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[thevirgodoll]

Do you have any idea how I can become spiritual or improve my spirituality? I've read the four agreements but I need more guidance. I don't know you, but I'm thankful that I have you. Thank you!

Doll Diaries: Spirituality

1. Start a journal.

I’m always telling you guys this in my advice tag but a journal has helped me so much becoming more aligned. I keep my thoughts, prayers, and my gratitude journal all in one notebook. This truly is key to becoming centered with oneself because you are focusing inward.

You must reflect on what has happened in your life and become introspective. Question yourself, question your life. Look within.

Pray for others, wish love and abundance for those you love.

Always write what you are grateful for every single day or at least have an alarm set at a specific time to make you stop what you are doing, close your eyes, breathe, and list five things you are grateful for.

2. Practice affirmations.

This is something I am a believer in. Affirmations will never steer you wrong because they speak to your truth.

Your affirmations must reflect your core personal values, and what you believe in. They have to reflect what reinforce your self worth and identity.

You actually say affirmations, and you may not even know it.

Negative: No matter what I do, nothing works out for me.

I am so fat, ugly, and stupid.

I always embarrass myself.

By thinking black and white statements, you are affirming something to be untrue. Sometimes, our thinking is impaired by mental illness. Affirmations have helped me in my cognitive impairment. Affirmations are essentially a declaration of your inner desires and what you wish to see in the world. You are manifesting an outcome.

Create your own positive affirmation with me.

* “I am” is typically the beginning due to its power and weight.(versus I will, or I don’t.)

* Affirm what you want — in present tense.

* Be very specific and concise.

* Include an action word (this can also replace I am).

* Include emotions.

Examples:

•I am attracting abundance into my life.

•Success effortlessly flows into my life.

•I am compassionate and forgiving; I release all beliefs that prevent me from expressing my highest self.

3. Develop your intuition.

Your intuition is the strongest force you can have. It is the subconscious. It is your guardian angel guiding you, step by step. It is your ancestors.

Always trust that your ancestors will give you a sign or a “knowing” about any situation. I am extremely intuitive and always know what to do because of my intuition.

In this day and age, we have instant gratification. What sets me apart is that I wait and read a situation before responding. I allow my angels/guides/ancestors to aid me in making an intuitively led decision. I trust myself, I trust the Spirit. Instead of searching desperately for an answer, I let it come to me.

Ask yourself: “What is this trying to teach me? What is God/my ancestors/etc trying to tell me?”

4. Inner Journey

You cannot aid a spiritual awakening until you begin to transform yourself inside and out. You have to examine what you need, personally. However, there is no way you can truly go on the journey without sacrificing the old to become the new.

A spiritually powerful person will

•Take the utmost care of themselves.

•Tune out unnecessary distractions.

•Help others.

•Learn to forgive.

•Practice patience.

•Be truthful.

•Be happy for others.

•Love themselves.

•Understand the power of now.

This is a journey you must be willing to embark on. Spirituality is from the inside out.

5. The Power of Now.

There is so much power in this very moment. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a book that will give you necessary tools to navigate your spiritual journey, especially if you are a person that feels like happiness never comes or you are enraptured in negative thoughts.

It is easy to be stuck on things that have happened in the past and have hurt you in the past. To truly move on, you must focus on what you can do in this present moment. You’re not saying your past doesn’t exist, you’re using your past as a model for how to handle the present. Focus on what is occurring right now, and the rest will fall into place. This is why meditation and yoga is popular as well with people, because it forces you to be present in this very moment.

The most precious thing in the world is this present moment.

Books:

The Power of Now

The Four Agreements

The Secret

The Alchemist

Movies:

Eat, Pray, Love — A woman travels the world and it changes her life. Learn everything with her. This is a life changing movie as you can learn crucial spirituality lessons without traveling physically.

The Secret — Basically the same as the book. This is the origin of Law of Attraction.

Avatar: James Cameron — as it questions morals and has a strong root in spirituality with the pantheism and environmentalism. Look at it from this angle and you will see the movie differently. It’s truly emotional and a work of art.

