to be a monster. And a woman scorn will do it every time. 

She will tell the whole world that he’s a piece of shit who hurt her. And this may be so. But no one speaks on how this woman manipulated this man, exploited him for his company and affirmations, and then left him more broken than when she came just because she couldn’t get what she came for in the first place. Claim she thought he was different after everything falls apart when really she knew all along that he was struggling with something and ignored it to make herself feel better. These women use their hurt to invalidate his. Refer to his brokenness as a “manipulation tactic”. 

“Oh he didn’t really have these problems, he just blogged about having them to lure me in.” 

Because everyone is to blame for her hurt except for herself.

Sad boys, beware.

[jollylollylily]

I see aspects of myself in this and it had made me take a mirror and stare long and hard. Aspects, as in, I tend to attract men who are not emotionally available. I don’t seek them out, they find me. I know in my gut they aren’t but I pursue something anyway because being paid attention to and liked just feels good. Some men won’t let you know they are not emotionally available but it is readily apparent if you are paying attention.

I keep on going until I get tired of being the one who fell in love and the narrative in my head becomes “Why can’t I find a man who genuinely wants me?” instead of “Why do I keep on emotionally attaching myself to men who are clearly not emotionally available?”

It’s so intoxicating to want to be the fixer. The healer. The one who makes a person whole again. But…some people aren’t there yet and trying to push yourself and your agenda on them can be detrimental.

[britteryikes]

That’s really big of you. Wow.

[inkskinned]

i am sorry that someone out there made you distrust love. that they walked into your life and broke apart the most beautiful feeling there is. that now you don’t trust family, don’t trust friendship. that you live waiting for people to abandon you, that you leave early so they don’t leave you.

[kingjaffejoffer]

If the playoffs were seeded 1-16 instead of 1-8 east and west. It might look like this. [source]

[soletherapy]

Healthy Bucks team washes the floor with the Celtics.

[bombshellssonly]

[soletherapy]

I had no idea that boys that were raped by older women, who wind up getting pregnant, have to pay child support.

[porterr-robinson]

[marooxo-deactivated20221005]

Me & my followers

[7thblacksheep-deactivated201907]

SAME

[kingjaffejoffer]

I love when niggas doubt me. 

It gives me a fire that I’m unable to conjure up on my own. In a way, I need them. 

[soletherapy]

She said I shouldn't make faces. Smiles are boring.

[imsoshive]

You know what would be dope?

If Tumblr was a safe space for women to express their sexuality without niggas feeling like it’s an invite to harass them.

[mindoftheunkind]

It used to be like that until these new niggas came around ruing shit 😕

[soletherapy]

^^^^^

[scorpioenergiez-deactivated2021]

water signs’ anger almost always has a deeper reason. it might seem trivial to you, but there is a deeper meaning to what they’re mad at. they aren’t just mad you didn’t do something you were supposed to, they are mad because they feel like they can’t rely on you. they won’t outright say it, and it’s usually subconscious, but there are usually hidden feelings and thoughts behind their motives for being angry or upset.

[ascendingtojesus]

that’s so true omg