I want to make something very clear: Iâm open to talking about all kinds of topicsâsex, relationships, dynamics, you name it. Nothing is off-limits as long as you approach me with respect and maturity.
That said, Iâve been getting some truly disgusting and disrespectful asks lately, and I wonât tolerate it. If you come into my inbox acting like a creepâasking about specific sex acts in a gross way, crossing personal boundaries, or asking for photographsâI will block you without hesitation. Go touch some grass and reflect on how you interact with people.
For the record, I donât believe in blanket misogyny, and I certainly donât believe women should submit to men just because theyâre male. Submission is earnedâitâs given to someone whoâs worth it. I recently answered a lovely ask about this, and Iâm always happy to engage in thoughtful, respectful conversations.
But if you canât treat other people with basic decency, youâll never have anything close to what my husband hasâbecause you havenât learned how to interact like an actual human being. No one is going to submit to you, give you affection, or even take you seriously if you come off as disgusting, disrespectful, or entitled.
Submission isnât something you can demand. It isnât something you can bully or manipulate someone into giving. Itâs earned. It comes from being the kind of person who inspires trust, safety, and genuine desireânot the kind of person who skulks into inboxes with gross questions and zero self-awareness. My husband gets what he gets because heâs someone worth giving it to. Heâs loving, patient, attentive, and secure in himself.
If you think you can skip the work it takes to be that kind of personâif you think you can demand submission while offering nothing in return but entitlement and garbage behaviorâyouâre in for a long, lonely life. Because no one is going to look at you and think, thatâs someone I can trust to take care of me. And if you canât inspire that kind of trust, youâre never going to get what you so clearly think you deserve.
To everyone else: I appreciate the thoughtful questions and discussions that come my way. Keep them comingâI love hearing from you, and Iâm happy to share and connect, so long as youâre respectful.