YouTube:

Super Soul Sunday: Oprah Winfrey

Yoga With Adriene

TedTalk: 1, 2

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[sexy-celestial]

2024 is:

Regular facials, manis, pedis, massages, Brazilian waxes, lash lifts. Glowing skin. Glowy makeup. Fluffy curls. Microshaded brows. Laser hair removal. Perfect Rx Skincare. Veneers. Intoxicating perfumes. Shopping. Diamonds. Designer bags. Credit card rewards. International travel. Networking. Career certifications. Investing more. Brunch with the girls. Picnics. Farmers markets. Art galleries. Museums. Fresh flowers. Silk scarves. Big sunglasses. Beautiful lingerie. Silk robes. Receiving lots of gifts. Lots of sunlight. Hot yoga. Nature hikes. Tennis lessons. Green smoothies. Candles that smell expensive. Sleeping 8+ hours a night. Bubble baths. Studying foreign languages. Absorbing as much knowledge as I can. Book clubs. Pottery classes. Cooking with fresh herbs, vegetables, and spice. Champagne. Charcuterie & bruschetta. Gelato. Fresh bread. Ocean air. Hugging my loved ones. Pet cat. Giving lots of gifts. Journaling. Meditating. Gratitude. Volunteering. Donating to charity. Manners. Etiquette. Charisma. Therapy. Healthy boundaries. Radical personal responsibility. Positivity. Self care. Abundant love.

[theambitiouswoman]

How to Stop Procrastinating by Managing Your Emotions

Procrastination happens when we delay doing things, and it's often connected to our emotions. Feelings like being afraid to fail, feeling worried or stressed, getting bored, or lacking motivation can all contribute to procrastination. To stop procrastinating and get more things done, it's important to learn how to handle our emotions better.

Boredom:

Break the task into smaller, more engaging sub-tasks.

Find ways to make the task more interesting or challenging.

Set a timer and work on the task for a specific amount of time, followed by a short break doing something enjoyable.

Feeling Overwhelmed:

Prioritize tasks and focus on one thing at a time.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable steps.

Delegate some parts of the task if possible or seek help from others.

Use tools like to-do lists or task management apps to stay organized.

Anxiety:

Practice deep breathing or mindfulness techniques to calm yourself.

Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with more positive and realistic ones.

Start with the easier or less intimidating aspects of the task to build momentum.

Set realistic expectations and remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes.

Self-Doubt:

Focus on past accomplishments and successes to boost your confidence.

Seek support or feedback from others to gain reassurance.

Remind yourself of your skills and capabilities to tackle the task.

Use positive affirmations to counteract negative self-talk.

Perfectionism:

Embrace the concept of "good enough" rather than seeking perfection.

Set realistic and achievable goals for each task.

Recognize that mistakes and imperfections are part of the learning process and growth.

Indecisiveness:

Break decisions into smaller steps and make one small decision at a time.

Set a time limit for making decisions to avoid overthinking.

Trust your instincts and make the best decision you can with the information available.

Apathy or Lack of Interest:

Find aspects of the task that align with your values or long-term goals.

Break the task into smaller, more manageable parts and focus on completing one at a time.

Reward yourself for completing the task to make it more appealing.

Stress or Burnout:

Practice stress-reduction techniques such as meditation, exercise, or spending time in nature.

Break tasks into smaller steps to reduce the feeling of overwhelm.

Prioritize self-care and take breaks to avoid burnout.

Feeling Uninspired or Creatively Blocked:

Engage in activities that stimulate creativity, such as brainstorming, mind mapping, or seeking inspiration from others' work.

Start with a simple and basic version of the task to get the creative juices flowing.

Collaborate with others or seek feedback to gain new perspectives.

Fear of Success:

Identify and challenge the negative beliefs or fears that may be holding you back.

Visualize the positive outcomes of completing the task successfully.

Focus on the benefits and personal growth that come with success.

Impatience:

Break long-term goals into smaller milestones to track progress.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and patient throughout the process.

Remind yourself that progress takes time and effort.

Lack of Confidence:

Celebrate your past accomplishments to boost your confidence.

Seek support and encouragement from friends, family, or mentors.

Focus on building specific skills related to the task to increase confidence.

Avoiding Discomfort:

Acknowledge that discomfort is a natural part of growth and improvement.

Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle the more challenging aspects gradually.

Remind yourself of the long-term benefits of facing discomfort.

Overestimating Future Motivation:

Practice discipline and commit to starting tasks even when motivation is low.

Set specific deadlines for tasks to create a sense of urgency.

Establish a routine that includes regular work on the task to build consistency.

