Alastor is a sex-repulsed asexual
Or why "aces can still have sex" is a shitty excuse for shippers to complitely disregard Alastor's identity
This post was inspired by these pictures with Alastor holding a poster with this statement, and me feeling pissed of by it.
(It's not about everyone who enjoys Alastor ships, it's about people who write him as allosexual and throw the "aces can have sex" as an excuse and to make YOU look like an aphobe when you try to address their mischaracterization. If you are an ace and explore your own identity through Alastor, or you are anyone, writing a ship while respecting his asexuality - you are cool)
Haven't re-read this, post can have stupid grammar or/and spelling mistakes and time inconsistencies, it's because english isn't my first language (this is for people who use mistakes in text as a valid reason for disregarding the point entirely).
First of, "aces can still have sex" - valid, and absolutely real statement, aces can do it and enjoy it. But it's not the case for Alastor specifically and i'm going to explain why.
Now, we all know, that Alastor is asexual (possibly aromantic, but that's whole another can of worms that we aren't gonna touch for now). And NO, it's not gonna change in season 3. "but Viv said-"
PLEASE use your eyes and brains to read and UNDERSTAND what she said. She never said anything about Alastor NOT being ace. She said that Alastor DOESN'T KNOW IT yet. Which is the most real ace experience, saying as a fellow ace. But how he can not know it? Easy.
When you're allosexual, any kind, you can understand it easily, because you have many examples of it in media and real life, choose anything you like. But asexuality isn't as visible, and it doesn't come to mind as easily as "am i gay/lesbian/pan/ect". So as ace you just don't understand, what's so appealing other people see in sex. It ranges from "yeah it's kinda nice, but why it's such a big deal" to "it's disgusting, how anyone can do it" (this is why representstion is important, and why Alastor being ace is such a big deal, and why we are fighting for him so much). And you assume one of these things: you are broken and there is something wrong with you; or you are special and this is your superpower; or you just hadn't found the right person yet. The last option is exactly Alastor's case. This is also something Viv has said in the past, that Alastor THINKS that he is a heterosexual, who hasn't found the right woman yet. And now, in season 3 Alastor will get to realisation, that he just doesn't need anyone.
With that out of the way, let's talk why Alastor is specifically sex-repulsed ace.
I'm not going to repeat once again all the arguments about his reactions to Angel's sex jokes, or how he's never anywhere near anything sexual in season 1, you've probably heard it before. Let's talk more about Alastor himself.
Now, we all know and hopefuly we all agree, that Alastor doesn't like when people touch him. This was a trait of his since i believe zoophobia times, where he was known to go to such extremes as breaking his own limbs to avoid being touched. Now, in the show we don't see much of him specifically avoiding touch, but he has expressed few times his annoyance from being touched. So this is prettry much still stands canon. And i believe in season 3 we'll see more of him avoiding physical touch, since he was couched QUITE A LOT while being Vox's captive. However, Alastor is mostly fine with touching people himself, and that's also totally real thing. Saying as someone who also doesn't like random touching, even from close relatives (and friend question mark i don't have friends irl).
And now, what does sexual activity involves? Right, A LOT of touching, everywhere, all the time. And, i guess, there are ways to minimize the touching, some kinky shit probably, there are still more problems.
Alastor is allergic to showing weakness. "But in season 2-" In season 2 he was PLAYING being weak and vulnerable, while still having Vox wrapped around his finger, knowing that Vox won't go too far with him.
And yes, lets address the bed scene in the room, that wasn't "too far" in Alastor's scale. As long as he wasn't involved physically. I'm not downplaying the fucked-uppness of the scene, and not saying that "it's ok" and that nothing bad happened, i'm just saying that this isn't something that would some how mess up Alastor. If anything he was just annoyed and tired. The only moment he got scared was when Vox got up from the bed, but then back to normal, when realised that Vox isn't gonna go physical.
In season 1, however, after being wounded, Alastor hid from everyone, making sure that no one would witness the moment of his fear and defeat. And even then, he very quickly collects himself, switching from being scared to being angry about this whole situation and already looking for solutions. And then, he's hiding the fact that he got hurt, he's trying to look as normal as he can, and even to Rosie he doesn't say that he's still wounded, he says "scars" which implies that he is healed.
Alastor hates to be vulnerable.
And back to the topic, to have sex, you have to expose your most vulnerable parts, and you have to trust your partner not to hurt you, not to take advantage of you.
And Alastor doesn't trust anyone but himself.
So, that being said, i absolutely believe that Alastor is sex-repulsed ace. He may consider it "with the right woman", "one day" as a very-VERY hypothetical scenario, but he most likely will never actually do it.
Alastor is romance-neutral aromantic
Alastor doesn't seek romance with anyone, he isn't suffering from not having a partner, and he is perfectly fine on his own. But he probably wouldn't mind having this kind of relationships and date someone, it's just he doesn't think that anyone is right and good enough for him.
Here. Felt like writing this post, because this has been stewing in my brain lately. I don't usually write stuff like this myself, but i haven't seen anyone expressing this take, so, here it goes
I actually have a lot of thoughts lately, that are hard to express through just art, so, i may write something else.
