Some lessons that life taught me :
1. Stop seeking a grander meaning behind everything. Sometimes, that's just the way you confuse and disctract yourself from finding the true meaning of life. Complication does not mean advancement. The simpler you make your life is the easier you flow with it. Nature is so simple, and yet it is the most advanced, pure and divine. Keep it simple. Live in the moment, because here is where your life is. The past and the future are just extensions of the present moment. Make your life peaceful, easy, and fun. Know yourself enough to understand your own language. Don't let the world around you brainwash you into taking in goals and dreams that have nothing to do with your true heart's desires. Know yourself first, you'll spare yourself so much struggle this way. But always remember that it's simplicity that will lead you back to "yourself" because your self is your pure nature, and your pure nature is clear and simple to you.
2. Always take what resonnates and leave what doesn't. Not every "good" is "good for you". So also take these life-lessons I'm writing here with a grain of salt, all our lifepaths are different, and what worked for others wouldn't necessarily work for you. Know yourself though, it could be easier said than done perhaps, but it's one of the best things you can invest in.
3. Depend on yourself. Everyone has their own life and expecting of people to handle our life aside from theirs is non-realistic. Sometimes we just want to escape the need for feeling all that comes with dealing with our shit, and we keep projecting it on others and blaming them and expecting from them unconsciously thinking that it's unfair that they're not fixing our lives for us. That's wrong. I know you need love and so do I, but loving ourself first is the way to get there. We want to achieve that sense of fulfillment, we were willing to take action towards it, we just didn't know that it wasn't the right path to go in the direction that involved others in that sense. Afterall, all we needed was something that is our birthright. But now that we know what we want and we are willing to take action towards achieving it, we better take the right type of action since we surely don't want to waste our efforts. Provide for yourself the love that you need, it matters. In fact, it will unlock for yourself the reality that holds good relationships with others for you, where you give and receive love in the healthier manner.
4. It's not your task to fix others, especially if the effort of doing so breaks everything you've tried to build for yourself.
5. Just because people say something does not necessarily mean that they mean it. Alot of people are concerned with their image and they wouldn't mind telling a lie and even gaslighting you for the sake of it. Don't ignore the behavioural patterns, they're the true "words" that you need to know.
6. Just because someone is giving you love does not mean that you are obliged to receive it if it feels like shit for you to do so. Sometimes, what people think is good to give is not good for us to receive. It just feels off and it's totally okay, you're not a jerk, even though their intentions might seem to be pure. If it's not for you then it's not for you, even if they think that it's a good thing. Not everyone knows us enough to be able to decypher our true nature, and you're never under any obligation to be a people pleaser by being grateful for something that annoys you in the first place. Be kind, but be true, kindly.
7. Life flows. What could feel like a mountain of pain right now will feel like nothing someday. At the moment you feel pain, always remember that it's ephemeral... you are not stuck, even though it may feel like it. It's happened before and you got over it and you laughed again. You are never stuck in pain. The peaceful you is just some thoughts away.
8. Notice the patterns in your life. They hold the directions and the answers to all you need to know, to fix every little issue you may have, if you only chose to.
9. The best version of yourself is just some thoughts away. If you change your perspective, your thought patterns change, the way you view the world changes, the way you feel about yourself changes, what you give away your emotions to changes, the way you take action changes, the types of actions that you take changes, your whole outlook in life changes. When they say "everything is consciousness" I think this is really most of what they mean. We are all the same in our inner potential, all that is different between you and the most successful person in the world is that they know the way for them to get there. It's in the mind. That shit is available. Nourish your mind with worthy stuff, it can get you so far in life.
10. Resisting to learn from others is your ego's trick to kill you. The difference between death and life is that so long as you're alive you're still expanding. Always know that no matter how much you already know there is always more to know and that's a blessing. Expand, you'll do yourself good as such. It's not humbling to learn, it's rather majestic. Keep growing. You can always get bigger.
11. The illusion that comes with the desire of instant gratification can often be like a luring cup of the sweetest juice with two table spoons of tasteless poison. "What we do now echoes in eternity", and every action we take is a step ahead towards a direction that's decided by the quality of the taken action. The law of cause and effect does not stop in the immediate present moment. Know what you ultimately want from life, that feeling perhaps, or that goal, that state of being... and align your actions with it. Discipline is the way you channel your spirit into the structure of your life. Surrendering to your bodily desires comes with a price. Pamper yourself, yet be balanced.
©︎ soulfulroot