[whoooooisthis]

the feminine urge to mourn lost cultures and empires. for your heart to ache every time you remember how many languages no longer have speakers, how many ruins are abandoned, how many people lived happy lives before you. to feel melancholy and longing every time you study history - of this world or another, even fictional. to want to play a role in history, but in the same time fear dying, passing, being forgotten like those thousands before you.

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[amargedom]

““Don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to make it logical; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.””

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The First Wives Club (1996) dir. Hugh Wilson

[fucklovepayme]

FuckLovePayMe’s New Year Resolutions: 2021

I don’t know how the COVID pandemic will affect 2021 but what I do know is what I want and desire out of life will still happen for me. The pandemic prevented me from completing some of my 2020 resolutions but that doesn’t mean I can’t achieve them this year. Writing New Year Resolutions may be outdated and tedious for some, but it’s a tradition of mine for 10+ years and it has never failed me. It reminds me of my goals and things I want out of my life, and I love to reflect back and see how far I came. Now let’s get started.

Take lessons in fencing, horseback riding, and golfing 

Have $50,000 in savings account

Rebrand provider business

Go on three vacations minimum

Find a higher-paying job

Pay off credit card debt

Volunteer More

Have generous and rich boyfriends and sponsors

Start a business

Make new bougie, affluent, and genuine (black) friends.

Spend less money

Participate in weekly yoga and pilates classes.

Live a completely luxurious lifestyle

Invest more

Pursue graduate school

[703302]

So obsessed with becoming a better woman. Physically, Mentally and Emotionally.

[camgirlsurvivalguide]

Oh my god so I just logged onto mfc for the first time! But I got so nervous that I logged off in like 10 minutes. I work on streamate usually so I'm not new to camming but I just freaked out. Has this ever happened to you? What do you tell yourself to calm down?

Girl this shit happens to me aaaaaall the time. Sometimes keeping myself busy in some way helps - whether I’m dancing, writing raffle tickets, even picking at the rug I sit on, lol. Having something in my hands (paddle, a drink, a toy of some sort) can help me feel less anxious too - but sometimes all you can do is wait for the feeling to pass, whether you manage to endure it while streaming or whether you log off to take a moment to yourself.

[camgirlsurvivalguide]

how do you deal with burnout??

This is a topic near and dear to my heart, because I have suffered from burnout severe enough that it more or less sidelined my entire life for eight or nine months.

It’s important to correctly identify burnout for what it is - a lack of boundary enforcement and an inadequate self care system that, over the course of time, allows external stress to completely break you down. It’s my responsibility to ensure I don’t burn out! I do this by staying firm on MY needs; I don’t respond to snaps or texts when I feel I need my time. I don’t engage in emotional demands or conversations with others when I feel it compromises my wellbeing. I don’t take on extra projects or shifts when I feel I can’t handle it. Beyond that, I engage in self care behaviours all the time; I love my skincare routine, I sleep early, I do little things daily that bring me peace and personal joy - stuff like that.

If you’ve reached burnout already, know that it takes time to recover. It isn’t a “weekend off” kind of fix situation. Be patient, be mindful, get external help if you can.

[camgirlsurvivalguide]

how to stop comparing yourself to other more successful models? it destroys my motivation because i never get tipped like that. i understand they probably work way harder and the problem lies within me. i hope im not the only one

I think we all fall victim to this from time to time. There are a few models out there - ones that I admire very much and totally respect - that absolutely KILL my self confidence when I observe them too closely. I get caught in these loops of “why not me?”, and then get short tempered/pissy/disinterested in my own success… not a fun cycle.

My advice is to stay in your lane. I know it’s tough not to keep an eye out on what others are doing, but the only measure of success you can actually be productive with is YOU versus YOURSELF. A good friend of mine encouraged me to “try to do 1% better than yesterday”, instead of comparing myself to others (or even comparing myself to my own best days). You’re not alone and I think this situation is quite normal; that said, it’s up to you to pull up and focus on what really matters.

