marilou

I write to release, not to please. I'm tired of living inside my head so I'm blogging my way out.

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5W4 - THE ICONOCLAST (OBSERVER AND BOHEMIAN)

Being a 5w4 has always been particularly challenging for me in terms of belonging and having ties. I always found myself needing more space than most people around me and feeling bad I couldn’t be much less like this. There’s always going to be a point where too much is too much, where I need some (or a lot of) time off, where I need to go away, and where I might not come back. To say the least, this has even led me several times to question my right to exist. Quite often, parting is painful and I don’t want to hurt others. But sometimes it has to be done or I’ll be hurting myself too much - and I have to remind myself that I matter too. I tend to look up to and admire more committed and consistent types, such as the type 6, and wish I could be a bit more like them. So it’s not that I dislike that way of living; it’s that I’m not as able to live it. Gotta hope our bonds are strong enough to accept and survive our differences in this sense. This is only a personal reflection, however, and I’m only speaking for myself and for whoever else that might be able to relate. And all this being said, I’m still around… But as usual, I will keep often asking for and announcing short and long breaks.

[soundlesslyloud]

i can relate :(

[keys-and-doors]

[infj-misc]

I talk to God but the sky is empty

Sylvia Plath (via infj-misc)

He is everywhere. You just have to open your heart to let Him in.

[soundlesslyloud]

We could be together, you know. But, I bet, you didn’t even notice we're wearing matching outfits today.

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#introversion

[theliteraryjournals]

You see things. You keep quiet about them. And you understand.

Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower (via theliteraryjournals)

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Carl Jung On Why We Must Learn To Accept Ourselves First Before We Can Help Others

Bring your shadow tendencies into the light and you will be able to help others do the same.

Jung writes:

Neurosis is an inner cleavage — the state of being at war with oneself. Everything that accentuates this cleavage makes the patient worse, and everything that mitigates it tends to heal him. What drives people to war with themselves is the suspicion or the knowledge that they consist of two persons in opposition to one another. The conflict may be between the sensual and the spiritual man, or between the ego and the shadow. It is what Faust means when he says: “Two souls, alas, dwell in my breast apart.” A neurosis is a splitting of personality.

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HAPPINESS NEEDS SADNESS. SUCCESS NEEDS FAILURE. BENEVOLENCE NEEDS EVIL. LOVE NEEDS HATRED. VICTORY NEEDS DEFEAT. PLEASURE NEEDS PAIN. YOU MUST EXPERIENCE AND ACCEPT THE EXTREMES. BECAUSE IF THE CONTRAST IS LOST, YOU LOSE APPRECIATION; AND WHEN YOU LOSE APPRECIATION, YOU LOSE THE VALUE OF EVERYTHING.

PHILIPPOS

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7 Powerful Behaviors To Stop Absorbing Other People's Energy

Are you a sensitive person? How do you stop absorbing other people’s energy? How can you dispel negative energy?

This gave me so much clarity.

[infjlogic]

You know those folks who contact you ONLY when they need something? And then act all-caring about how you are and the whole while you are thinking ‘enough already - just tell me what you need’? I am surrounded by THOSE people, and it has dawned on me that my busy schedule has me turning into one of them.

Starting today, I will try to contact at least one person each day who I’ve not heard from lately just to say hello. Just to say, ‘Hey, I do not need anything - I’m just hoping you are doing well.’

[insecurely-infj]

I notice I make less personal posts when I’m feeling great but not perfect. I wonder if that’s because I’m just kind of happy in my little headzone, doing my thing. Then when I’m unhappy I gotta clear the headzone so I start vagueblogging, haha.

[soundlesslyloud]

True for me ☺

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I sense them looking, appreciating. But what’s the point of all these admiration if the one guy I want to lay his eyes on me doesn’t give me so much as a glance. 

[a-pale-fire]

If you want to overcome the whole world, overcome yourself.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, “Demons” (via a-pale-fire)

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🎶Polarize is taking your disguises, separating them, splitting them up from wrong and right. It's deciding where to die, and deciding when to fight.🎶

Twenty one pilots, Polarize

[typingispainintheass]

Strong Ni and purpose

Strong Ni comes with a huge sense of purpose. People with dom or aux Ni often feel like they’ve been born to achieve one specific goal. For NFJ’s this goal is people-related and for NTJ’s it has to do with their personal achievements.

They see their life as a mission they can either pass or fail.  When they pass they manage to bring something special and great to this world. Then again if they end up failing instead their lives have been for nothing.

This is the reason why strong Ni users tend to be internally intense. Just existing isn’t enough for them: they have work to do.