[camgirlsurvivalguide]

I know you've mentioned that part of being a successful non-explicit model is connecting with members in emotional ways, and being there for them. Like thru social and stuff. My question is, how do you juggle it all? With your success, school, and a relationship? I started camming a few months ago and feel this HUGE obligation and desire to be chatty and fulfilling in that way with those who support me but it's a lot to keep track of and keep up on. It honestly feels like a rat race. Howww? <3

You’re hitting the nail on the head, here - it is a rat race. Camming on it’s own is a full time job, and one that requires a certain degree of obsession to succeed with. I’m not going to sugar coat things: I’m incredibly stressed out most of the time. My personality is a little dysfunctional, I think - I load a shit ton onto my plate and either burn out while desperately attempting to finish everything, or crumble into unhealthy coping behaviours in response to the crippling pressure that *I* put onto *myself*, for no real good reason other than this is what I’m used to. I share my successes because I’m proud of what I accomplish, but a lot of what goes on behind the scenes isn’t pretty nor “balanced”.

The women in my household operate in line with this old wives tale that goes, “If you throw the baby in, the baby will swim.” The idea is that being chucked into sink-or-swim situations will trigger the natural response to swim and save yourself - and for the most part, I find this to be true. While my natural inclination may be to bite off more than I can chew, in having done so for so many years, I’ve now come to realize some strategies on how best to manage this practice. I sort of mentioned this in a recent ask-response, but generally they’re as follows:

1. Be in tune with your own needs. You have to come first. Yes, it’s great to support people and to help others, but it’s pointless to be a martyr - you come first. Learn to recognize what stress, fatigue and burnout feel like, and address those signals EARLIER rather than later. 

2. Figure out what self care actually works for you, and then do the fucking thing. Like, daily - not just when you’re in crisis. Do you feel better when you’ve had some fresh air? Then factor in time for a walk around the neighbourhood no matter how busy you are. Do you feel better after a good meal? Then don’t fucking skip breakfast because you “don’t have time”. If you base your external responsibilities (work, school, social) around your INTERNAL responsibilities (self care, sleep, exercise, nutrition) then you’ll do a far better job than if you tried to do things the other way around. 

3. Figure out your boundaries and STICK TO THEM. If you don’t feel good replying to people’s messages late into the night because you want to focus on netflix, don’t reply. If you don’t like PMing people while you’re online, then don’t reply. If you feel better waking up in the morning without distraction, then don’t check your social media first thing. If you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile - this is just how things work in industries where other people are coming to you for something they cannot/don’t provide for themselves. Whatever your rules are, stick to them, and force others to respect them, too. For me, this includes having the people in my IRL life respect my job, not just my online friends respecting my IRL life; my partner and friends used to like to believe that because I “make my own schedule”, I’d be available to do whatever and could cancel or shift work around if I felt like it. I let this slide for such a long time even though I hated changing my work plans last minute to accommodate what my friends wanted to do. Now I stick to my guns about work, other people respect those boundaries, and I do better both online and socially.

Tl;dr - camming is fucking intense and I think being fucking intense probably helps, it just takes time to figure out how to be intense without driving yourself into the ground. 

[camgirlsurvivalguide]

Do you feel like camming is addictive in some way? I've heard other cam girls mention this, and it's just an interesting idea.

I think so, yeah. It’s a bit like gambling in a certain sense, except instead of investing money to Win It Big, you’re investing time and personal risk. Making large sums of money can be very addictive but I think more-so than general financially driven greed, camming can produce something similar to gold rush hope - the idea that if you just stick it out a little longer, you’ll find that whale and strike it rich. For some, chasing this hope can lead to missed opportunities or irresponsible behaviour outside of camming, like refraining from seeking supplementary employment despite needing the money. I think it can be very difficult to step away from for those who have achieved success at some point or another because nothing will be quite the same as this job, and accepting that is … tough.

So yeah, I agree with you.

[camgirlsurvivalguide]

How do you separate your personal life from your cam girl life?

I feel like I keep saying “enforcing boundaries” on the blog today, lol, but the answer to this question is definitely “enforcing boundaries”. It’s just basic respect I think. When I’m on cam, I’m there to entertain my viewers and provide a fun environment for them to relax and feel good about themselves, so providing explicit details about my personal life is rarely my first priority. Sure, people may know what’s going on generally with me, and if something big happens I may choose to share, but for the most part, that’s not what I’m there to do.

When I’m off cam and spending time with my friends or family, my job isn’t my focus. I may take a few snapchats or reply to a couple tweets, but I like to keep my phone out of sight as much as I can and just focus on what I’m doing in that moment.

I can’t be happy with one foot in and one foot out; being completely present, whether I’m working or taking time off, is important for my wellbeing, so I do the best I can to achieve that.